Mumsnet “norms” that annoy you most

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For me it’s the utterly obscure baby names. We’ve all seen them and I’m quite sure nobody uses them in real life. Yet on MN, it’s apparently standard.

Honourable mention to the 50% of posters whose husbands are earning upwards of £100K too.

That looks like I was replying to myself sorry, it was to a pp

Nope. Why are you suggesting that it's a scenario when there are lots of people in a room when there's an unexpected knock on the door?

I doubt that happens often. With texts, WhatsApp and other social media available to friends and family and amazon and other delivery companies giving live updates I don't think it's very common that there's an unexpected knock on the door?

Where do you live that it's common for a stranger to knock at the door and that it would be someone welcomed so shouldn't be missed?

Do you and all your friends also answer any unknown caller on your 'phones?

Partner snoring?
The mumsnet response is, “get them to sleep in the spare room” or “you should sleep in the spare room.”

Erm, what spare room? We’re two adults and one teenager in a two bedroom flat. We can’t be the only ones who haven’t made it up the property ladder to a house. See also: gardens.

The point wasn’t that this person thought the affair was somehow justified - she was saying it never actually happened.

I don’t know why you’re throwing in all this stuff about it affecting the settlement or child access. Neither I or anyone else suggested it did. It’s still grounds for divorce.

@Chinchinchoroo I'm in Scotland and as I've says find it very unusual that people don't answer their door.

This annoys me too. When someone says 'I totally agree with you Sharon!' and doesn't quote what she said, OR say when she said it (what time - and day.)

So you have to scroll back pages and pages to find Sharon's post that the poster was referring to. Sooooooo annoying. If you can't be arsed to quote what Sharon said, at least tell us when she said it, so we have a look at what the F you are referring to!!!

See also: gardens.

Oh yes “the car” and “the garden”. There’s never a consideration that someone might not possess either.

If anyone does acknowledge that not everyone has a garden, the assumption is they are poverty-stricken. Tell that to half of London!

It might be my mother in law trying to give back my child that i dumped on her doorstep expecting free childcare for the week.

🤣🤣🤣

Because when a poster refers to one of their threads and the fact that many posters unreasonably didn’t agree with them…. It makes me 🤔 !

Which is one of those 'people are different' things and not 'it's very unusual that someone wouldn't answer their door' when no-one is expected.

As I said, would you answer your 'phone to any unknown caller? Fine if you do but also not unusual that other people don't. There's very little reason to in the modern tech age and all the "could be a fire" reasons don't apply when you're sat in your home able to see nothings on fire and the person knocking on the door is 99% of the time going to be someone telling you something you don't want to know. About Jesus or the neighbours.

Oh yeah that's another 1

Grown adults being afraid of speaking on a phone

No one contacts or gets in touch. Instead they reach out - shudder.

That still doesn’t answer a) why someone would say I’d invented an affair when there was legal proof and b) why you’d come up with this bizarre nonsense about adultery not being relevant to a divorce.

The never ending use of the term "Narcissist"...anyone who has done anything unpleasant to anyone is by default a "Narcissist" and don't get me started on "gaslighting", it's as if some people feel they won't be taken seriously if more pedestrian terms are used to describe their issue with someone.

I agree. I also don’t get the “How on earth do you ever get a delivery?!” comments that inevitably follow on these threads. If you’ve ordered a delivery, you’re expecting someone, aren’t you? The whole point is that some people don’t answer the door when it’s unexpected!

@Liorae

100% true. So much bullshit on Mumsnet about how easy it was. For middle class children it was. For those of us who struggled from the working class not so much.

Yes true, the most hard done by WERE the working classes ...

'Generation X working class' people especially, were the most fucked over generation IMO. (And still are in many ways.)

@Tessisme

Completely relate to all of your posts DannyZukosSmile. (at 9,46am today,.) Radio rentals anyone?

Ooooh, yeah I remember them. My folks used them. Me and DH used Granada Rentals in the early 1990s, and also 'Martin Dawes...' We started buying TVs and video recorders later on (circa late 1990s,) when it became a bit cheaper to buy them, than it was to rent them long term.

Back in the olden days (1970s,) my parents actually used to rent a TV, and they put 10p in a slot at the back every few hours (depending on how much the TV was on obviously.) So, like you get a prepayment electric or gas meter, you used get prepayment TVs too! A kind of olden days 'pay as you go!!!'

I didn’t say it’s common for people to knock on the door. I said I disagree with your comment that it’s common for people to ignore their door knocking. Most people I know would simply answer the door if they were capable of doing it.

And, yes. If my phone rings and it’s an unknown number I’d still answer it. If it was a spam call or someone I didn’t know I’d say ‘wrong number’ and hang up.

I was responding to your comment that it’s ‘not unusual’ for people to ignore the door if they do not have notice that someone might knock on the door. I would say (in my experience) that it is unusual, and that most people open the door if they’re home and able to do so.

If you're over the age of 50 and are either a) in hospital, for whatever reason, taking up a bed, or b) have more than 1 square foot in your property than you actually need, then why on earth haven't you booked yourself into Dignitas how could you be so selfish there's a younger more deserving generation in need of your property and hospital bed!

So on the thread that you started that you were pissed off with… was it one poster or was it many posters?

Legal proof of an affair?

what does that look like?

@DannyZukosSmile

You've reminded me that we once stayed in a guesthouse in Dover where you had to keep putting a pound coin in the TV. This was the 90s - we were trying to watch Between the Lines!

Not been on MN long then?

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