Sat on my own on holiday ....boyfriend made new friends

[balconygirl]

I'm on holiday with my boyfriend of 2 years.
It's meant to be a romantic holiday
Had a brilliant morning
Then he talks to anyone
He started talking to this couple with their kids
All afternoon he has chatted with them
I have sat there -he hasn't said a word
He's organising to meet them tonight and keep spaces around the pool tomorrow

I said I'm going to room to have a shower
He has stated writhed the pool with them

I'm not excited for the few days ahead now
Am I being silly ?
I don't want to spend my holiday with strangers
I'm just not that type of person

That's not how you spell INSUFFERABLE ARSEHOLE.

God he sounds like a tiresome class clown. Is he very insecure?

omg dump him when you get home! Sounds like a right weirdo, I’d hate someone doing this to my family when I was away!

Some people just need an audience for their amazing personality, don’t they?

So I’d be less concerned about DP being Mr Life and Soul (I’ve also got friends who like to make these sort of connections, they’re psychologically healthy, just good-natured extrovert people who derive energy from others and decompress on the holiday by talking endlessly to strangers) than I would be the subsequent nastiness to you.

My dad used to make friends with people on holiday. He was a big drinker too. It was fine, all very convivial - up to the point where it wasn’t. Still remember my (incredibly patient) mum saying quietly to my dad he was grandstanding (he was, it was painful to watch) and him going in a huge huff in front of a couple we’d met six nights earlier. Ruined the last day and night of our holiday. I also have a vivid memory of them trying very hard to subtly avoid sitting near us at the airport departure lounge …

Presumably he has his good points if this morning you two were considering marriage and bearing his children. I’m not saying you should accept this behaviour and move on like nothing happened (he’s gone way too far for that) but it’s high time for a serious conversation about why the happiness of strangers matters more to him than yours does.This could be a warning-bell for how your future is going to be.

Try not to let it ruin your holiday, though, if you can. You might as well get the most of out of it, if possible, whether you tell him to fuck off or not.

Ugh my idea of a nightmare, I go on holiday to relax and unwind with family/partner not to have randoms coming up to me for a chat.
Bet the other family wish he would eff off.

i’m your boyfriend in this scenario, I’m a talker. But not to the exclusion of my partner. Do you join in?

He would be my worst nightmare if I was on holiday with my family. There's a strong possibility they are figuring out how to avoid him!

I think you need a serious word with him tomorrow. Not at all ok to leave you out or to want to share your holiday with strangers!

He has stated writhed the pool with them

He WAHT???

WHAT lol, so shocked I can't spell 😂

At best you sound incompatible

God, he sounds like my ex.

He'd get pissed, latch on to some randoms (who usually looked distinctly underwhelmed), talk utter bollocks at them until I got embarrassed, made my excuses and left, then would get back to where we were staying hours and shedloads of booze later and start haranguing me for being a "miserable fucking bitch" etc.

Ditching him was the best thing I ever did.

@Broadbeachshallow

You have totally nailed it, with this switched on insightful comment, 👏
I agree 👍 with you 💯 per cent,

I can't imagine what I'd do if my partner started playing volleyball in a pool with teenagers on holiday.

Oh god, it's actually too horrifyingly cringy to contemplate.

And this is why I avoid all inclusives.

my father used to do this albeit we were a fmaily-it was infuriating he didnt get drunk though just chatted abut his whole life

i remember even as a child thinking these people dont want to talok to you

hes not nice op he got blind drunk and pased out before dinner

Genius 😂

Urgh my worst nightmare is making holiday friends. But I am an unsociable introvert. When I was 20 and holidays were about getting drunk and staying up all night, it was fun to meet random people and have adventures. But sitting around the pool chatting to Rob, Sandra and their teenage kids sounds like hell on Earth.

Urgh I hate it when people go on holiday and make friends with everyone. Luckily we are both anti social so no problems on this score!

Absolutely.

The reason a lot of people would rather stick needles in their eyes than go all inclusive and meet twats like him drinking from 10am🙄.

Ick.

How embarrassing to be with him.

He sounds 17.

OP, you deserve better.

"My ex used to do this, in Cuba I barely saw him for two weeks he was playing cards with the other knob head alcoholics who go to cheap Caribbean all inclusives. He has hopefully died of liver failure by now. but if yours is called Ian it doesn't get better and you'll find out he had a vasectomy that's why you can't get pregnant after 10 years. Prick. Sorry, you hit a trigger"

Bloody hell I thought the one who went scuba diving all week when his partner couldn't go then left her alone when ill then told the tour bus they were getting divorced was bad but this manages to be even worse.

Download a couple of great books and have a lovely meal, still try to have a lovely trip!!

If dh was currently sat across from me on the sofa, I’d be concerned that he was on holiday with a secret girlfriend! I’m with you op, I feel your pain!

*wasn’t!

I wouldn't be putting up with that. Reading your posts, as soon as you got home I'd be ending things and telling him to sling his hook.

I think you need to stop with the "sitting on my todd" and the "I'll just have to have crisps for dinner" stuff.

Just go down for dinner or get room service whatever.

If you don't like how he acts then it's a bigger issue to deal with. Now you know what he's like. Leave him.