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Things that are socially acceptable but you wish they were not

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IconicKitty · 24/03/2023 18:29

I feel like a bit of a man. For me:

Men pissing by the side of the road. I have see this twice in the past few days, yet there were public loos close by. If a woman did this people would question her sanity, or at the very least think she was undignified yet for men it's considered normal.

Men going shirtless in public. Do what you like in your own garden, but why walk down the high street etc without a shirt. It's never that hot in England - in fact some much hotter climates actually have dignity laws that prohibit both men and women from even showing their arms or legs. Plus you know, sun burn.

Smoking. I hate walking behind someone who is smoking, it blows back in the face of the person behind and gives me a headache. It's unhealthy, expensive and should just be banged in public full stop imo.

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DidyouNO · 24/03/2023 20:28

Dogs in eateries or indoors at all. My foster son is a very poorly boy with chronic lung disease and it can make him so very ill. Then owners justifying that their dog is 'better behaved than most children'. But failing to realise that humans are not allergic to other humans ffs!
Smoking in the street too for the same reason above mainly when I have to walk behind and breathe it in.

CandleInTheStorm · 24/03/2023 20:34

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 24/03/2023 19:57

Being early (as in significantly early). People moan about lateness, but being early is somehow seen as virtuous, even if it’s actually really inconveniencing the person. Don’t turn up at my house early and, if I’ve arranged to meet you somewhere at 8, don’t message at 7.45 saying “I’m here…” What do you want me to do about it? I’ll be there when I said!

As yes this! I hate it because I'm usually still doing the last-minute bits or still need to change/look a bit more presentable. So I end up having to disappear upstairs for a bit whilst they are waiting. I also like to just take a minute to compose myself/ thoughts after rushing around and before the chaos starts!

adriftinadenofvipers · 24/03/2023 20:34

MysweetAudrina · 24/03/2023 18:46

I really don't understand what is wrong with topless men. Plenty in my hot yoga class. What's so wrong with the human body that it offends people?

If you have a ripped torso, I might make an exception, but I don't want to see men with pasty skin and beer bellies out in the street any more than I want to see topless women. Just put it away!

JudgeJ · 24/03/2023 20:36

Wallingtonhall · 24/03/2023 18:46

People having their phones and speaker and walking about having loud conversations to their phones.

And expecting everyone to keep put of their way because they're too important to look where they're going.

SwedishEdith · 24/03/2023 20:37

CantFindTheBeat · 24/03/2023 19:39

The odd work person phoning me on spec without having emailed to see if I'm free for a call first.

Oh, god, this does my head in. It's always the same people who do this.

adriftinadenofvipers · 24/03/2023 20:37

Chilloutsnow · 24/03/2023 18:53

Over the past 5 years or so I’ve noticed in certain work contexts it’s okay for the women to openly fart. Now men may do this but I work mostly with women. I just find it gross to be honest but no one really bats an eyelid.

Glad I don't work where you are! I have never experienced this.

Different matter at home. They let fly and it's all good. I do and it's "oh my god Vipers, you're disgusting!"

Morewineplease10 · 24/03/2023 20:38

Men. Just men!

MarvelMrs · 24/03/2023 20:39

Phones in cinemas. Why can people not enjoy the cinematic experience and switch off for 2/3 hours. Nothing on a phone can be that exciting in comparison surely?

Coxspurplepippin · 24/03/2023 20:39

'Over the past 5 years or so I’ve noticed in certain work contexts it’s okay for the women to openly fart'

Where the f do you work? I don't distinguish between men and women in this instance - gross from all parties - totally unacceptable. Just leave the room FFS.

JudgeJ · 24/03/2023 20:39

DonnatellaLyman · 24/03/2023 19:25

Owning cats

Owning dogs.

adriftinadenofvipers · 24/03/2023 20:40

DonnatellaLyman · 24/03/2023 19:25

Owning cats

That just doesn't happen. Cats own us and rightly so lol!

universityhelp · 24/03/2023 20:40

Eating any food on buses - the journey is never long enough to justify it and if starving you can always take a few bites before you get on and then more when you get off.
Mostly men hacking/sniffing and coughing up phlegm - then often spitting it out on the floor. Don't know who they think they're impressing; if it's a natural bodily function then why don't women do it?

scoobydoo1971 · 24/03/2023 20:40

People with trolleys in supermarkets who stop suddenly, or turn it around/ change direction. Those trolleys should have lights on them like cars! Drives me to do online shopping.

SwordToFlamethrower · 24/03/2023 20:42

Jellylover · 24/03/2023 19:40

Dogs in cafes, restaurants and shops.

This. Its absolutely gross

adriftinadenofvipers · 24/03/2023 20:42

Sugargliderwombat · 24/03/2023 19:58

This one really made me chuckle, I dread the day I get called ma'am or madam 😆

I am violently allergic to being called 'Mrs'. I have a name, just use it?

DeNeushoornHeeftEenHoorn · 24/03/2023 20:43

Anybody making any noise in their house or garden that intrudes into somebody else’s house or garden. Sometimes I wish I were Swiss!

…and to that one of the million dog-haters above who wrote “nobody is allergic to children though”? Yeah, actually think I might be. Keep them quiet.

ToWhitToWhoo · 24/03/2023 20:44

Agree about topless men. And especially men who show off their bulging muscles- I find that off-putting rather than the reverse.

Parking bikes on the pavement in a position where they block access for pedestrians passing by.

Runners who don't look where they're going and risk knocking people down (a friend was knocked down and injured by such a person).

Pressing people to celebrate/ divulge their birthday if they don't want to.

SwordToFlamethrower · 24/03/2023 20:44

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ToWhitToWhoo · 24/03/2023 20:46

notprincehamlet · 24/03/2023 19:47

Parking on pavements

Agree!

HuntingoftheSnark · 24/03/2023 20:47

LividNC · 24/03/2023 20:28

Zoos.

Cannot see how keeping such intelligent animals in cages won’t end up Planet of the Apes and we’d deserve it. And I’m hardly an animal lover as a rule.

Came on to say the same.

Tarantellah · 24/03/2023 20:48

Blowing your nose at the dining table. It’s disgusting expelling bodily fluids in front of people while they’re eating. I bet they wouldn’t be happy if I spat on the table, which is essentially the same thing. And then they put their own bodily fluids in their pocket or sleeve instead of in the bin, which is just gross.

JudgeJ · 24/03/2023 20:48

IWasFunBeforeMum · 24/03/2023 20:10

Dickwads who sit in coffee shops alone taking up tables of 4!!!

In some places there are only 4s and I'm not going to stand up to drink my coffee, even for you love. It's the same with other seats, I booked a train ticket and a seat at a table, a group told me to move because they were four and wanted to sit together. The words 'shit' and 'tough' came to mind in some way.

CantFindTheBeat · 24/03/2023 20:49

@HuntingoftheSnark

I totally imagine that too...

SeatonCarew · 24/03/2023 20:49

TrashyPanda · 24/03/2023 20:17

Socially acceptable to spit on the Heart of Midlothian in Edinburgh Royal Mile.

Edinburgh folk love seeing the disgust on tourists faces!

I once saw a woman squat down in the middle of a crowded street and pee while her sister remonstrated with her during the Edinburgh festival.

Can't say I was charmed.

theworldhas · 24/03/2023 20:49

playing videos/music from your phone in public places without headphones

I don’t think anyone normal considers this socially acceptable.