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When did it become acceptable to go out in pyjamas?

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Usernamebuffering · 23/02/2023 09:21

For context I live opposite a school and my work desk is at the window that looks out to the school, it means I can indulge in a bit of casual people watching while daydreaming and pretending to work.

I've noticed a large number of mums (never dad's weirdly) who turn up in pyjamas, big puffy coat, and slip on shoes or slippers for the 9am school run. I know everyone's situation is different and there are many many reasons why an individual finds themselves in this situation but I'm more interested in when did we become ok with it? I don't remember any parents in pyjamas when I was at school nor when my children (youngest is 16) were at primary school so is this a new phenomena?

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BodenCardiganNot · 23/02/2023 09:23

No. It's been done for years. I recall a school in Belfast being in the news because the principal wrote to all parents asking them to get dressed properly in the mornings.

QuertyGirl · 23/02/2023 09:26

OMG! The horror!

Seriously, they're just clothes. Who cares?

I sometimes do the school run in the t shirt I slept in plus joggers, unbrushed hair etc. a right scruff

Then go home to do a highly technical, very professional job for which I have a post grad and am very well paid.

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Strongbeatsskinny · 23/02/2023 09:28

My youngest is 20 and they used to roll up at 3.30 in their pyjamas but hair and makeup done as well as 9am.

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MockneyReject · 23/02/2023 09:31

Do you mean 'loungewear' - comfy bottoms and matching top - or actual, monogrammed tartan PJ's?
What's the difference, anyway?

MeatballHead · 23/02/2023 09:36

I don't know anyone who'd go out in their pj's to be honest, it a scuzzy thing to do
Just chuck on some jeans,not really big effort is it

IncompleteSenten · 23/02/2023 09:38

I remember starting to read threads on here on this subject a couple of years after I first joined up so I'm going to guess 2006.

QuertyGirl · 23/02/2023 09:39

MeatballHead · 23/02/2023 09:36

I don't know anyone who'd go out in their pj's to be honest, it a scuzzy thing to do
Just chuck on some jeans,not really big effort is it

What for?

I'm only going to take them off and put the scuzzy/comfy clothes on when I get back home.

Why make extra laundry? Totally illogical

BiasedBinding · 23/02/2023 09:39

There have been threads about this for years. I have never seen it in RL but I’m sure it happens. I sometimes see adults in pyjamas in the supermarket. I don’t care.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 23/02/2023 09:40

MeatballHead · 23/02/2023 09:36

I don't know anyone who'd go out in their pj's to be honest, it a scuzzy thing to do
Just chuck on some jeans,not really big effort is it

I can't put jeans on easily at all. So it's a massive effort for me.

winterbegone · 23/02/2023 09:41

I would say it's been happening for at least 10 years that I can remember. I wouldn't say many but a few turned up in obvious pjs. Not something I would ever do even when I was a Sahm I still got up dressed, done make up and hair to look presentable.

clarrylove · 23/02/2023 09:42

What's the difference between PJs and leisure/lounge wear? If they have big coats on, I can't see how you can say they are definitely PJs.

gretazoom · 23/02/2023 09:42

Yawn. Been done to death. Some people have health conditions that make getting dressed difficult for them. For some just getting their kids to school is an achievement. Some are just lazy too. Whatever the reason, it doesn't affect my life or bother me in the slightest. Life would be a lot easier if we just focused on our own lives and didn't judge other peoples choices.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 23/02/2023 09:43

clarrylove · 23/02/2023 09:42

What's the difference between PJs and leisure/lounge wear? If they have big coats on, I can't see how you can say they are definitely PJs.

This. I live in patterned leggings or black leggings. I have also had PJ's in the past with legging type bottoms. So unless they have Winnie the pooh in PJ's all over them I have no idea how people know

JackieDaws · 23/02/2023 09:45

Everything is too much effort apart from guzzling biscuits these days.

oldwhyno · 23/02/2023 09:45

It’s only become acceptable to some people, and I’d hazard a guess that they’re in a fairly small minority at a national level.

