Page 5 | Are you afraid of dying?

usernamechanged1 · 2023-03-28T19:29:02+00:00

I seem to swing between being fully accepting that it’ll come to us all, and dreading the thought of it. What’s your take?

KohlaParasaurus · 28/03/2023 22:38

Not at all scared. At the moment if I was told I was going to die soon I'd be furious because I've got lots of stuff still to do and see, but I'm sure a time will come when I'll just think, "OK, I'm ready, I don't mind."

MarchMadness23 · 28/03/2023 22:40

JarByTheDoor · 28/03/2023 20:45

Ambivalent really. On the one hand I spend some time almost every day thinking about the exact process and sensations of killing myself (by a particular method that I used once and which almost succeeded), but on the other hand when I got a breast lump I was straight to the GP, and if I'm crossing the road and a car suddenly appears I leap out of the way to save myself. I think the human brain is actually several separate brains and it's quite possible for them to feel differently about a thing.

@JarByTheDoor I think you're right, we have many brains!

I hope you can get help to get rid of the one that is plotting & planning. Xx

keffie12 · 28/03/2023 22:42

It's not dying so much as how you die. I was afraid when I was younger. Now, in later life, I'm not ready to go for a long time.

However, for me, I know I will be reunited with my late husband then, so that's OK.

It will be sad to leave my adult youngsters, grandchildren, and so on. However, death comes to us all

Twatalert · 28/03/2023 22:46

Springisintheair123 · 28/03/2023 22:07

@Twatalert I’m really glad you’ve managed to experience some peace after a tough time.

In the last few days, I’ve been having the acute feeling that the timing for all the things that make for a good life has now passed. The passage of time is really hitting me.

May I ask what these things are for you?

MarchMadness23 · 28/03/2023 22:47

I'm not worried about being dead.

i choose to believe I'll see the people (&pets) I've loved & lost.

I am, however, scared of dying in a horrible way (like from covid). I live alone, with some health issues & am scared of not having anyone to help me/get me help if something happens.

but 'being' dead, no, my Dad will be standing by the entrance with the biggest bear hug. ❤️

ComeOnNumber100 · 28/03/2023 22:49

Man cannot possess anything as long as he fears death. But to him who does not fear it, everything belongs. Leo Tolstoy

PurpleParrots · 28/03/2023 22:51

stinkfaceison · 28/03/2023 21:52

I'm not afraid of dying because that will be like going to sleep . Oddly enough I'm scared of what happens to my body after death . Stupid I know , but I worry I will know about it on some level .

Yes it’s what happens to my body is what I fear too. Like although I’ll be dead will I feel anything when my body is disposed of. How does anyone know if your nerves can, even momentarily, feel anything once the body has died?

I know it’s stupid but it does play on my mind.

familyissues12345 · 28/03/2023 22:52

theresnolimits · 28/03/2023 21:35

Now my children have grown up and are settled with their own families, I don’t fear death as I used to. But I do dread my husband dying ~ I can’t imagine life without him. I hope I go first.

Yes me too. My granny and grandad died 3 weeks apart, granny just couldn't live without him. I've always felt that was the perfect scenario

greenqueen22 · 28/03/2023 22:52

I'm not scared of dying as such but I'm scared of leaving my dc behind. I hope I live long enough to get them to an age where they are happy, settled and self sufficient. I would hate to die while they are still young. We don't have any family so it really is one of my biggest fears.

I think it's crazy to think one day I'll just cease to exist but the world as I know it will carry on like nothing has changed. It's comforting and kind of depressing at the same time.

Georgiepud · 28/03/2023 22:53

I've been scared of death for as long as I can remember. Everything to do with it causes me anxiety.

MadameSzyszkoBohusz · 28/03/2023 22:53

No, I'm afraid of very old and/or ill and infirm. The actual dying seems the least scary part.

alpacamaraca · 28/03/2023 22:54

Not scared of dying, scared of not being there for my children if they need me. I don't want to be too old that I'm a burden to them though.

MarchMadness23 · 28/03/2023 23:02

ShippingNews · 28/03/2023 20:50

I'm not afraid for myself - I'm another who has had a near-death experience and it was lovely, warm and calm. But I do have a fear of suddenly just "not being" any more. I've got a little baby granddaughter, and when we are together I sometimes think, I'll probably be just a distant memory to her when I'm gone . Just a few old photographs , like my parents.

