Mumsnet “norms” that annoy you most

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For me it’s the utterly obscure baby names. We’ve all seen them and I’m quite sure nobody uses them in real life. Yet on MN, it’s apparently standard.

Honourable mention to the 50% of posters whose husbands are earning upwards of £100K too.

Posters asking for advice and not coming back particularly when MN is trying to help.

Occasionally when the OP just can't see how ridiculous they are being and either ignores the literally 100s of people and latches onto 1 post that suits their narrative. Also they don't come back.

The £100k job as a completely 'normal' wage

No husband is ever allowed to be stressed or grumpy or have an off day or even express a differing opinion, otherwise he’s abusive and you must LTB

The enabling of male behaviour that's thoughtless at best, abusive at worst.

I don't like the 'bury him under the patio' jokes

That everyone over 50 would like a cashmere blanket and scented candle got their birthday.

All problems, and birthday presents, resolved by a Spa Day.

I'd hate any of these (early 50s).

The hatred for someone that bought a house in the mid/late 1990s before prices started going up.

That drives me mad. Or that we'd be thrilled with "afternoon tea", yeah, we won't go out after 7pm 🤔

I just took the leftover quality street into work this week because I was sick of looking at the tin 😂 they were all gone by lunchtime.

Yes, and we did it deliberately in order to trash the next generation.

Number of times a poster who shout PALs about any NHS related issue, without knowing how things work.

OP: DC/DM/DH had a scan for a suspected cancer and I don’t have an appointment for 10 days

MN: ‘That’s disgusting/state of NHS/ go Private/ speak to PALs’ without any concept of the processes involved in these pathways and why they are so important. It just is hugely unhelpful and raises so much anxiety, and affects the relationship with the OP and medical team

Living rurally and being unable to drive and there are no busses.

The step parenting board, where even if your DSC ives with you full time and you are a really good step parent you have no right to even whisper an opinion and it should all be left to the blood parents. you get accused of being involved in something that is none of your business.

Being told to LTB over any slight misdemeanour by DH. Eg. He ate something in the fridge.

Both parents requesting and getting flexible working requests. In my experience in most families the woman works part time and does most of the childcare because they want to!!! Apparently on Mumsnet that is a terrible and you are contributing to inequality and most recently accusations that we are making it harder for women because our husband' only need to focus on their career.

In mumsnet world our child should be in childcare full time. Half your earning should go in your pension pot, you should live frugally, drive an old car, paid your mortgage off 10nyears ago or will do in 5years because you over pay every month, shop for natural fabrics in charity shops and eat vegetarian meals twice a week and get a takeaway twice a year.

Your kids should got a leafy comp because even though you could afford private school you didn't want to send them (put money in pension pot). A day's activity is going to the park for a walk or doing some craft.

Oh and the best one is 'no is a full sentence'

Accusing someone of "word salad" because you disagree with their entirely coherent post.

Parents in the 60s, 70s and 80s pretty much ignored their children, turfed them out to play or left them alone in the house (probably with a box of matches to play with). And it was the norm to slap your children.

OK, I don't want to be vulgar but I'll say it.

If someone gets pregnant from having used some form of withdrawal, they get absolutely pasted. If they get pregnant from full sex where no coitus interruptus occurred, they don't.

I understand that withdrawal doesn't have a very good success rate, but the chances of getting pregnant are still lower than not. Such condescension for one means of conception but not the other baffles me (I don't think there should be any judgement for either, especially when a pregnancy has already happened and a poster is in shock and looking for support).

This! So many posts begin with ‘we are very rural’. The countryside must be very overcrowded with mumsnetters.

Every other person and their partner seem to earn 100k+ but everyone hates ensuite bathrooms and would rather have more wardrobe space, and owning a second home or being a landlord is akin to being a serial killer.

I feel it would be almost impossible to find for example a 2 million house without an ensuite
And surely a lot of high earners would buy a second property...?

100% attendance = you’re sending a sick child into school

I agree you can’t help it if your child is sick and likewise you can’t help it if they’re not.

This 😅 my poor, flawed but lovely DP would have got the LTB vote many moons ago

That there's rarely a simple/obvious reason for something. Like someone not eating certain foods just because they don't like them or not enjoying something just because they don't. Hardly anyone being overweight because they eat too much of foods they enjoy. Hardly anyone just being mean, spiteful, badly behaved or thoughtless; but must have some deep seated psychological reason or potential diagnosis for whatever it is they've done.

Traumatic births. Mnetters only ever have traumatic births
I know lots of mums with lots of different birth experiences and none of them have ever described them as traumatic
So true. I've never heard anyone refer to their birth experience as 'traumatic' or having to recover for weeks on the sofa purely due to the 'trauma'

Posters name changing for a thread then giving proof they’ve been here a fair while. It used to be “Korean lady, penis beaker, Mexican house thief” etc. As time has moved on, it’s more likely to be “cancel the cheque” or some such
Especially when it is proof of fuck all. I don't know of all those things but I would know to reference them to look like I've been here forever 😂

Sometimes people are just arseholes but no one seems to know this. Must have label 🙄

Being baffled by, and struggling to understand, things that are really very simple. Saw a woman once who claimed to have "never understood the concept of Christmas pyjamas" and another who was "always baffled by hot chocolate". There are loads of them on the designer handbag thread too, struggling to understand the luxury goods market.

What are all these people finding so difficult?

I've never heard anyone refer to their birth experience as 'traumatic'

Ah well, my first was. So was my SIL's. So we don't talk about it.

I tend not to talk about giving birth either but just to say she nearly died, it was a emergency set up ... go figure

I don’t know…. Maybe mumsnet bingo of
shitty dh/partner
Or single mum
kids with Autism or probable autism

and

Responses that are over the top and aggressive and really odd.
“what do you mean he didn’t cook you dinner after he’d been at home and you’d been working all day? He’s not your slave and it’s completely ridiculous. Really surprised he hasn’t left you already.”
like er ok.

Not so much annoys me, but the level of money people seem to have coming in. I'm by no means struggling on one income but just read a post saying they were on 450K combined. And this seems really common.