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Mumsnet “norms” that annoy you most

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usernamechanged1 · 31/03/2023 21:27

For me it’s the utterly obscure baby names. We’ve all seen them and I’m quite sure nobody uses them in real life. Yet on MN, it’s apparently standard.

Honourable mention to the 50% of posters whose husbands are earning upwards of £100K too.

OP posts:
Lookingoutside · 01/04/2023 00:18

ItsThePlayBusDingDing · 31/03/2023 21:56

"Have you tried telling your MIL to just fuck herself, then head tilt and tinkly laugh, that will show her she can't go knitting a cardigan for your baby without permission"

😂😂😂

newjobnewstartihope · 01/04/2023 00:19

The eagerness to diagnose anyone who's a bit weird as having special needs

newjobnewstartihope · 01/04/2023 00:20

tsmainsqueeze · 31/03/2023 21:51

The ones who eat 'picky bits ' for tea.

Picky bits for the win

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JupiterFortified · 01/04/2023 00:20

“LTB”

“My DH only earns £150k per year, really worried we won’t be able to afford Hugo’s trombone lessons”

”DH gave DC rice crispies! Is this emotional abuse?”

”He’s a cocklodger”

”How can I help my 2 month old excel academically? He’s already ahead of the curve”.

Oh do fuck off, you tedious tedious people.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 01/04/2023 00:27

AIBU to not understand Christmas pyjamas/Christmas Bedding/ Christmas Eve Hampers/ December 1st Boxes

Is this A THING ?

No , it;s some nightwear . Its a winter bedding that comes out every year , its a few treats to make the wind down when you want to get them off to sleep easier on Christmas Eve so you can relax or do last minute things (or in the case of my older DC , on 1st to get more use )

It's something some people do , no need to be all fake coy or arched brows that you cannot possibly unsterstand doing something fun or different .(And obviously so superior that No Tat Will Cross Your Threshold)

And no-one holds a gun at your head to make you do it

I think Beauty Advent Calendars from shops are the biggest pile of shite ( I make my own for DD which are epic)
But if somone wants to buy them, crack on

JupiterFortified · 01/04/2023 00:29

CutOffs · 31/03/2023 21:59

If a random person is rude af to you, you can’t say anything to them.....they might have dementia. 🤔

🤣🤣

TommyNever · 01/04/2023 00:38

Katypyee · 31/03/2023 22:33

The rampant transphobia against trans women.

On the contrary, I read Mumsnet because it's probably the only large internet forum in which gender critical views are tolerated.

Ineedtoloseweightnow · 01/04/2023 00:42

Oh and I forgot to add! When someone is worried or concerned about a partner or relative someone always says ‘are you getting help for your anxiety?’ Or ‘are you always this anxious?’, ‘maybe you need some therapy’ 🤯

Original poster
usernamechanged1 · 01/04/2023 00:46

People in April saying they’ve still got some “selection box bits” left over from the previous Christmas.

Also applied to left over Easter eggs in September.

OP posts:
pixie5121 · 01/04/2023 00:46

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Withdrawn at poster's request.

NotAnotherBathBomb · 01/04/2023 00:46

Sierra26 · 31/03/2023 23:44

“What did they say when you asked them about it?”

Oooh yes this one as well! So smug

JJ456 · 01/04/2023 00:50

Being completely clueless about what life is like without 2 six-figure incomes and thinking anyone can have access to this if they work hard enough.

and lately complaining about having to buy a smaller house cos budget is only 1,5 million 😱

NotAnotherBathBomb · 01/04/2023 00:52

DannyZukosSmile · 01/04/2023 00:01

OH, the bloody 'am I pregnant' threads !!! ALWAYS posted with a clearly negative pregnancy test.

'LINE EYES LAYDEES.' Followed by 'oh I see a second line congratulations OP! Woo hoo!'

95% of the time there is NEVER a second line.

And not posting them in the appropriate threads. I block those and hate them popping up in AIBU.

PartTimer923 · 01/04/2023 00:53

Post: "I've got 2 sets of twins, money is tight and I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed."

Response: "Your husband is a knob. Leave the bastard. And do not let your mil anywhere near your children. And maybe you could get a cleaner?"

