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He took a dump...

165 replies

StinkerBoyfriend · 26/02/2023 17:58

Just met sister's new boyfriend (both in 50s so not kids) for the first time. She brought him to my house and within 20 mins he's upstairs having a dump in our only bathroom. Left soon after, leaving me to clean the skid marks and open the window.

I don't know why but I'm mad as hell. I know sometimes you have to go, so im probably being unfair but I feel really cheesed off. Like he's "marked his territory" my home somehow.

I'm being daft aren't I.

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MrsClatterbuck · 26/02/2023 19:58

iwantmyownicecreamvan · 26/02/2023 19:11

Yeah he should have cleaned up after himself the dirty bugger. It will be interesting to see what he does in future. If he takes a dump every time he visits, then yes - he is one of those men. (Wasn't there a thread a couple of years ago about a guy who took a shit in the toilet of an office where he was waiting for his daughter to have some counselling - even though there were public toilets in the same building?)

Yes I remember that thread. From what I remember what he did was pretty gross

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 26/02/2023 19:58

He was marking his territory. Is he a Labrador by chance?

purpledalmation · 26/02/2023 20:01

Well it's your sisters choice of bf and she'll be the one cleaning up the skiddies thank god.

Emmamoo89 · 26/02/2023 20:02

MrsJessePinkmann · 26/02/2023 19:09

Talk about leaving shit first impressions! 😂

🤣🤣

Emmamoo89 · 26/02/2023 20:04

Just get your partner to pee the skid marks away

aggymaggie · 26/02/2023 20:06

Some of these replies are bonkers. And it's bizarre that you would immediately jump to the conclusion that he's marking his territory rather than just performing a very normal bodily function. I can't think that anyone would be particularly comfy shitting in a new partners family's house the first time of meeting them but many many people (myself included) have bowel issues that mean they can't exactly be fussy about when and where they go.

It's very embarrassing and the childish comments about it being gross and unattractive only make people like me feel even worse about their condition.

Mariposista · 26/02/2023 20:06

Nothing wrong with having a poo - that’s what toilets are for. But he should have cleaned up after himself. Ughhh

Johnduttonsbuttocks · 26/02/2023 20:08

MunchMunch · 26/02/2023 18:00

Yes you're being daft, well, apart from having to clean his skids of the pot. He should have made sure he left it clean.

So she's not being daft at all, then.

WhimBarWhey · 26/02/2023 20:08

I actually think that's really disrespectful, not the poo because it happens, but the lack of cleaning up after oneself.

TorviShieldMaiden · 26/02/2023 20:10

The toilet roll cleaners, how do you use toilet roll to clean skids below the water mark? I’m always confused by this. I am a toilet brush owner.

Johnduttonsbuttocks · 26/02/2023 20:12

GCAcademic · 26/02/2023 19:05

It’s always men that do this, isn’t it? You don’t hear of women leaving putrid stenches and skid marks in other people’s houses.

YANBU, OP. Yes, toilets are for shitting in, but there’s no excuse to leave it in a state luck a fucking farmyard animal.

Men do this because they know women will clean it up.

Rellywobble · 26/02/2023 20:14

gamerchick · 26/02/2023 19:16

Toilet brushes aren't for cleaning off fresh skids. It's fucking weird how many people think they are.

It is a sort of marking thing some men do. Usually it's just pissing all over the toilet seat. Scruffy fuckers.

So how do you clean off a skid ?

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 26/02/2023 20:23

Wasn't there a thread a couple of years ago about a guy who took a shit in the toilet of an office where he was waiting for his daughter to have some counselling - even though there were public toilets in the same building?

This reminds me of the thread about the man who came to a ladies place of work every week with his child and done a massive dump when he was waiting on his child in the toilet. Anyone else remember this one?

This was the original thread (it rumbled on to further ones), but it looks like OP had her own messages deleted later on, so it's a bit Swiss cheesey.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/mumsnet_classics/3089895-AIBU-re-shitting-man

Btjdkfnn · 26/02/2023 20:23

Well I suppose people need to shit, but leaving your toilet filthy is disrespectful. Even if there was nothing to clean with, he should have done it with bog paper. A normal person would have been embarrassed at doing that and tried to fix it. My ds once shat at a relative’s house and there were skid marks. He was ages in the toilet because he was cleaning it with toilet paper and then washing his hands a lot. He told me so I went to check the toilet was ok. Spotless. He was only about 11yo at the time and even at that age knew that you don’t leave people’s houses like that. If an 11yo can do it, then this 50yo pig can as well. But he didn’t care.

