Page 4 | When did it become acceptable to go out in pyjamas?

Usernamebuffering · 2023-02-23T09:21:49+00:00

For context I live opposite a school and my work desk is at the window that looks out to the school, it means I can indulge in a bit of casual people watching while daydreaming and pretending to work. I've noticed a large number of mums (never dad's weirdly) who turn up in pyjamas, big puffy coat, and slip on shoes or slippers for the 9am school run. I know everyone's situation is different and there are many many reasons why an individual finds themselves in this situation but I'm more interested in when did we become ok with it? I don't remember any parents in pyjamas when I was at school nor when my children (youngest is 16) were at primary school so is this a new phenomena?

BiasedBinding · 23/02/2023 10:42

latetothefisting · 23/02/2023 10:38

You've clearly never been in the tesco queue trying not to breathe at the unwashed sweat coming off the person in front/behind you then. Or seen their arse crack out of ill fitting/see through baggy cartoon pj bottoms.

I also don't like men not wearing tops in the summer or thin leggings that are completely see through!

I just don't think it's asking much to be fully dressed if you're going out in public, in day wear if you're out in the day! Couldn't care less if that day wear is scruffy as long as it covers your private areas sufficently. But apparently even that bare minimum is elitist and snobby!

I've got to admit I also don't understand the rationale that someone is too infirm to slip off a pair of Pj's and pull on joggers but is fine to walk to the school and hang around the gates, or drive to and wander round the shop.

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Of course there are smelly people out there, there always have been. But I don’t use a great deal of headspace thinking about when people around me last washed or changed their underwear, that would be a bit weird, I have better things to do and think about

Merlott · 23/02/2023 10:43

Agree with pp, around 2006 I'd say. When joggers came into fashion. Juicy Couture, Pineapple etc. Supermarkets trying to ban people going in in PJs, all over the news.

MyriadOfTravels · 23/02/2023 10:45

@AllThingsServeTheBeam I am disabled (and close to housebound)

I STILL don’t consider going out in PJ ok.
If getting dressed is such an issue, because jets say if pain, fatigue or depression , I also don’t expect them to be all jolly and spending 15~20 mins in the playground chatting to other parents.

There ARE some reasons why someone would go out in Pj. One U.K. my close friends has done that a few times - going out because the dog needs walking but they couldn’t face anything else. They didn’t spend time chatting to people etc… though. It’s always a quick walk, taking routes that avoids people etc… because somehow they actually feel very aware and self conscious this is nit the ‘done thing’

bellac11 · 23/02/2023 10:49

BiasedBinding · 23/02/2023 10:40

They’re kind of artificial boundaries though. What does it matter if people see what you wear in bed (unless you go to bed naked!)? Most children’s pyjamas are basically leggings/tops exactly as they wear during the day. You can say “I want to maintain those boundaries for myself” but it doesn’t actually mean anything to extrapolate to other people - if they don’t care that other people see what they wear to bed, what’s it to you?

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No, we teach children about boundaries and privacy. Children need to know that they get dressed in clothing for going outdoors and being with strangers. They wear private bed clothing in front of their immediate family.

It isnt appropriate to teach children that any old stranger can see them in their bedtime attire.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 23/02/2023 10:50

MyriadOfTravels · 23/02/2023 10:45

@AllThingsServeTheBeam I am disabled (and close to housebound)

I STILL don’t consider going out in PJ ok.
If getting dressed is such an issue, because jets say if pain, fatigue or depression , I also don’t expect them to be all jolly and spending 15~20 mins in the playground chatting to other parents.

There ARE some reasons why someone would go out in Pj. One U.K. my close friends has done that a few times - going out because the dog needs walking but they couldn’t face anything else. They didn’t spend time chatting to people etc… though. It’s always a quick walk, taking routes that avoids people etc… because somehow they actually feel very aware and self conscious this is nit the ‘done thing’

I've not said that I personally do either. But some of the harsh judgements on here are completely uncalled for. It doesn't impact anyone's life at all. The person who is stood in the playground in obvious PJ's obviously doesn't give a shit what people think either or they wouldn't be there wearing that.