Giveitarestwillya · 01/04/2023 00:56
  • Everyone has ND issues, anxiety, depression..
  • Fully grown “kids” 16, 17…25, 26 and upwards being treat as 10yo children.
  • Not understanding that someone who has grown up entitled has anything to do with parents indulging those same people.
  • So so soooo many perfect relationships where partners, especially men have zero faults. I’m referring to all the LTB responses without even trying to understand the OPs point of view.
  • Any one who isn’t middle class woke is racist. I’m referring to all these wonderful “woke” people who live in middle/upper class white areas that have hardly any social housing dare complain about over crowding/housing in poorer areas where race may well be a social issue.
  • Anyone who cares about women and woman’s rights is transphobic.
  • Anyone who doesn’t like there job should be fully able to leave, change hours or transfer Willy nilly, like it’s like changing your washing liquid.
  • Absolutely zero compression to working class people and families that struggle financially.

I’m sure there is more that I will be reminded of.

Seenoevil33 · 01/04/2023 00:59

The I can’t work cos I have a disability (always anxiety) and I’m a cater (visit my parent once a week) my dh works part time 20 hours a week - don’t know anyone in real life who this applies to

Seenoevil33 · 01/04/2023 00:59

Carer!

Growlybear83 · 01/04/2023 01:00

The outrage when someone mentions that their husband/boyfriend/partner has farted in their company. What do people on Mumsnet do when they need to fart? I expect even the Queen let one rip from time to time.

PartTimer923 · 01/04/2023 01:01

Look up grey rock.

DeepDown12 · 01/04/2023 01:01

Most people being hostile against anyone who dares to mention earning/or being in a relationship with a higher earner.

If you're making 100+k, you're not allowed to have problems/be worried - you have money. And you can't write about it without at least fifteen disclaimers acknowledging your own 'luck' and everyone else potential lack thereof.

However, if you're married to a 100+k earner - you're allowed to have problems but only if those are created by the aforementioned earner.

IF (and that is a big IF) you're 'allowed' to earn 100+k - you are not allowed to be on MN because surely you can't earn that amount of money whilst also having a life - that money can only be made if you're working from dawn till dusk and stop only to inhale... at the same time, don't you dare expect lower earning partner to do more around the house because - all jobs are equal regardless of how much you're making when you're in a relationship.

louderthan · 01/04/2023 01:08

Everyone owns a house
Everyone drives
Everyone has 'three months salary saved as a buffer'

People who don't do/have these things are at risk of destitution and are not valid members of society.

CallieQ · 01/04/2023 01:14

Most threads turn into aggressive bullying arguments

User534 · 01/04/2023 01:16

Hatred of other people - outrageous to think of a neighbour entering your house or a family member actually coming to stay.
Obsession with cleaning, and washing and drying clothes.
Complete lack of concern for the environment - because washing and machine drying your child's pyjamas and towel every day is obviously far more important than global meltdown.
The same - with holidays abroad. Absolutely sacrosanct.
Obsession with private schooling.
The rich absolutely deserve to be rich and should really be paid more.
If someone does anything a tiny bit annoying or asks anything of you - cut them off immediately.
Everything should be done for children. But as soon as they're 18 they're adults and not your concern.

Irecan · 01/04/2023 01:16

Oh this is the best thread…

the abbreviations, I genuinely have to Google some of them.

parents unable to take their child out in public or on holiday without them constantly playing up/ whining and the posters telling them all children are like this and they should just cater to their child’s every whim and it will be fine…

any behaviour problem being attributed to SEN even when the diagnosis didn’t yield results they were looking for, they’ll go private to get a second opinion

male hate- any problem with husband or male partner is met with ‘leave him’ or ‘go to a woman’s shelter’ because mumsnetters are feminists but only when it suits them then they are anti feminists/anti woke
also remember a thread about how a dad joined a breastfeeding group to support his wife and the poster was convinced this dad was aroused and by her breastfeeding.. that was eye opening for me

Looking up a posters old posts to gaslight them and try embarrass them on their current thread

toxic unhelpful behaviour when an innocent, new poster asks for advice and doesn’t follow up straight away to answer every intrusive question

who are these mumsnetters anyway and who are we? Are we just the ones who are hear for the comments 😂

inky1991 · 01/04/2023 01:19

"We're of a family of 2 adults, 4 children, 3 dogs, 7 cats and a couple of hamsters and our weekly food shop comes to £45. How on earth are you spending so much on your shop?!"

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