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Are you afraid of dying?

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usernamechanged1 · 28/03/2023 20:29

I seem to swing between being fully accepting that it’ll come to us all, and dreading the thought of it.

What’s your take?

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fussychica · 29/03/2023 12:28

Not death itself but the manner of my death. If I went like my dad, sitting in the sun on the terrace at 84 with no signs of ill health that would be great. Hard for those left behind but it's the way I'd like to go.
I'm 66 so it's likely closer for me than most of you. Fortunately at the moment I'm in good health, and long may that last. I'm scared of being in constant pain or having an awful degenerative illness. I'd like to have a tablet handy so I can take the decision to end it if it all gets too much but I know that's unlikely.

Trinity65 · 29/03/2023 12:29

Its not the Dying that scares Me

FetlocksBlowing · 29/03/2023 12:31

I'm afraid of the pain it will cause my children (adult). It hurts so much to lose a loving parent.

SwordBilledHummingbird · 29/03/2023 13:33

Lotusflower16 · 28/03/2023 20:46

I am petrified of dying. I can't imagine not existing anymore. I love life and all the little things although I have been through rough times, so the idea of not seeing another sunrise is paralysing.

Same here. It actually really upsets me, I just can't get my head around the idea of just ceasing to exist.

Ishouldbeoutside · 29/03/2023 13:58

Moser85 · 28/03/2023 23:15

Not at all.

I do believe that we are here to grow spiritually though and that we have many lifetimes and we're going to keep coming back until we become enlightened.

I'd rather it was one and done though 😅

I believe this too. However I absolutely dread the pain and illness that might precede it.

Emotionalsupportviper · 29/03/2023 14:00

Not of dying itself.

I am terrified of pain, though, and am scared stiff of losing my few remaining marbles. I don't want that to be left for my kids to deal with.

Emotionalsupportviper · 29/03/2023 14:05

@Theconceptoftime

@Hadalifeonce

This is really interesting. I've read a number of near-death accounts and everyone says the same two things.

a) they no longer fear death itself, and

b) they value life and their families much more - material things have little meaning

Snugglemonkey · 29/03/2023 14:12

I am afraid of leaving my children. I do not want them to have the pain of grief. I don't care about being dead, I won't exist anymore to care.

PinkSyCo · 29/03/2023 14:50

FetlocksBlowing · 29/03/2023 12:31

I'm afraid of the pain it will cause my children (adult). It hurts so much to lose a loving parent.

Yes this. It’s only since losing my own mum 3.5 years ago and then becoming a very hands on nan of 2 very soon after that I’ve thought like this. The thought of causing pain to those I love makes me so sad.

Sixmonthson · 29/03/2023 14:53

I’d definitely agree with the comments re NDE. It changed me forever - mine was 15 years ago and I’ve never forgotten what it taught me (and no longer fear death)

ToddlerTerror · 29/03/2023 15:01

usernamechanged1 · 28/03/2023 20:29

I seem to swing between being fully accepting that it’ll come to us all, and dreading the thought of it.

What’s your take?

I am exactly this.
I swing between being partially relieved that I won't be here when, for instance, the sun expands and swallows the earth in billions of years time.
Then I am terrified of the dark nothingness. I just can't comprehend not existing. But then I suppose it is like before I was born. I had no awareness of the before and hopefully no awareness of the after. I do worry about my DD and not being here for her but at the same time, I would give my life for her in an instant.
I just hope I go to bed one night when I am old and don't wake up. I don't want a long, painful drawn out death.

Blossomtoes · 29/03/2023 15:01

MarchMadness23 · 28/03/2023 22:47

I'm not worried about being dead.

i choose to believe I'll see the people (&pets) I've loved & lost.

I am, however, scared of dying in a horrible way (like from covid). I live alone, with some health issues & am scared of not having anyone to help me/get me help if something happens.

but 'being' dead, no, my Dad will be standing by the entrance with the biggest bear hug. ❤️

I love this. Having lost both my parents and my brother I’d be so happy to see them all waiting for me.

Janedoelondon · 29/03/2023 22:35

AriannaBlack · 28/03/2023 20:56

Yes I'm terrified. And of anyone I love dying. I go through frequent periods where I can't stop thinking about it and feeling like things are really pointless if we are just going to die anyway. I love my children so much the idea of not being with them is so scary.

100 percent how I feel.

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