BiasedBinding · 23/02/2023 09:46

JackieDaws · 23/02/2023 09:45

Everything is too much effort apart from guzzling biscuits these days.

If that’s true for some people it doesn’t remotely bother me

BetterArf · 23/02/2023 09:46

I saw a young woman in Sainsbury’s on Sunday wearing pjs, fluffy dressing gown and slippers, just casually doing her shopping in the middle of the afternoon. It made me smile.

Although I wouldn’t wear indoor slippers on the manky streets of London.

latetothefisting · 23/02/2023 09:48

The Pj's themselves aren't scuzzy, it's the fact that if you're wearing Pj's suggests that a) you haven't washed and b) you're still wearing last night's underwear (or, if you don't wear underwear under Pj's none at all). So you're just wearing things you've been sweating in all night. It's just a bit grim and lacking in any self respect.

I also don't see the point- there is so much loungewear now that is just as comfy as Pj's but actually thick enough to be worn as outer clothing so you don't see their arsecrack. It would take less than 60 seconds to change into those.

In answer to your q my brother used to live near the first supermarket in the uk that tried to ban people shopping in their Pj's and that was in 2010 so I'd imagine it started being a big enough thing that enough people were doing it rather than just the odd one or two roughly around then? But I imagine it's increased since lockdown where there was no reason to dress up for a ages -I know my day to day wear is loads scruffier since then but crucially it is DAY wear!

TaRaDeBumDeAy · 23/02/2023 09:48

When did it become acceptable to go out in pyjamas?

It's not.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 23/02/2023 09:49

latetothefisting · 23/02/2023 09:48

The Pj's themselves aren't scuzzy, it's the fact that if you're wearing Pj's suggests that a) you haven't washed and b) you're still wearing last night's underwear (or, if you don't wear underwear under Pj's none at all). So you're just wearing things you've been sweating in all night. It's just a bit grim and lacking in any self respect.

I also don't see the point- there is so much loungewear now that is just as comfy as Pj's but actually thick enough to be worn as outer clothing so you don't see their arsecrack. It would take less than 60 seconds to change into those.

In answer to your q my brother used to live near the first supermarket in the uk that tried to ban people shopping in their Pj's and that was in 2010 so I'd imagine it started being a big enough thing that enough people were doing it rather than just the odd one or two roughly around then? But I imagine it's increased since lockdown where there was no reason to dress up for a ages -I know my day to day wear is loads scruffier since then but crucially it is DAY wear!

It doesn't take less than 60 seconds for everyone

Nimbostratus100 · 23/02/2023 09:49

gretazoom · 23/02/2023 09:42

Yawn. Been done to death. Some people have health conditions that make getting dressed difficult for them. For some just getting their kids to school is an achievement. Some are just lazy too. Whatever the reason, it doesn't affect my life or bother me in the slightest. Life would be a lot easier if we just focused on our own lives and didn't judge other peoples choices.

exactly, I have limited movement in my arms, and some days pj tops are the only option - and yes, I go shopping in them!

And if I am going into hospital, knowing medical staff need clear access to my chest, I get on the train in them to!

hauntedvagina · 23/02/2023 09:50

20 years ago I was living in Bondi and it was perfectly acceptable to grab a coffee in your PJ's on a Sunday morning.

DoorstoManual · 23/02/2023 09:50

It is the height of scuzz and generally seen at working class schools. IMO

BiasedBinding · 23/02/2023 09:50

“The Pj's themselves aren't scuzzy, it's the fact that if you're wearing Pj's suggests that a) you haven't washed and b) you're still wearing last night's underwear (or, if you don't wear underwear under Pj's none at all). So you're just wearing things you've been sweating in all night. It's just a bit grim and lacking in any self respect.”

I have never ever put that much thought into what other people are wearing and when they last washed or changed their underwear.

Fakecrazy · 23/02/2023 09:51

It's not acceptable. At all. It's grim.