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Are you afraid of dying?

163 replies

usernamechanged1 · 28/03/2023 20:29

I seem to swing between being fully accepting that it’ll come to us all, and dreading the thought of it.

What’s your take?

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Theconceptoftime · 28/03/2023 20:33

Can't wait. It's such a comfort to know it will come one day sooner or later. I had a near death experience once and it was so, so peaceful. Even without feeling depressed I am looking forward to that feeling again. Sorry to be a bit of a downer but it isn't all bad.

Hadalifeonce · 28/03/2023 20:35

Another one with a near death experience, during which I felt calm and at peace, so death holds no fear for me. I just hope it's not painful.

ASimpleLobsterHat · 28/03/2023 20:37

I'm afraid of dying in a violent or painful way, but I'm not afraid of being dead. I also wouldn't want to die until my DC are grown up and have settled lives so I guess I'm afraid of dying young too.

WhenDovesFly · 28/03/2023 20:37

I'm not afraid of death itself but I fear the thought of a lengthy dying process from an illness that offers great pain or loss of faculties that leaves me reliant on others. I don't want to be a burden, or to have my loved ones watch me dying a painful or degrading death.

user143777534 · 28/03/2023 20:37

No. I’m not depressed but I find the idea of an eventual death quite comforting. I’m not keen for it to be too soon though.

RoddyStJames · 28/03/2023 20:38

Yes. Terrified.
I’m just not sure what of.
Pain, disease, a lingering end, not existing…I don’t know, I just can’t put my finger on what it is I actually fear.

MrsTWH · 28/03/2023 20:38

Death itself isn’t scary for me, as posters have said above. A great book I read was “With The End In Mind” by Dr Kathryn Mannix. Really comforting.
However, it’s the bit leading up to death that scares me. I don’t want a long, painful and drawn out illness.

Fairyliz · 28/03/2023 20:39

I’m not scared of actually being dead, I’m just scared of the years of pain and suffering that will lead up to it.

Every single one of my family members have suffered in this way, with constant pain or having dementia. Nothing has ever been done and this was in the time when you could actually see a doctor.

Im in my 60’s and would like to have a pill I could take in a few years time.

ComeOnNumber100 · 28/03/2023 20:39

I have a degenerative neurological condition, I don’t see the point in worrying about dying I’d rather live my life than worry about my death.

Original poster
usernamechanged1 · 28/03/2023 20:40

RoddyStJames · 28/03/2023 20:38

Yes. Terrified.
I’m just not sure what of.
Pain, disease, a lingering end, not existing…I don’t know, I just can’t put my finger on what it is I actually fear.

That’s sort of how I feel at times.

I think I’m worried that death is a black hole abyss situation where you exist on some level but have no life.

OP posts:
ComeOnNumber100 · 28/03/2023 20:40

MrsTWH · 28/03/2023 20:38

Death itself isn’t scary for me, as posters have said above. A great book I read was “With The End In Mind” by Dr Kathryn Mannix. Really comforting.
However, it’s the bit leading up to death that scares me. I don’t want a long, painful and drawn out illness.

Excellent book 📚

Sixmonthson · 28/03/2023 20:41

Like others I’ve had a near death experience and it was so peaceful and calming it’s taken any fear away. I tried so hard to hold on to the feeling but sadly it went fairly quickly.

Ragwort · 28/03/2023 20:41

No, not really, obviously I don't want a painful, drawn out death but at my age (65) many people I have known and loved have died and, mostly, they were peaceful deaths after a life well lived. I have a faith which clearly helps.

America12 · 28/03/2023 20:41

RoddyStJames · 28/03/2023 20:38

Yes. Terrified.
I’m just not sure what of.
Pain, disease, a lingering end, not existing…I don’t know, I just can’t put my finger on what it is I actually fear.

Exactly how I feel ☹️

TwilightSkies · 28/03/2023 20:42

Not scared at all. I believe I’ll get to see loved ones again and be at peace.

Id love the PPs that had near death experiences to give some more details!

Springisintheair123 · 28/03/2023 20:42

Given the option of a very easy and peaceful death, I’d be happy not to wake up tomorrow morning. Life has been lonely and challenging over the past 14 years that it’s hard to see what a normal and peaceful life would look and feel like. Sure, I’ve been blessed in many ways and been fortunate for the amazing experiences I’ve had, but could never really shake the feeling of not quite belonging here. So, I look forward to the day it comes to an end.

lipstickwoman · 28/03/2023 20:42

I'm not afraid of death or dying. I am very afraid of knowing I won't live much longer.

I know that sounds odd.

MrNook · 28/03/2023 20:43

Absolutely terrified, have panic attacks about it almost every night

GordonShakespearedoesChristmas · 28/03/2023 20:44

Yes because I'm worried about my disabled adult daughter. How will she be housed? Who will help her with money etc? It absolutely terrifies me. 😞

Ponderingwindow · 28/03/2023 20:44

I’m afraid of leaving my child before she is ready for me to leave.

I’m afraid of being cared for by a medical system that isn’t designed to accommodate my allergies and that exacerbating my pain.

I’m not really afraid of death itself.

Ifailed · 28/03/2023 20:45

I'm not afraid of being dead, why would I as I would have ceased to exist?

However, as I live on my own, I am afraid of lying at the bottom of the stairs knowing I'm going to die but having to wait for hours (or days) to do so.

Bobbybobbins · 28/03/2023 20:45

Having seen my mum die, I am not afraid of death itself. The pain she had leading up to it was far far worse than her death.

JarByTheDoor · 28/03/2023 20:45

Ambivalent really. On the one hand I spend some time almost every day thinking about the exact process and sensations of killing myself (by a particular method that I used once and which almost succeeded), but on the other hand when I got a breast lump I was straight to the GP, and if I'm crossing the road and a car suddenly appears I leap out of the way to save myself. I think the human brain is actually several separate brains and it's quite possible for them to feel differently about a thing.

Lotusflower16 · 28/03/2023 20:46

I am petrified of dying. I can't imagine not existing anymore. I love life and all the little things although I have been through rough times, so the idea of not seeing another sunrise is paralysing.

alreadydidthat · 28/03/2023 20:46

I'm not afraid of dying, it gives me something to work towards when I'm trying to get through life.
It's like the rest at the end that you really deserve after all that shit.