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Ioan Gruffudd/Alice Evans

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Notatallanamechange · 28/01/2023 00:46

Don’t know if anyone has followed this, but she had an arrest warrant issued today for failing to appear in court for breaching a restraining order he has for domestic abuse. Their poor children seem like an afterthought.

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Rosiefifi · 30/01/2023 17:49

CyberSpaceTraveller · 30/01/2023 17:41

Has Alice even been arrested yet? Not seen anything in the news and it's been a few days now. Surely they know where she is, shouldn't be that hard to find her?

TBH I can't imagine the mentality of a man who wants to see the mother of his children arrested after obviously going through a massive, very public breakdown after he left her. The primary carer of his DC no less.

Does anyone know if the DC are with him? If they're still with her I'd be very concerned that the threat of a very public arrest would tip her even more over the edge.

What was she doing to justify arrest? Still talking about him (obviously he needs to shut her up as it's harming his career) or did she carry out/threaten violence or something?

Seems very over the top to me or am I missing something?

She's due in court today , I don't think she will be going to prison , a slap on the wrist. She's been posting crap for ages about both Ioan and Bianca. She was harassing his employers and his mother. She was acting bat shit, I think she broke the restraining order by insulting them on social media again. Why is she putting her kids through it ? She's a selfish individual , it's such a shame. Where's her dignity.

Vivi0 · 30/01/2023 17:50

TBH I can't imagine the mentality of a man who wants to see the mother of his children arrested after obviously going through a massive, very public breakdown after he left her. The primary carer of his DC no less.

I’m really torn on this.

On the one hand, she needs to be stopped from posting what she does online, especially for the sake of her kids.

On the other hand, I don’t think I would ever forgive my dad for doing something like this. I’m not sure it matters to them how bad she is behaving online, she is still their mum. I can’t imagine how traumatising this would be for them.

hothands · 30/01/2023 17:50

R u seriously suggesting he is happy all the time and not caring of the situation because u have seen he has been photographed by the daily mail once on a hoilday

From the article, Bianca posted those. As someone upthread said, she's a wind up merchant, and I can't see her playing the role of a doting step mum to his two traumatised kids, tbqhwy. I don't blame her for any of this, but I think anyone with half a brain would think twice about posting this stuff on Insta, especially when her new partner is in the middle of an acrimonious divorce.

Rainbowsandbutterflies1990 · 30/01/2023 17:53

Vivi0 · 30/01/2023 17:50

TBH I can't imagine the mentality of a man who wants to see the mother of his children arrested after obviously going through a massive, very public breakdown after he left her. The primary carer of his DC no less.

I’m really torn on this.

On the one hand, she needs to be stopped from posting what she does online, especially for the sake of her kids.

On the other hand, I don’t think I would ever forgive my dad for doing something like this. I’m not sure it matters to them how bad she is behaving online, she is still their mum. I can’t imagine how traumatising this would be for them.

Is he wanting her to be arrested and potentially put in prison? I do find it fascinating the level of people's thoughts and feelings speaking as fact.

HateandLove · 30/01/2023 17:53

Vivi0 · 30/01/2023 17:34

How on earth, you ask?

Let me tell you.

By countering what is going on. By actively showing his children that he is there for them, that he wants them and that he loves them.

So that would have involved him not moving Bianca into his home upon return from his work trip, but instead living separately, and him going to court for immediate contact (no reason he wouldn’t have been awarded this), therapy for the children and starting to rebuild the relationship from there.

During contact he should have explained to the girls that they don’t have to worry about Bianca, or about meeting her, that he just wanted to focus on them and him. And did exactly that.

He would have asked Bianca to keep a low profile on Social Media and not to mention him at all. This should have been a dealbreaker.

He would have continued to show up consistently for his children, no cancelling contact sessions, showing them that he loves them, not just telling them.

By all accounts, they had a great relationship before, there’s no reason why quick action and understanding and consistency on his part to counter Alice wouldn’t have worked.

