When did it become acceptable to go out in pyjamas?

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For context I live opposite a school and my work desk is at the window that looks out to the school, it means I can indulge in a bit of casual people watching while daydreaming and pretending to work.

I've noticed a large number of mums (never dad's weirdly) who turn up in pyjamas, big puffy coat, and slip on shoes or slippers for the 9am school run. I know everyone's situation is different and there are many many reasons why an individual finds themselves in this situation but I'm more interested in when did we become ok with it? I don't remember any parents in pyjamas when I was at school nor when my children (youngest is 16) were at primary school so is this a new phenomena?

It's a matter of standards @QuertyGirl , it looks slovenly and dirty
Sympathise @AllThingsServeTheBeam or joggers anything that not pj's is what I mean

I wouldn't say it is acceptable.
It's lazy.
But then there are a lot of lazy people out there.

I can't find it in me to be bothered by it, I always just think... Poor thing must be knackered, probably been running round after kids all morning and hasn't even had time to put proper pants on or brush her hair.

In the midst of the pit of my depression I'd go out in my smurfs dressing gown because I couldn't be fucked putting clothes on and just wanted a treacle tart in my face right now. Life is hard and sometimes putting yourself together is just bottom of the priorities list.

I wouldn't say it was acceptable.
People with disabilities have a vaster range of leisure wear than there has ever been to choose from.
Wearing nightwear, especially if it has been worn in bed overnight, is a step too far into slovenliness for me.

Its not acceptable and isnt appropriate, I dont thnk children should be used to seeing people in the clothing they sleep in

And it isnt new, this has been going on for over 10 years I think. People turning up to Asda and the like in their night clothes. Horrible

It’s the norm where I live.

Only they don’t bother with coats, it’s dressing gowns in the school playground.

Still, it’s better than summer when the school playground is full of dads with their tops off.

When it’s time for parents evenings, the school send out emails asking parents not to come in night ware and in the summer, they ask men to please wear tops to the appointments.

Imagine turning up to speak to your child’s teacher in your dressing gown?

It’s pathetic.

We live opposite the local shop and my office looks out the front of the house. I am nosey and and procrastinator, so I see people all day every day popping in and out in night clothes, and they are very obviously pyjamas and dressing gowns and not just slouchy tracksuits.

I started seeing it maybe 20 years ago? I'm 38 and don't remember it at school.

Well, Jonny Fingers was doing it in the late 1970s, and it's never really gone away since.

Ebbs and flows in popularity - wasn't it A Thing in the early 00s? Accessorised by teenage girls with a dummy?

Hmm… I used to be very sneery about PJs at school gates. I still think it looks really gross and scuzzy.

however, while experiencing long covid and depression I found myself driving my son to school in my PJs. It took me every effort to get him ready and in the car.

Id go straight back home and collapse back in bed.

so now I’m more aware that some people are struggling.

I agree. How long does it takes to put on a pair of leggings and top?

When I'd just had dc3, and was wrangling him and a toddler to take my 4yo to school (who struggled a bit starting reception), I used to sleep in leggings or joggers and a t shirt so in the morning if I didn't have a minute to change I wouldn't be out in my pjs so just because someone is "dressed" doesn't mean they are fresh clothes!

It is still not acceptable, but some people have no boundaries.

That's your opinion. Why should it matter to me?

Are you important to me?

I’m in my mid 30s and I’ve always been aware that some people do it.

I don’t (with the exception of one week when I was horrendously unwell, and just couldn’t function - but I didn’t get out of the car).

I do pop to the wheelie bin in my pyjamas though, so I’m probably a bit scummy by mumsnet standards.

Honestly though, pyjamas cover more than many clothes these days, so I couldn’t get too worked up about what other people do. In terms of the comments about washing etc, there’s people in clean pyjamas and people in dirty clothes, it’s no way to tell really.

There could be 101 reasons why they dress the way they do but does it actually have an impact on anyone else's life?
No...it doesn't.
I wish people would learn to mind their beeswax and worry about their own lives instead of other people's.

What terrible things will seeing this do to the kids?

Depends really on how much pain I'm in. Sometimes I have to just give up. How long does it take you?

I think it's awful, but a great many people don't give a shit about anything these days except what is most convenient for them. They aren't bothered about what other people think of them. This is touted as being a positive thing but I actually think considering what other people think of us is an important part of how society works.

The pyjamas/slippers/dressing gown thing is grim.

I find getting dressed difficult because of mobility issues, but I wouldn't dream of going out without getting dressed. It's lazy & slovenly.

If you can get you PJ bottoms on, you can get a pair of trousers on.

It's disgusting and lazy. Not acceptable. I'm glad I don't live in a place where people do this.

They will also turn out to be utter slobs with no self-respect.

60 seconds tops

How utterly amazing that would be. Now have a little thought to those that can't even put a pair of socks on.

Most people can, though. I am sorry you can't, but the vast majority of people can dress themselves but choose not to.

With the exception of disability or illness, I think it smacks of the more general infantilisation of adults I am seeing in society. Everything is somebody else’s fault, people acting in the workplace as if it’s a privilege to have them there rather than their being paid to do a job, ‘adulting’ is somehow optional, to be remarked upon, and gets you brownie points, and so on.

Having had the misfortune of standing in a supermarket queue behind a young woman wearing thin pyjamas she’d clearly slept in and having to smell unwashed nethers, I am firmly in the ‘leave your pyjamas at home, have some self respect and be clean and tidy if you’re going out where other people are’ camp.