Shitfather · 26/02/2023 20:26

I work at a rather prestigious institution. The female loos are utterly vile - used tissue paper on the floor, I flushed loos, sanitary bin open, piss on the toilet seat. Women are no better. Saying that, the state he left your bathroom in was gross. It would leave a negative first impression.

Whyisitsososohard · 26/02/2023 20:28

It's totally normal to need to poo. I prefer to do it at home but that's not always possible. It's really gross and unacceptable to leave the evidence in your loo. 🤮

aggymaggie · 26/02/2023 20:40

Btjdkfnn · 26/02/2023 20:23

Well I suppose people need to shit, but leaving your toilet filthy is disrespectful. Even if there was nothing to clean with, he should have done it with bog paper. A normal person would have been embarrassed at doing that and tried to fix it. My ds once shat at a relative’s house and there were skid marks. He was ages in the toilet because he was cleaning it with toilet paper and then washing his hands a lot. He told me so I went to check the toilet was ok. Spotless. He was only about 11yo at the time and even at that age knew that you don’t leave people’s houses like that. If an 11yo can do it, then this 50yo pig can as well. But he didn’t care.

How on earth do you clean skids at the bottom of the bowl, below water level with toilet roll? Are you honestly suggesting that people submerge their hands into toilet water to scrape off skids just to remove the evidence of using a toilet precisely for its intended purpose. This place is mental.

piedbeauty · 26/02/2023 21:28

@Cancankan - Going the the loo isn’t gross and disgusting. Taking a shit in someone’s house you’ve just met is gross.

You're bonkers! 🙄😂

Btjdkfnn · 26/02/2023 21:32

aggymaggie · 26/02/2023 20:40

How on earth do you clean skids at the bottom of the bowl, below water level with toilet roll? Are you honestly suggesting that people submerge their hands into toilet water to scrape off skids just to remove the evidence of using a toilet precisely for its intended purpose. This place is mental.

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Yep I am. No way would I leave turd stains in someone's house for them to see and clean up. After submerging hands, you can just wash them in the sink. No problem. It's only your own shit you'd be cleaning.

aggymaggie · 26/02/2023 21:46

@Btjdkfnn Shock

You would put your hands down someone else's toilet and literally scrape your own shit off rather than risk them seeing a skid? I am speechless.

JustAnotherManicNameChange · 26/02/2023 22:00

Taking a shit isn't an issue. Cleaning up after himself , is.

He might've been raised by an old friend of mine who told me "oh the boys will just pee on it until it goes away" when I asked for something to clean the toilet with after DD had done a poo. Grin

Btjdkfnn · 26/02/2023 22:19

aggymaggie · 26/02/2023 21:46

@Btjdkfnn Shock

You would put your hands down someone else's toilet and literally scrape your own shit off rather than risk them seeing a skid? I am speechless.

Yep, I would. I clean up my own shit. I would never have anyone else do it. Unless I was ill. There is basin by a toilet so hands can be washed.

Standbyguest · 26/02/2023 22:26

Everyone saying its a normal bodily function - it's not normal to walk into someone's house you've just met and go and take a long, messy shit. It's really not.

Cancankan · 26/02/2023 22:26

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VinoPleaseforOne · 26/02/2023 22:29

PrinceHaz · 26/02/2023 18:30

He doesn’t know or care. As far as he’s concerned, he simply used the loo.
From my perspective though, that would put me right off him.
To add, it’s surprisingly common and with women. I work in a school. Teachers in my building regularly leave enormous skids and a vile stench. Cleaning staff had to put up a sign saying, “Please leave the toilet as you would like to find it.” Made no difference so there’s a sign under it now that says , “Please clean the toilet bowl after use.” That has made a slight difference. Incredible how people have to be told, in no uncertain terms, in order for them to have a modicum of respect for those around them.

That’s gross.
Not my school I hope!