When did it become acceptable to go out in pyjamas?

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For context I live opposite a school and my work desk is at the window that looks out to the school, it means I can indulge in a bit of casual people watching while daydreaming and pretending to work.

I've noticed a large number of mums (never dad's weirdly) who turn up in pyjamas, big puffy coat, and slip on shoes or slippers for the 9am school run. I know everyone's situation is different and there are many many reasons why an individual finds themselves in this situation but I'm more interested in when did we become ok with it? I don't remember any parents in pyjamas when I was at school nor when my children (youngest is 16) were at primary school so is this a new phenomena?

Not this old chestnut again 🙄

They will think it’s perfectly acceptable and normal to do the same.

That’s the reason my child’s school try to discourage it. If you saw your mum and others turn up to parents evening in thier pyjamas like it was the most normal thing in the world, you’d grow up thinking it was fine to turn up to meetings having made not the slightest bit of effort.

I get that some people have pain issues, depression or other health issues that can make things difficult for them. I understand that. I understand that there are some people who it takes every ounce of energy in them to get their children up, dressed and ready for the day.

But that’s not everyone.

Some people are just lazy and in some areas, it’s just the norm to be a slovenly twat. Their children have little chance as it is, let alone having not being arsed to get dressed as an example.

You know this for a fact do you? No.

I’ve always wondered if tte posters saying it’s ok would actually turn up in PJ for the school run or if it’s all fur show and looking cool.

I mean, if Pj are just clothes, are we also ok for people to do their shopping in Pj and go round the supermarket in the clothes they’ve slept in too??
Would it be ok for a nightdress too? Or is that pushing too far?

I mean not changing clothes and getting dressed is one thing they would look on a PIP assessment as a sign you’re nit coping. A GO would also look at that as a possible sign of depression etc…
None if that is telling me it’s a normal thing to do.

Note: not talking about loungewear btw. Loungewear is not a Pj that you’ve slept in.

@Alighttouchonthetiller but it's none of your business if someone simply can't be aresed to get dressed or whether it's because it's for physical/medical/mental health reasons.
Why do you care so much about what others do?

Exactly, I wear leggings a lot too, or close fitted joggers that could be mistaken for PJs, I would go anywhere in either of those. I personally don't care what anyone else wears. I wouldn't actually go out somewhere in my PJs, but sometimes go and empty the bin at the front of the house in them or go and water the garden in them on summer mornings.

Who says I have no thought for them though? My comment was more towards the vast majority who are not disabled but can't be bothered to get dressed before going out.

I wouldn’t do it as it seems the epitome of laziness and dare I say, chavvy (or ‘common’ as we used to say). I’ve just treated myself to a couple of pairs of ‘nice’ PJs to relax (in the house) with.

This is one of those things where other people might do things that I choose not to, but it has absolutely no impact on me whatsoever, so I don’t care. Leaving dog shit on pavements, littering, revving cars late at night etc etc yes those I find annoying as they have a direct impact. What other people choose to wear has absolutely no impact on my life. Why would I waste any thinking time on how often someone else who doesn’t even live with me washes or changes their underwear? I can’t imagine giving that any headroom. Some people clearly find it upsetting/offensive to see. I don’t. I might worry about someone I know well if they suddenly started going out in pyjamas - it might be a sign they aren’t ok. But generally seeing other people out and about it pyjamas? It’s not something I see often and if I do, I don’t care.

You would hate me, I go to work in my work pjs for a night shift.

I went to a children’s art event over half term, and a mother arrived wearing pyjamas, dressing gown and slippers. At 1pm. I did a slight double take when I saw her at first but on reflection I assumed she was someone who is really struggling. At least she’d brought her child out, which can be hard to do when physically or mentally unwell, and it was an activity which included a free lunch so the child was being fed too.

As for the morning run… I would definitely throw on jeans at least under a long coat, but obviously the pyjama mums don’t care about being judged, which can be seen as a good thing. I’ve been known to do a drop off wearing an avocado Oodie (not leaving the car obviously) but would be very embarrassed if something happened, car breaking down for example, and I had to get out 😳

What about changing your knickers before you leave the house?

Or maybe they are night shift workers, come home in filthy clothes, washed and changed into clean pyjamas, school run then bed

I can understand why people are getting all defensive - it's not nice to realise people really do notice you slobbing about in your pyjamas and think you're an idle waster because of it.

I find it very unlikely you know if people are suffering from disability by just looking at them and the clothes they have decided to wear that day

Went to manchester for uni in 1999, used to see people wandering down to Netto in stained, stretched out at knees/elbows sloppy grim pjs. Looked grim/ desperate but they're entitled to do what they want. I'm also entitled to have my own opinion on the matter too and mine is that it can look awful.

This aimed at me?

I have already said that I don't go out in PJ's. I don't go out at all really but that's by the by

Your attitude I'd the one that stinks. Not the people in their pajamas.

It breaks down boundaries about what are essentially private indoor clothing that you wear in bed and strangers being used to seeing people in them.

You've clearly never been in the tesco queue trying not to breathe at the unwashed sweat coming off the person in front/behind you then. Or seen their arse crack out of ill fitting/see through baggy cartoon pj bottoms.

I also don't like men not wearing tops in the summer or thin leggings that are completely see through!

I just don't think it's asking much to be fully dressed if you're going out in public, in day wear if you're out in the day! Couldn't care less if that day wear is scruffy as long as it covers your private areas sufficently. But apparently even that bare minimum is elitist and snobby!

I've got to admit I also don't understand the rationale that someone is too infirm to slip off a pair of Pj's and pull on joggers but is fine to walk to the school and hang around the gates, or drive to and wander round the shop.

They’re kind of artificial boundaries though. What does it matter if people see what you wear in bed (unless you go to bed naked!)? Most children’s pyjamas are basically leggings/tops exactly as they wear during the day. You can say “I want to maintain those boundaries for myself” but it doesn’t actually mean anything to extrapolate to other people - if they don’t care that other people see what they wear to bed, what’s it to you?

Definitely was happening 15 years ago because my kids head sent a letter requesting that sleepwear shouldn't be worn when dropping off and collecting children. Local Tesco had a no sleepwear sign up too. I wouldn't dream of going out in sleepwear myself but some people have rather odd standards in my opinion.

i go to my depot injection appointments in my pjs soemtimes. nev er did it ont he school run though. i do it because i have limited physical capability to get dressed most days and i have to get to the appointment so if it means going in pjs then thats what it means. im decently covered, its not like i show up in a scrap of lace and fluffy mules

Listen I'm not going back and forth with you. IF THE SHOE FITS, WEAR IT. My opinion stands and so does yours. TF!!

That is how I actually feel a lot of the time. More biscuits pls.

It isn't.
That's all.