Mumsnet “norms” that annoy you most

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For me it’s the utterly obscure baby names. We’ve all seen them and I’m quite sure nobody uses them in real life. Yet on MN, it’s apparently standard.

Honourable mention to the 50% of posters whose husbands are earning upwards of £100K too.

A divorce granted on the grounds of adultery.

weird!

so you referred to your cousins divorce on the grounds of adultery

and a poster claimed to know that this was untrue?

i thought your pet peev was people flipping scenario to “if it was a man” and I’m trying to connect the two points!

Christ, you must be so fucking bored @Villssev.

She claimed that I couldn’t possibly know the affair had really happened and that my cousin had obviously invented it to discredit his now ex-wife.

I am, full of cold and curled up on sofa watching my son play Xbox!

When Mumsnetters suggest that the new wife needs to move house to a bigger one with her husband so the stepchildren who are adults have a bedroom despite only likely to stay twice a year or never

That was quite a leap!
So her point was that the cousin was lying to you about the grounds for divorce

got it

This

It’s really very simple. If I’d posted about a female family member whose husband cheated on her, he’d have been universally condemned. Because my male family member was the one badly treated, more than one poster tried to come up with a reason why it was actually all his fault.

And adult

Mumsnet posters in a nutshell.

Whump there it is, INDEED!

DH doesn't pull his weight around the house and the OP gets a chorus of 'LTB'. 😂

Exactly this. As I said on here yesterday, I find it comical -and at the same time annoying - that (some) people on here get so bothered about other people not answering the door if they're not expecting anyone.

As I said yesterday, these people who get annoyed, are clearly the same kind of unsufferable articles who 'pop in unexpectedly' and expect people to drop everything to accommodate them! It bloody sounds like it! They seem so butthurt that some people choose to not answer the door if they're not expecting anyone. 😆Why do they care?!

Reasons I don't answer the door when I am not expecting anyone...

1. Could be a Salesperson. I have no interest in ANYthing they are selling!

2. Could be a scammer trying to say 'we'll trim your conifers/tarmac your drive/fix your roof tiles etc (none of which need doing!) And if you say no they try to do it anyway. (Seen this happen!)

3. Religious callers.

4. Bloke with some dusters and tins of polish, saying he is an ex con who is trying to sell stuff to people on the doorstep (as part of his rehabilitation!)

5. School kids coming from the village school, asking people to sponsor them, and cadging money. One time several years ago, 2 kids came to my door, and asked me to sponsor them for a sponsored silence. 'Can you give us so much for every hour we are silent?' they said... I said '£2 the lot.' One kid said 'we have already done it. Can we have the £2 now?'

I don't know whether it was legit or not, but even if it WAS, it's really fucking shady to demand money at the door from someone. Some people in my road are quite elderly and vulnerable, and will feel obliged to give money they cannot afford. (Not saying ALL elderly are vulnerable by the way, before anyone starts! But some are!) I had no money in the house (genuinely) so said no. They never came back.

6. People pretending to be from an energy company or something, to try and gain access to your home, (Could push their way in an attack/rob/assault you.) Again, no histrionics here. This HAS happened to people before.

7. Delivery companies trying to offload a package for a neighbour onto me, because the neighbour hasn't had the intelligence, or foresight to select a 'safe space.' I cannot be arsed with having to hang around waiting for said neighbour to be in - so I can pop it round to them, (or have them come to me,) and then have to tolerate 20 minutes of banal chat about fuckall at our evening meal time.

One cheeky bint not far from me, actually started TELLING her delivery company/courier to 'try Number 23 if no answer'. (Me obviously!!!) Didn't ask me, just assumed. And the worst of it is, that sometimes she is IN, and just doesn't answer. (Music so loud she can't hear them OR she's in bed asleep!)

So the courier comes to me and says 'can you take a package for number 24?' I say 'she is in!' He says 'but I can't get her to answer.' 'Soooo,' I say 'you want ME to take the package, so I have to go over later and I have to try and make her hear me?!' I did it once, and spent 5 minutes at the door before she answered, and then 10 minutes MORE while she chatted shit about her life.

NOW I don't answer the door when I see a delivery driver/courier. (Unless it's for me obvs!) I had one fucker knock my door for about 3 minutes the other week. (It was for HER as I saw him go to hers first.) Knocked some 12 or 13 times as SHE wasn't in! I would not answer. 'Fuck right off' I thought. The delivery went whizzing back, as it needed a signature. Not my problem. She didn't even ASK me if I would take it in. Some people are shameless and fucking entitled. I am not your servant. Fucking do one.

One cheeky bint not far from me, actually started TELLING her delivery company/courier to 'try Number 23 if no answer'. (Me obviously!!!) Didn't ask me, just assumed. And the worst of it is, that sometimes she is IN, and just doesn't answer.

Your entire post is about the benefits of not answering the door...

People not realising that MN (and other anonymous online spaces) is where people go to say what they really think, act how they really feel and be who they really want to be because no one knows it's really you and can't judge the real you. So all the "nobody says/acts like this in real life" posts are missing the point.

Of course they don't because they'll be judged if they did. It doesn't mean they don't think that way in secret.

On that topic, I was surprised to see how many Mumsnetters are offended at the idea of taking in parcels for neighbours. We all do it for each other on this street. Pretty easy way to develop neighbourly relationships and means you never get parcels left in dodgy places or sent back to the warehouse.

I hate the normalising of checking your partners phone. It’s abusive and crazy behaviour. I’d rather leave my husband on the basis that I don’t trust him than spend my time looking through his phone when he’s asleep.

It’s the only place I see people ending sentences with a no.

E.g. “Why are you asking on here? Surely you should just visit A & E, that’s what would normally happen, no?

We do it here too. Nobody would ever receive anything if we didn’t. All those people would have a conniption if they moved here.

On that point, tracking your partner/husband because it apparently helps you prepare dinner on time (yeah right) when he’s running late.

Endless squabbling threads going on and on and on and on and on about silly things such as answering doors and other peoples divorces.

And the amount of people commenting on SEN who have no clue about SEN. And all bad behaviour being attributed to it.

And suggesting everyone over 60 has dementia.

This won’t be popular but there’s a “believe your child, no matter what” thing on here that I don’t know if I agree with.

Kids lie all the time, especially to get out of trouble. It seems that teachers, grandparents, the other parent, adult friends, neighbours and (gasp) stepparents should never be believed if they say something about a child.

Of course I’m not referring to the most serious of things, but if a neighbour says your little darling is throwing stones at cars, chances are they were!