I’m watching an affair unfold in front of me.

[AnyoneElse1982]

I don’t usually notice this stuff. I won’t be saying a word to anyone. But I can see an affair going on. It’s a neighbour of mine.

I’m seeing him with the OW more and more. She’s a friend of a friend (hence I notice her) very attractive. I’ve just seen them in the coffee shop together now.

I feel sad for my lady neighbour. I can see that even if something hasn’t actually happened (because how would I know) her H sees this OW is a lot, I see them together most days now, neighbour is a teacher. I do an early school run so see her leave. Each morning I see her H and OW walking together when I get back. It’s entirely coincidental my timings match.

I won’t say a word, but I can see it in front of me, body language has changed over time between them.

im only putting it here because I won’t be saying a word as I can’t know for sure. But I strongly suspect. It’s not something that would bother me, just I’m seeing it out of no choice of mine unfold in front of me.

Is this them?

😂

You might be onto something. You might not be. Best to say nothing without concrete evidence.

I'm surprised at some of the responses here. If it were my dh then Id want to know, and if that came from a neighbour observing odd behaviour then so be it

I’m surprised too. It’s clear. Oh well. Leave them to it. Just sad for my neighbour. Plus with her being teacher and all going on during the day. Wonder how she’ll ever find out.

If you’d believe a nosy neighbour over your husband, you’re in trouble.

😂Im so scared... obviously I meant with some form of solid proof, but you keep on getting riled up at anonymous online posts

If you haven’t seen them kiss or anything though the wife might be fully aware he spends time with this woman, they might just be friends. You don’t know their set up or who knows what.
I’m saying this because there was a point in time where I had a male friend who I was seen with every day when my husband went to work. There was a valid reason for it, my DH was fully aware of it and there was no affair. I became the talk of my street with horrible rumours going around, and the reality was far from what people assumed. My situation was unusual I suppose, but be careful not to repeat your thoughts, unless they are just to his wife if you feel you need to. There are people who still believe the rumours now about me and either avoid me or give me awkward glances. It can really tarnish someone’s reputation unfairly if it’s not true.

Touching her face and standing close while she touched his arm. Not sure I go around touching anyone’s face.

But the whole point is that the OP doesn't have solid proof. Or any proof other than a bit of “tea”.

You can accuse me of being riled up all you like, but I’m just dealing with the facts.

She’s not you.

My friend has proof. She saw them. They’re not just having tea. They’re touching in secluded places thinking they won’t be seen. Stepping away from each other when they have been seen.

Exactly. So why ask such a stupid question when you know the answer?

So someone should tell his wife on the basis of something her neighbour’s friend thinks she saw?

She didn’t think it she saw it! And neighbour knows her as a school mum.

@WomanStanleyWoman2 another thread for you to get your teeth into!

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4804279-can-you-spot-an-affair-a-mile-off?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

"I’m surprised too. It’s clear. Oh well. Leave them to it. Just sad for my neighbour. Plus with her being teacher and all going on during the day. Wonder how she’ll ever find out."

For goodness sake. You sound as though you are itching to tell her.

Chill out…6 weeks summer holidays coming up. She’ll have time to suss anything for herself without gossipy neighbours spreading poisonous rumours.

they could have been sexually touching (obvious proof), or they could have been not sexually touching (holding hands dodgy or hugging if one was crying - clearly you need to watch more soaps where things can be misconstrued? )

Or they could just be that sort of people. I have a friend who is extremely touchy feely, he strokes my arm, legs, hands etc. His friend even slaps his arse for fun. An American friend asked if it was normal in Europe (they are both from other countries) and we said that it isn't usual in the UK. However it means absolutely nothing for him. Some people are just more tactile than others.

exactly

I thought I’d come back and report that I was right, it’s a very sad situation. Two broken families. Neighbour was having an affair; he’s left his wife for affair lady. She also has kids etc.

That’s very sad @AnyoneElse1982 . So much harm caused by greedy entitled people 🙁

I think, I know it’s sad, I was hoping I was just being silly like everyone on here labelled me.

I saw his wife yesterday, felt very sad for her. He’s moved out.

Oh well - there was nothing you could have done about it. It was none of your business, so you did the right thing not getting involved.