I just hate to see the snidey shitty comments about how easy it is to just do this or that when for some people it is far from easy

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 23/02/2023 10:52

bellac11 · 23/02/2023 10:49

No, we teach children about boundaries and privacy. Children need to know that they get dressed in clothing for going outdoors and being with strangers. They wear private bed clothing in front of their immediate family.

It isnt appropriate to teach children that any old stranger can see them in their bedtime attire.

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Ever been camping?

Emptycrackedcup · 23/02/2023 10:56

QuertyGirl · 23/02/2023 09:26

OMG! The horror!

Seriously, they're just clothes. Who cares?

I sometimes do the school run in the t shirt I slept in plus joggers, unbrushed hair etc. a right scruff

Then go home to do a highly technical, very professional job for which I have a post grad and am very well paid.

I agree, on face value it looks lazy, but it's probably more efficient to do this and then go home and get ready for the day. Who cares, they're dropping their kids off to school, not going for a job interview 🙄

vodkaredbullgirl · 23/02/2023 10:57

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 23/02/2023 10:52

Ever been camping?

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Loved camping, go to the toilet block in your pj's and wellies lol

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 23/02/2023 10:58

vodkaredbullgirl · 23/02/2023 10:57

Loved camping, go to the toilet block in your pj's and wellies lol

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We have a motorhome and the kids spend most of the morning in their PJ's and wellies playing with countless other kids in their PJ's and wellies. Most of the adults at least cook breakfast or have a brew in their PJ's. Apparently all rules go out the window in a field!

RoseBucket · 23/02/2023 10:59

My daughter is a trainer primarily school teacher and was shocked when she first saw this at afternoon pick up however has got used to it now, and at her school it isn’t lounge wear, leggings which I tend to wear at home, sometimes dog walking but actual PJs.

Whenharrymetsmelly · 23/02/2023 11:00

latetothefisting · 23/02/2023 09:48

The Pj's themselves aren't scuzzy, it's the fact that if you're wearing Pj's suggests that a) you haven't washed and b) you're still wearing last night's underwear (or, if you don't wear underwear under Pj's none at all). So you're just wearing things you've been sweating in all night. It's just a bit grim and lacking in any self respect.

I also don't see the point- there is so much loungewear now that is just as comfy as Pj's but actually thick enough to be worn as outer clothing so you don't see their arsecrack. It would take less than 60 seconds to change into those.

In answer to your q my brother used to live near the first supermarket in the uk that tried to ban people shopping in their Pj's and that was in 2010 so I'd imagine it started being a big enough thing that enough people were doing it rather than just the odd one or two roughly around then? But I imagine it's increased since lockdown where there was no reason to dress up for a ages -I know my day to day wear is loads scruffier since then but crucially it is DAY wear!

Who sweats all night in their PJs? Gross. Maybe you do, in which case, yes you should get changed! Even undies, mine aren't so disgusting they need to be changed immediately when I wake up

bellac11 · 23/02/2023 11:02

Whenharrymetsmelly · 23/02/2023 11:00

Who sweats all night in their PJs? Gross. Maybe you do, in which case, yes you should get changed! Even undies, mine aren't so disgusting they need to be changed immediately when I wake up

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Everyone sweats at night and also all of our orifices have moisture coming out of them, even yours.

BiasedBinding · 23/02/2023 11:02

bellac11 · 23/02/2023 10:49

No, we teach children about boundaries and privacy. Children need to know that they get dressed in clothing for going outdoors and being with strangers. They wear private bed clothing in front of their immediate family.

It isnt appropriate to teach children that any old stranger can see them in their bedtime attire.

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My children don’t go out in their pyjamas because I like to keep them clean for bed. (Camping and out of hours medical issues aside). I don’t care what other people do.

