Are you afraid of dying?

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I seem to swing between being fully accepting that it’ll come to us all, and dreading the thought of it.

What’s your take?

Not since I watched this:

www.bbc.co.uk/ideas/videos/dying-is-not-as-bad-as-you-think/p062m0xt

No. I don't understand what I'm supposed to be afraid of, when it will mean the end of all or any suffering. The thought of it is incredibly comforting.
I'm not keen on the idea of pain prior to my death, to be fair, but I hope that medical science will take care of that or that I die so quickly that I won't know anything about it.
Shakespeare wasn't wrong when he described death as "a consummation devoutly to be wished".

Petrified. I wish I wasn't but I am.

I’m the same as @RoddyStJames

Especially at a younger age. We have lost a few young people we know recently, and it’s been quite the shock

I like how you articulated this.

I'm not afraid for myself - I'm another who has had a near-death experience and it was lovely, warm and calm. But I do have a fear of suddenly just "not being" any more. I've got a little baby granddaughter, and when we are together I sometimes think, I'll probably be just a distant memory to her when I'm gone . Just a few old photographs , like my parents.

Time seems to be rushing along now, and it's going to be soon for me. I just wish there was a rewind button somewhere.

I wasn’t ever really hugely worried until recently.
I’m terrified of leaving my son before he’s an adult. A friend had just lost their twin, in their 40s, sudden illness over 6 months.
I haven’t lived the life I wanted.
Ive started worrying about being at the undertakers, about practical things of death.
I’m overwhelmed with being so tired all the time, it feels inevitable that I’ll just keel over.

I watched my Dad die from liver cancer a few weeks ago. Even in the last 24 hours of his life, I was battling to have him adequately medicated. He was agitated, in pain and frightened. The horror of this I don't have the words to convey.

So yes I'm now bloody terrified of dying.

Yes absolutely! It's the biggest FOMO ever. I don't want to miss out on life.

Yes I'm terrified. And of anyone I love dying. I go through frequent periods where I can't stop thinking about it and feeling like things are really pointless if we are just going to die anyway. I love my children so much the idea of not being with them is so scary.

Snap. After seeing my Mum and Gran experience a similar end with terminal bowel cancer. Just horrific. It’s made me feel I want to live forever. Well, not if I had no quality of life but seriously I am terrified of dying a painful death, and I do think most deaths are painful.

Oh please, please tell me about you NDE’s if it’s not too personal. The NDE accounts I’ve read online give me so much comfort.

Yea terrified. It fuels my health anxiety.

I love sleeping but the thought of eternal sleep fills me with dread. If it was just me I wouldn't be as worried but I have a ten year old dd who relies on me fully.

This will make me sound completely unhinged but I'm terrified of somehow being aware that I'm dead and able to see my dc grieve me and seeing them so sad and not being able to do anything about it.
I don't want to be aware of my death.

You see I’ve had a NDE; lost huge amount of blood during a planned c section where they actually discovered I had undiagnosed placenta prévia (no bleeding whatsoever, healthy pregnancy, I opted for a c section due to previous traumatic long vaginal birth with my eldest). Doctors were completely unprepared and completely baffled. I lost about 3 litres of blood, doctors were there shaking their heads and saying they couldn’t stop the bleeding and I remember feeling really calm and looking across at dh holding newborn Ds and thinking oh this is it then, I’ve done what I needed to do and I was just so calm and content. It was so, so strange. And all of a sudden (hours, hours later!) I was in recovery feeling like absolute shite, desperately thirsty as I’d lost so much blood and having numerous blood transfusions. So strange.

But - I’m still terrified of dying. Even though I’ve had that experience. I have witnessed too many people close to me having horrible deaths. I live my life in a constant state of health anxiety (and I do have a lot of chronic conditions so that really doesn’t help).

Yep exactly like me

No. It's life that frightens me.

Also not afraid of death itself but I fear dying young and leaving my DC to grow up without a mum.

I'm not afraid of death although I am nervous of what it will be like afterwards, just being nothing.
I would like to know when it was going to happen though...why waste my time working for my retirement if I'm going to die young? Or should I work hard now for a good retirement if I'm going to live till 100?

I know that its on the horizon but I'm going to dodge the bastard for as long as I can.

I know exactly what you mean 😢

Yes I’m afraid but I know as mother that my need to make it as ok as possible for my child would help me

I used worry about leaving my young children, now in my early sixties I dont want to leave my grandchildren, even though I know I will eventually. I would like to be here long enough that they will remember me in later life.
I do sometimes spend time wondering what it's like, just the nothingness iyswim., the just not being here anymore.
I feel this more since my sister died last year with terminal cancer. I was with her when she passed away xx

Like others I've had a NDE (on a flight , don't recommend that ) but I am relaxed if I go to surgery , I think I might not wake up but I am prepared for that

I think it will be like before I was born, I didn't know . So once I;m dead , I won;t know .
But what scares me is when the universe implodes/explodes/sun dies , it is all over . Even though I;ll be long gone .

I think of things I've not done and it's too late to do .
And my memory is going bit by bit so maybe it;s preparing me so I won;t care