Time seems to be rushing along now, and it's going to be soon for me. I just wish there was a rewind button somewhere.

@ShippingNews im sorry you have cause to think it's going to be soon 🌹

if you had a rewind button, when would you rewind to? My life hasn't turned out remotely how I thought it would. I'd like to rewind, but whenever I think about it, I don't want to miss so many things along the way, that taking other paths, making different decisions would mean missing out on? (I'd like new knees though!!)

rainbowlou · 28/03/2023 23:03

I can at times become very depressed about thinking of leaving my children and not seeing them grow older, not knowing what what they become and them not having a mum.
I try not to think about it too much but yes I’m scared of everything I know just having a sudden end and not knowing where or what it continues to be

Clarabe1 · 28/03/2023 23:07

Not at all. Death is part of life, it’s completely natural and it’s going to happen to all of us. How I die is more frightening but it’s pretty much out of my control.

Emerald4512 · 28/03/2023 23:13

UB40andaglassofwine · 28/03/2023 21:59

The fear of dying has ruined my life

Same!

Blossomtoes · 28/03/2023 23:13

I’m afraid of leaving my child before she is ready for me to leave.

I can only speak for myself but I don’t think you’re ever ready to lose your mum. I was 62 and I was definitely not ready. I know what you mean though, my son will take it very hard when the time comes.

I’m not remotely afraid of death but I don’t much fancy some of the things that could happen in the run up to it.

Moser85 · 28/03/2023 23:15

Not at all.

I do believe that we are here to grow spiritually though and that we have many lifetimes and we're going to keep coming back until we become enlightened.

I'd rather it was one and done though 😅

DarkShade · 28/03/2023 23:20

I am absolutely terrified. Every day I think about how life is finite and worry that I'm wasting the opportunity to be on this planet, surrounded by beautiful things and wonderful people. I look at my child and want the moments that I spend with them to last forever. I am terrified of missing out on life - on the knowledge of future societies, on the love and good times spent with others, on new experiences and challenges. The thought of the world going on without me gives me massive FOMO.

Zipps · 28/03/2023 23:21

I'm not afraid of dying but of dying too young. I'm in my mid 50's about to retire and life is really good but I have a bucket list a mile long. My dc are grown up one completely settled and the other in last year at uni but I have a small GC and want to see them grow up. I also worry about DH dying now and leaving me alone. I know 100% I won't have another relationship with anyone else and it scares me that I could spend 30+ years on my own.

Viviennemary · 28/03/2023 23:23

A bit. But I want to know what happens afterwards if anything.

PreparationPreparationPrep · 28/03/2023 23:32

Springisintheair123 · 28/03/2023 20:42

Given the option of a very easy and peaceful death, I’d be happy not to wake up tomorrow morning. Life has been lonely and challenging over the past 14 years that it’s hard to see what a normal and peaceful life would look and feel like. Sure, I’ve been blessed in many ways and been fortunate for the amazing experiences I’ve had, but could never really shake the feeling of not quite belonging here. So, I look forward to the day it comes to an end.

I felt sad for you reading this. I'm glad you've had some happy experiences though.

I must admit I'm afraid of dying, the thought scares me so I try not to think about it. I don't think I will shake that feeling until my children are grown and settled with their own families.

Occasionally I linger on the thought of whether I will meet my dad again in another life. But other than that I try not to think about it.

Blackandwhitehorse · 28/03/2023 23:33

DarkShade · 28/03/2023 23:20

I am absolutely terrified. Every day I think about how life is finite and worry that I'm wasting the opportunity to be on this planet, surrounded by beautiful things and wonderful people. I look at my child and want the moments that I spend with them to last forever. I am terrified of missing out on life - on the knowledge of future societies, on the love and good times spent with others, on new experiences and challenges. The thought of the world going on without me gives me massive FOMO.

I feel this. It’s almost like I want to see what happens next in this crazy world and can’t accept I’ll be a part of history

Youdoyoubabe · 28/03/2023 23:35

No not really. I've got that Countdown to Death App so I know when it will be and can prepare. About 17 years left I think.

babybythesea · 28/03/2023 23:39

Of being dead? No. Not in the slightest.
Of dying? I’m scared of possible pain, of it being drawn out. I want to go like my Nan, falling asleep one morning and not waking up. Most people want to go like that but loads end dying in accidents, scared and in pain. That terrifies me.

Im also scared of what I’d leave behind. My kids are too small. When they are independent then it’ll be a lot less frightening.