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I’m watching an affair unfold in front of me.

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AnyoneElse1982 · 23/03/2023 09:17

I don’t usually notice this stuff. I won’t be saying a word to anyone. But I can see an affair going on. It’s a neighbour of mine.

I’m seeing him with the OW more and more. She’s a friend of a friend (hence I notice her) very attractive. I’ve just seen them in the coffee shop together now.

I feel sad for my lady neighbour. I can see that even if something hasn’t actually happened (because how would I know) her H sees this OW is a lot, I see them together most days now, neighbour is a teacher. I do an early school run so see her leave. Each morning I see her H and OW walking together when I get back. It’s entirely coincidental my timings match.

I won’t say a word, but I can see it in front of me, body language has changed over time between them.

im only putting it here because I won’t be saying a word as I can’t know for sure. But I strongly suspect. It’s not something that would bother me, just I’m seeing it out of no choice of mine unfold in front of me.

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Stripeybluetop · 11/05/2023 10:34

Have you seen them touching op? Or did someone else tell you?

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 11/05/2023 10:34

AnyoneElse1982 · 11/05/2023 10:14

They were caught touching each other in a secluded place (near a park).

They were touching each other’s secluded places in the park? Dirty bastards.

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AnyoneElse1982 · 11/05/2023 10:38

Another friend asked my neighbour’s name. I said I don’t know his name and I said to her why and she said she can’t say, so I said is it to do with X woman. She said yes she’d seen them touching. Him her face and standing close (in a place near a park). They saw my friend and stopped touching.

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AnyoneElse1982 · 11/05/2023 10:39

My friend and I have no joint connection to these people other than they’re school parents but we know they’re not a couple.

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Walterwhiteswifey · 11/05/2023 10:40

How do I unsubscribe to this nonsense? I keep getting notifications about it 🙄

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 11/05/2023 10:50

AnyoneElse1982 · 11/05/2023 10:38

Another friend asked my neighbour’s name. I said I don’t know his name and I said to her why and she said she can’t say, so I said is it to do with X woman. She said yes she’d seen them touching. Him her face and standing close (in a place near a park). They saw my friend and stopped touching.

Christ on a bike, when will you learn just to keep OUT of it?!

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AnyoneElse1982 · 11/05/2023 11:03

@WomanStanleyWoman2 you’re obviously interested as you’re the one who keeps commenting on the thread. If you just stop commenting or unfollow then that should work. Leads me to the question as to why you got involved in the first place!

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AnyoneElse1982 · 11/05/2023 11:03

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 11/05/2023 10:34

They were touching each other’s secluded places in the park? Dirty bastards.

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near not in (the park).

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WomanStanleyWoman2 · 11/05/2023 11:05

AnyoneElse1982 · 11/05/2023 11:03

@WomanStanleyWoman2 you’re obviously interested as you’re the one who keeps commenting on the thread. If you just stop commenting or unfollow then that should work. Leads me to the question as to why you got involved in the first place!

“Just stop commenting” - that’s ironic…

trisfreya · 11/05/2023 11:09

AnyoneElse1982 · 11/05/2023 10:38

Another friend asked my neighbour’s name. I said I don’t know his name and I said to her why and she said she can’t say, so I said is it to do with X woman. She said yes she’d seen them touching. Him her face and standing close (in a place near a park). They saw my friend and stopped touching.

What does exactly does this mean "they were touching"

DunkingMyDonuts · 11/05/2023 11:11

trisfreya · 11/05/2023 11:09

What does exactly does this mean "they were touching"

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What on earth do you THINK it means ffs??!

One person's hands were on another person presumably 🙄

MintyCedric · 11/05/2023 11:17

Dear God…whatever is going on you really need to get a hobby!

Anaemiafog · 11/05/2023 11:23

They very well may be but I live in a small town where some never let the truth get in the way of a good story. Twice, years ago DH was told I'd been seen out with other men. He trusts me but what if he was the jealous, abusive type? The men...my cousin and a gay friend.

Fremdschämen · 11/05/2023 11:24

AnyoneElse1982 · 10/05/2023 21:58

Touching each other where they thought they were hiding.

Not found yourself an absorbing hobby, yet?

TheHandbag · 11/05/2023 11:27

I'd ask how his wife and kids are doing and ask about summer holiday plans etc. I did this once and by the reaction of the guy it was obvious what was going on. The ow's face was a picture, she obviously didn't know she was the ow.

trisfreya · 11/05/2023 11:36

DunkingMyDonuts · 11/05/2023 11:11

What on earth do you THINK it means ffs??!

One person's hands were on another person presumably 🙄

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well to me it could mean they were holding hands ?

HTH

AnyoneElse1982 · 11/05/2023 11:41

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AnyoneElse1982 · 11/05/2023 11:43

Plenty of hobbies and a day job! In fact just off to pilates now. Been for a walk this morning with a friend and had a coffee.

Tennis tomorrow then lunch with friends. Being self employed is fab!

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AnyoneElse1982 · 11/05/2023 11:44

Touching - she had her hand on his arm he was touching her face.

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AnyoneElse1982 · 11/05/2023 11:44

TheHandbag · 11/05/2023 11:27

I'd ask how his wife and kids are doing and ask about summer holiday plans etc. I did this once and by the reaction of the guy it was obvious what was going on. The ow's face was a picture, she obviously didn't know she was the ow.

Yes, if I walk past and see them together I might.

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afrikat · 11/05/2023 11:58

I have a close male friend, his wife is one of my best friends but we spend time alone as we both enjoy the same kind of movies. He comes here, I go there, we go to the cinema together. We've met at soft play in holidays without our other halves. We chat at school pick up. We always great each other with a hug and kiss on the cheek. Absolutely zero going on

BeverlyHa · 11/05/2023 11:58

it is crazy, a father got with one of the mums in the school and no shame, anything.

BeverlyHa · 11/05/2023 12:00

afrikat · Today 11:58
I have a close male friend, his wife is one of my best friends but we spend time alone as we both enjoy the same kind of movies. He comes here, I go there, we go to the cinema together. We've met at soft play in holidays without our other halves. We chat at school pick up. We always great each other with a hug and kiss on the cheek. Absolutely zero going on

how sweet. zero, right????

Jenasaurus · 11/05/2023 12:00

Why not invite the wife of your neighbour for a coffee the same cafe they go to at the same time they visit, then she can see for herself without any need to say anything, this may seem odd, but at least this will show up if there is anything untoward going on.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 11/05/2023 12:01

Fremdschämen · 23/03/2023 12:57

"I think if I had a lovely neighbour and saw her DH potentially playing away on a regular basis I'd probably take pictures of them being very close, print them and drop them and drop them through her door."

Jeez! That would be a very shitty thing to do.

I also don't understand why the OP has created this post.

She says she does not intend to tell the wife and she is not seeking advice. What, then, is the point of the post unless she's keen to share her vicarious pleasure (for want of a better description) at having observed what she assumes is an affair. It really is none of her business why these two individuals are meeting so regularly.

I really agree with this. MN is such an affair-centric place and everybody who shouts affair follows up with a jubilant 'I know I'm RIGHT!', whatever the outcome. I feel sorry for the women who post here about their problems.

This OP though, this one just wants to talk about it. I don't really understand why but it seems very sad that they need to insert themselves into other people's lives. Why?

I'd rather focus on my own stuff than somebody else's personal business but there are so many busybodies on here looking for an affair going on... and when you're a hammer, everything looks like a nail...

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