Mumsnet “norms” that annoy you most

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For me it’s the utterly obscure baby names. We’ve all seen them and I’m quite sure nobody uses them in real life. Yet on MN, it’s apparently standard.

Honourable mention to the 50% of posters whose husbands are earning upwards of £100K too.

Also people often live near people of a similar status so unlikely they can afford it either!!

Agree completely. It's not to say everything is perfect re trans rights/ women's rights . But faults in the law/failure to protect women is not the fault or responsibility of trans women.

An insistence that all teenagers must be the same! 😀

And hear hear to whoever said pedantry, black and white thinking and lack of nuance. It’s getting worse too!

Hot chocolate is some kind of huge treat to be saved for Christmas Eve or if you’re going to be giving your child bad news. “Tell them that their dad’s leaving to join a commune of mountain goat-herders then take them out for a hot chocolate.”

It so would for me if I could afford it!

Galaxy was the best chocolate without a doubt back in the 80s/90s but it really isn't anything like it now, unfortunately.

A&E. NOW.

“Never kiss your own baby on the face.”
Just that is so depressing and based around totally wrong facts unless there’s some huge exception of a child with a very rare condition.

I have children with unusual names so I can’t comment on that. I’ve always loved unusual names though and been obsessed with words and meanings. I don’t comment on name threads much for that reason.

Posters name changing for a thread then giving proof they’ve been here a fair while. It used to be “Korean lady, penis beaker, Mexican house thief” etc. As time has moved on, it’s more likely to be “cancel the cheque” or some such.

Oh my goodness, I forgot this! Yes, this too! I never knew how many people did not agitate toilet cleaner - which is n instruction written on most bottles - and how controversial that could be!

The style advice to wear "a crisp white shirt" or buy overpriced shapeless linen sacks.

Asking people to look at a blurry photo of a stick that's been pissed on. They're hidden on sight.

If it's been said,sorry, but any quirk in child/husband getting the response ' its ASD' . I find it so tedious because mine do have ASD .

The transphobia. There’s lots of things around trans rights (sport, changing rooms, school) that I don’t have answers to, and that sensible public discussion would probably help come up with solutions for, but for a large part of MN trans women are held accountable for, and written about in a very troubling way. I don’t know many trans people in real life, and I’ve no direct experience of trans issues, but I try to treat people with sympathy and understanding, not hatred. This comes with a side order of ‘if you aren’t of our mindset you can’t possibly be a feminist’… also, massively problematical.

a lack of understanding that not every posters life experience, level of education and life chances are the same - hence all the unhelpful ‘just get a nanny’ type responses.

I genuinely did not know until I came on here that people don't answer their own front doors.

The number of women waiting for a proposal. It makes me feel sad. It is such a regression that we're back to marriage being the gift of the man and decided by him. All these women waiting and hoping. No initiative, no joint discussion about the future. Just depressing.

Having the temerity to drink a couple of glasses of 🍷!

Gatekeeping ASD/ADHD. Being forbidden to mention the word Aspergers. That is understandable due to problematic historical links but the context on MN is usually forcing people to deny the idea that “high functioning“ exists. Then getting annoyed that kids with milder symptoms may be taking resources away from those requiring lots of support.

Mumsnet is all about exaggeration.

On alchocol threads it is either a thimble for Christmas or a bottle every night.

Personal responsIbility doesn't exist - if somebody says something to you:
'Oh, sorry, I forgot to say, I have self diagnosed ADHD and anxiety".
"Oh sorry love, then it is all right".
"Don't say love, it triggers my anxiety".

There are two kinds of husbands: those who have to start cleaning the minute after they return from work after their SAHM wife spent the day going to lunch, walking the dog, reading (no binging Netflix in mumsnet world unless you're sick) or those who wouldn't dream of taking a night shift so their wife can rest and who wait till their children are six to spend three hours alone with him.

If you spend a day without your child before they turn 14, you're worst mother in the world.

And I have never read a post by mumsnetter who changes bedding every day. Where is she?

And yes I know I'm exaggerating, I love Mumsnet.

That would be me I change my bedding every 1/2 days I have sensory processing disorder so I need my bedding to feel clean all the time

Gifted

rich teas as a treat

I’ve got a JL voucher what should I spend it on?

Men aged 23 with a job, driving licence and long term girlfriend who is still living at their Mum’s, expecting their Mum to do everything for them. They are having full temper tantrums when the Mum gently suggests they need to be doing more around the house and someone says “oh OP, he’s still young. His brain is still developing at 23. Can you sit down with him and gently explain you’re struggling to cope?”

Followed by a separate thread ten minutes later by another poster annoyed with her 45 year old husband being unable to look after the kids for an hour without phoning her 18 times to ask what to do next, where posters tell her to LTB.

That useless 45 year old is essentially the future 23 year old, but unless you still change their sheets and make them their lunch, you’re a neglectful parent.

Vauge suggestive hints about something that would be 'outing'.

This site has eight million users per month. You're not that unique.

I agree with this one! In some cases it's true but seems to be the first port of call always for some.