When did it become acceptable to go out in pyjamas?

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For context I live opposite a school and my work desk is at the window that looks out to the school, it means I can indulge in a bit of casual people watching while daydreaming and pretending to work.

I've noticed a large number of mums (never dad's weirdly) who turn up in pyjamas, big puffy coat, and slip on shoes or slippers for the 9am school run. I know everyone's situation is different and there are many many reasons why an individual finds themselves in this situation but I'm more interested in when did we become ok with it? I don't remember any parents in pyjamas when I was at school nor when my children (youngest is 16) were at primary school so is this a new phenomena?

This feels like a question from 2012. I feel like that was peak ‘why are people wearing pyjamas to Asda?’ era. Same as the fascination with Liverpool girls bobbing about town on a Saturday afternoon with their hair in curlers. I'm not sure if they still do that in 2023.

I have mobility issues and difficulties doing things but I wouldn't be caught dead out in my PJ's.

Getting washed, clean and dressed is something I need to do to feel like I'm part of the world and if it means getting up at 6.30 to do it, it is what it is.

It's not acceptable and they're definitely not setting a good example for their children. It's embarrassing.

@PleasantZen

You change your knickers every time you leave the house?

I'm in an three or four times sometimes. Four pairs a day would be excessive

Judging others for wearing them is a far, far worse example

You sound very defensive @QuertyGirl , it's your prerogative to dress how you like but it looks bloody awful and slovenly

It is not acceptable at all in my mind but I am in Dublin and in certain parts there are people that go around like this all of the time. I do not want to judge but they are usually the type to refer to them as 'bejarmers' and they have zero shame walking around like that. There are actually signs up in lots of places here stating no pyjamas allowed in store, that is how bad the pj wearing got here over the years. It skangerism IMO.

In your opinion it looks that way.

I think you're finally getting it

I think you are missing the point @QuertyGirl it looks like you have very low standards

About 20 years. Think there are usually two camps of pyjama wearers one’s with Ill health or those that lack self care i.e. depression. You can usually differentiate them from attention seeking camp that are wearing full face of make up, flashy pjs and glamorous fluffy slippers.
First lot have my sympathies and wouldn’t judge, latter are just beyond tedious, but are ultimately harmless, so who cares.

As long as someone's choices do not negatively impact me. I do not give them much head space but none of my or my dcs friendship groups consist of pajama mums.

I have seen more people in supermarkets in dressing gowns and nightwear.

I do not get the relevance of your job or your postgraduate degree to whether or not it’s acceptable to go out in pyjamas.

I do, when it comes to everyday clothes.

Yes @QuertyGirl I'm definitely judging because the ONLY people I'VE ever witnessed doing it are the same people that are standing smoking fags and swearing out loud while surrounded by young primary school aged children. That's not something I want my children to think is acceptable.

@HowardKirksConscience

There are several people on this thread equating wearing pjs outside with being unemployed

The women who that at my school are dressed up to the nines.

I think working from home has lowered everyone's standards a bit, including my own. I wear jeans and a top and no makeup when working from home whereas I would have worn a suit and a full face of make up in the office. But I always get up, showered and dressed prior to getting DS ready for school. I do think if you don't get dressed, and are actually wearing the PJs you slept in to go out, rather than daytime lounge wear, you're inviting 'why do I have to get dressed if you don't?' It's certainly what I would have said to my mum in that scenario and who can be bothered with the aggro.

 @QuertyGirl

I suspect that those getting their (sparkling clean) knickers in a twist over this, are more annoyed that us scuzzy scruffs aren't desperate to impress.

Sadly, this is a thing. I come from up North and it's common around these parts. I can never understand the laziness of these mums. There have been mornings when I've barely slept, but I always make an effort to at least put some clean clothes on and proper footwear before leaving the house! I would've been so embarrassed if my mum had brought me to school in her pjs!

Not at all. It's basic decency. Plus it's a bad impression to show dcs.

I presume you're scuzzy?

Couldn't take you seriously as a professional if you can't spend 2 minutes to put on some clothes before you leave the house. I don't dress to impress anyone but I'm definitely not gonna roll out of bed and take my kids to school or roll in to the supermarkets in my robe. I'd make just a bit of an effort as I would want to set a good example for my kids. No one needs to see you in the clothes you slept in. Its nasty.

@CuriousMama

It's only a "bad impression" if you actively teach them to judge others on appearances.

That's what you're doing whenever they over hear a "urgh, what is she wearing" comment from you.

I don't like it personally, I feel like if you don't have time to get into some actual daytime clothes for the school run, set the alarm 5 mins earlier and hey presto!
Also not sure on the "extra laundry" comments. If you're only putting the clothes on for the school run and back into scruffs when you get home, the school run clothes won't need washing for ages!