Mumsnet “norms” that annoy you most

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For me it’s the utterly obscure baby names. We’ve all seen them and I’m quite sure nobody uses them in real life. Yet on MN, it’s apparently standard.

Honourable mention to the 50% of posters whose husbands are earning upwards of £100K too.

Mine would be 'charity baby bag thief, Guarda Olaf, and don’t go to the shop for milk, use cheese!’

Thank you! To be clear, we were seriously dating at the time. I think he was pretty insecure back but he's done amazing over the years. Also I had known him a while before dating, and other people in the friend group had known him longer and vouched for his character.

It's not like some guy I'd been on two dates with wanted to stalk me. That would be fast nope out.

We both use and benefit from the app and it's never been an issue of anything between us.

So many seem to have a lack of understanding that it’s entirely normal that more dramatic things are commonly discussed on here. I don’t understand the “everyone I know gets on fine with their MIL/DIL/neighbour, yet on here no one does” moans. It’s like a real lack of critical thinking.

Who is going to take the time to post online saying “Mil and I get on fine. Not besties, but chit chat. She’s lovely with my kids. Doesn’t criticise or overstep. We’re both happy with how often we see each other. No drama”.

It’s just normal that it’s the people having an issue that post.

I have 6 kids. The two I have posted about most have serious health issues. That’s just understandable. It would be downright odd to come on posting “DS2 gets up every day wuth a bit of a grumble, goes to school, has a nice bunch of mates, doesn’t like homework but does it. Wish he didn’t use so much ketchup, but he always does his chores as he uses his pocket money to save for Lego”. It would be boring.

Goodness me @ReneBumsWombats and @MegIsWhite Meg put a lid on it!!!

Don't know why there is an extra Meg there sorry.
That's something that I hate - no damn edit button. Even if the original post was left and then another one amended and posted below.

Hey @marzipansux you're too late. It's over 😇 😃

I agree I hate that there's no edit button. Even 15 seconds would help.

People saying 'it's the school holidays!' when a suspected troll thread pops up! Where does this stupid myth come from? Seriously, why the fuck would SCHOOLKIDS be trolling mumsnet?! 😂

Misogyny. Misogyny. Misogyny.

Sometimes someone who happens to be a woman does something twattish and it would be twattish if they were a man. Even worse is the accusation of internalised misogyny, where the poster is accused of being too stupid to even know that she hates women because she has an opinion about a woman. I feel like it's used as a slur to shut women up. The irony.

SAHM with older children at school , they are housewives really. MN will say they sacrificed their career most never had one and it was always the aim to marry and not work . If a husband didn't work once kids were school age the pitchforks would come out.

I have a history of sexual trauma. I absolutely did not want to go for a smear my last one was clear completely normal things can't have changed much in 3 years and I hated it. I ended up going because of a magazine article. I had CIN 3 severe abnormalities so last stage before the big C in 3 years. I had to have colposcopy , biopsy and cells burnt off . The smear threads should be closed if I would have listened to some MNers I might now be battling cancer which is much more invasive than a smear.

What I detest on here is how it’s become the norm to dish out pure hatred towards sahms. Not to mention regular sneering and derision.

I don’t believe there is anything intrinsically wrong with being a housewife either if that is what works for an individual couple and the woman has her pension contributions and insurance topped up. There are lots of situations where it might be the right decision for a family.

I’ve worked ft and pt but at one point I became a sahm to focus on teens, so I am the very lowest of the low. 😃

Btw me and those of my friends who became sahms, all had careers previously; I literally do not know anyone who didn’t, so don’t know what you are talking about there Fifi1010 unless you mix with a load of rich people. Not all of us worked for blue chip companies but we had decent jobs and professions. I can list them if you want?

And I disagree that the pitchforks would be out for a man who was part of a couple where the women was a very high earner, if he committed himself seriously to staying at home and doing all the jobs involved in looking after a family. Because that would be sexist surely?

What I detest on here is how it’s become the norm to dish out pure hatred towards sahms.

Oh, please. Dial down the hyperbole.

I agree @Swirlingcurlish I do think SAHMs get a rough time on here. I wish we could be more tolerant of each other's choices. When I was a SAHM, I was also a landlord (that's how I could afford it), so I really was the lowest of the low according to Mumsnet!

And then in a divorce they want more than half because of the golden career that they have up...

When someone comes onto Mumsnet to ask some suggestions for some activities to do at their church, and the pitchforks come out with the usual references to their Sky Daddy, how God is a narcissist and they'd much rather hang out with satanists as the devil is actually more loving. The level of vitriol against religion is strange. I'm a Christian with a wide circle of friends from different belief systems, including hard-core atheists, and we all manage to get along fine. I read recently on mumsnet that someone said that she wouldn't want her daughter to be friends with a Christian. I'm raising my children in the faith and am good friends with some of the parents, none of whom are Christian. My son's best friend is Muslim and one of my good 'mum' friends is Buddhist. Such a weird thing to say.

I.agree I was brought up.as Catholic but I'm agnostic these days ,,but I respect other people's beliefs ,some posters can be incredibly rude about religion .

Same. You’d never think faith was a protected characteristic, would you? I have no religion whatsoever but I’m absolutely appalled at the bile some people pour out about it.

Faith isn't a protected characteristic

The right to practice religion is

Does that make mocking people for their religion acceptable then?

Pedants’ corner is that way ➡️

@Blossomtoes

Yeah I think so. Lots of religious beliefs are nonsense.

It's OK to say so. I dont have to respect religion any more than I have to respect conspiracy theories

And its important to recognise the difference between belief being a protected characteristic and the right to hold a belief. Not pedantry

It's 'a thing' apparently. I was reading another forum and a couple of posters said they trolled MN when they were teens. One of them said all her friends were doing it at that time.

It's OK to say so.

It isn’t. It’s rude, disrespectful and unnecessary. Sometimes it’s better just to keep your gob shut.

Sometimes bit not always

If someone is saying gay people will go to hell why should I keep my gob shut?

Or that men should be the Head of the household

Or that having an abortion is a sin.

Or that women who don't cover their hair are sluts?

It's just twattish. I don't believe in God but I'd be a complete asshole if I went onto a thread about church services or activities to say "nur nur you dumb shit believing in God".

Endless posts by the OP. Hugely complicated family drama that you have to get your head around. The they say at the bottom “sorry if I’ve been too longwinded/thanks for staying with me so far”

Lol.. swipe left..