BiasedBinding · 23/02/2023 11:04

This is just one of those things where I have certain rules for my own family, other people have different rules. In this instance, other people’s rules have no bearing on my own. My children are capable of understanding that we do things a particular way, other people do things differently, it’s no bother to me

butterfliedtwo · 23/02/2023 11:08

IncompleteSenten · 23/02/2023 09:38

I remember starting to read threads on here on this subject a couple of years after I first joined up so I'm going to guess 2006.

This is not new. I lived in England years ago, and people went food shopping in onesies. PJ with a coat on for school run seems tame.

HoppingPavlova · 23/02/2023 11:16

What about changing your knickers before you leave the house

I’ve just made your day! I wear pj’s out AND change my undies!

I get up, grab fresh undies as I exit bed on way to morning toilet trip, change undies. Then I keep wearing my pj’s all day and at some point shower. I then put another pair of clean knickers on and a fresh set of pj’s. So if I duck out to get patrol or grab milk/bread/coffee I have fresh undies and may or may not be wearing fresh pj’s put on straight after shower. So best not to assume the person behind you in queue has dirty knickers and their pj’s may or may not be fresher than your own clothes you have put on in the morning.

I do this to save laundry. Was the best thing about Covid and I ain’t going back. I only get changed if I go into the office, maybe once a week or fortnight, and if I’m going out to a restaurant or out for the day as opposed to a trip to the shop or whatnot.

howaboutchocolate · 23/02/2023 11:18

Pyjamas are usually just tops and bottoms made out of cotton. How is that different from leggings and a top? Or joggers and a top? They're all clothes.

Some nighties look very similar to dresses, would you be able to tell the difference and does it matter?

GraceandMolly · 23/02/2023 11:18

I would like to see some example pictures of these pyjamas.

AgathaX · 23/02/2023 11:22

This is something I rarely see, thankfully, but when I do I cringe at it. It's showing a complete lack of standards and giving children, who've had to get dressed into schoool clothes each morning, a really bad example of adult behaviour. Do people turn up to the office in the PJs? Is it acceptable to go to work on the tills at the supermarket in your dressing gown? Of course not, so why is it acceptable to turn up for the school run in them?

oldwhyno · 23/02/2023 11:23

Why is it only women that do this? Never see men going out in pyjamas. Men could make all the same excuses about health conditions or not having time, but it's just not something you see men do.

Pearlygates · 23/02/2023 11:23

I can clearly tell if a PJ is a PJ. It's really not rocket science. Sometimes it's even accessorized by their robes and fuzzy slippers 😂

Arthurflecksfacepaint · 23/02/2023 11:24

GraceandMolly · 23/02/2023 11:18

I would like to see some example pictures of these pyjamas.

I’d take a photo out my office window for you now of the two women stood outside the shop having an argument in pyjamas, dressing gowns and slippers, but I’m not into sharing photos of strangers.

(I am doing a really boring bit of work).

Alighttouchonthetiller · 23/02/2023 11:25

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 23/02/2023 10:34

This aimed at me?

I have already said that I don't go out in PJ's. I don't go out at all really but that's by the by

Your attitude I'd the one that stinks. Not the people in their pajamas.

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Were you mentioned in it by name? No. You weren't. Sometimes it's not all about you, love.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 23/02/2023 11:25

Pearlygates · 23/02/2023 11:23

I can clearly tell if a PJ is a PJ. It's really not rocket science. Sometimes it's even accessorized by their robes and fuzzy slippers 😂

You really wouldn't be able to tell my pj leggings from my none pj leggings. They're exactly the same.

I also have plain t shirt tops that have been purchased as pajamas but have made it into my tops drawer. Again.. you really wouldn't be able to tell

Goodread1 · 23/02/2023 11:33

I think it depends if someone has been in hospital come out or has a disability/ or ill its OK,

Apart from that,

It comes across as Skanky
especially smell of Over powering a la natural of B.O aroma strong overtones

Which is definitely a distintive/memorable unforgettable unmistakable Aroma

When did it become acceptable to go out in pyjamas?

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