Did he propose? Am I engaged?

[crymeout]

DP and I are in the process of buying a house. We've talked about getting married before and wanting to be married but we are going to wait until we move (we never explicitly said this but it was understood by both from circumstances). Last night, we were celebrating our house purchase (I wasn't feeling well at the weekend) and had quite a lot of Prosecco/champagne. At one point DP says 'now all that's left to do is get married' and I said 'yes, please' and we kissed. Does that count? A, I now engaged? DP is fast asleep so can't ask him yet but would you say that counts/assume you were engaged after that??

No, sorry! You could ask him?

I would say no. It was not a question - more like “what’s left to do is…” if that makes sense.

I’d say no, but it’s on the cards in the future.

I agree. I find these threads utterly baffling: they make me wonder if I'm from a different species. I just find it so hard to relate to the idea of investing so much attention and energy in trying to second guess whether or not a bloke meant to say that he wanted to marry you.

Fuck that shit, if you want to marry him ask him. If not don't. It's absolutely bizarre in this day and age that we play these ridiculous games.

No, you are not engaged you crazy person. 😂😂

Sorry, but I'm already married.

I consider myself a modern woman but that’s not a proposal and I think you’d be absolutely nuts to start planning a wedding!! All very well all these comments saying otherwise but honestly, most engagements involve a formal question and a ring and there’s nothing wrong with that. You could propose formally to him? it needs to be clear and at the moment it doesn’t feel clear enough for me. Congrats though sounds like lots of happiness is coming your way!

I think you could happily start planning the wedding but I wouldn't consider you engaged without an actual proposal 😂

We picked my engagement ring together, decided when we were going to marry and THEN he sorted the surprise proposal. It was beautiful and intimate and I'm so glad he did it properly.

You picked a ring, decided when you were going to marry, and yet somehow the proposal was a surprise? The amount of bullshit on this thread is amazing.

this would be a no for us - general chat

Yup. It’s mind blowing. We decided mutually that we were going to get married in the course of numerous discussions, then we chose my ring together and told people. A proposal would have made me howl with laughter or wonder if he’d completely lost the plot.

Lol

Kind of explains the "surprise" pregnancies on here as well if all the prep still doesn't mean planned😂

Indeed. A surprise to one of the parties at least. But in this case who the hell was surprised?

The ring

If you have to ask, then probably not...?

And why would you want to marry a man with whom you can't have an honest conversation?

😂

I’ve been married 28 years and there was no proposal. When I was in the bath one day he said we should get married and a couple of weeks later I went out and chose a ring which he then went and bought 😂😂. We don’t do romance 😁

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I think I must be on your planet.
I don't get some of this stuff. Especially a surprise proposal following discussion, planning and a ring?

Not yet I'd take it to mean part of the plan after buying your house

No no and no

No sorry.

No you are not engaged, sorry.

We didn't have a proposal, just decided to get married. I wasn't in any doubt though, whereas what your dp said isn't clear he doesn't just mean in future