But he didn’t do any of this.

He waited almost one year before pursuing contact.

He moved Bianca straight into his home. He arranged pap shoots with Bianca, she posted videos on Instagram of herself filmed in the girl’s bedroom, she posted videos with Ioan speaking in the background/appearing in the background, she posted comments about how happy her and their father were, photos of them on holiday together and then promoted their film just as he told his eldest he had no money to continue paying for her schooling and that she would have to move schools.

He refused his daughter’s suggestion to see him - citing Bianca’s medical issues as the reason. He missed his two first court appointed contact sessions to go to Australia with Bianca.

He didn’t even try to counter Alice at all, in fact, he just fed right into exactly what she was telling the children.

I can’t understand why he made the choices he did.

What a mess of a situation.

Spot on.

All the while telling everyone he does care, complete gaslighter.

His actions are what we should be looking at.

Vivi0 · 30/01/2023 17:58

Rainbowsandbutterflies1990 · 30/01/2023 17:53

Is he wanting her to be arrested and potentially put in prison? I do find it fascinating the level of people's thoughts and feelings speaking as fact.

What?

Where did I say Ioan wants Alice to be arrested and put in prison? What am I claiming as fact?

Please, do elaborate.

HateandLove · 30/01/2023 18:05

The kids must feel he's abandoned them and he's expecting Alice to pick up the slack for him gallavanting about but she's in no fit state.

Vivi0 · 30/01/2023 18:08

From the article, Bianca posted those. As someone upthread said, she's a wind up merchant

Without a doubt.

Bianca keeping a low profile on SM should have been a dealbreaker for him.

I mean, I know the situation is bad and I’m not up close and personal with it.

I don’t know why he hasn’t said “Please stop. You’re making life more difficult for my children.”

And she knows it. No one is that clueless.

Somebatshitteryonhere · 30/01/2023 18:13

I’m utterly appalled at the posters who are so obsessed that this man has moved on and got himself another partner , a younger slimmer one to boot, that they will absolve any form of abuse in the home.

it is like pavlovs dog. Ring the “Younger girlfriend” bell and the salivating starts.

for some it Really is the ultimate unforgivable cardinal sin, even when no form of cheating has ever been collaborated, when they likely got together a year after the split, when a restraining order is in place, the children in court ordered therapy due to the mothers behaviour , when non compliance of visiting rights evidenced, the abuse and alcoholism documented, her own videos and comments on social media collaborating it for years . It’s still, still, “but yeah he got himself a younger thinner girlfriend” so fuck him.

im sure there were faults on both sides, but this Pavlov dog reaction that Alice has exploited is disturbing.

Vivi0 · 30/01/2023 18:20

Somebatshitteryonhere · 30/01/2023 18:13

I’m utterly appalled at the posters who are so obsessed that this man has moved on and got himself another partner , a younger slimmer one to boot, that they will absolve any form of abuse in the home.

it is like pavlovs dog. Ring the “Younger girlfriend” bell and the salivating starts.

for some it Really is the ultimate unforgivable cardinal sin, even when no form of cheating has ever been collaborated, when they likely got together a year after the split, when a restraining order is in place, the children in court ordered therapy due to the mothers behaviour , when non compliance of visiting rights evidenced, the abuse and alcoholism documented, her own videos and comments on social media collaborating it for years . It’s still, still, “but yeah he got himself a younger thinner girlfriend” so fuck him.

im sure there were faults on both sides, but this Pavlov dog reaction that Alice has exploited is disturbing.

I couldn’t give a fuck that he left Alice.

I couldn’t give a fuck that he met someone else.

I think Alice’s behaviour is indefensible.

But what I really can’t stand is grown ass women harping on about “poor Ioan”, to the point they actually believe he is even being victimised and abused by his young daughters.

Nah, he’s not prioritised his children at all. I’m not letting that shit go unchallenged.

Rosiefifi · 30/01/2023 18:20

Vivi0 · 30/01/2023 17:50

TBH I can't imagine the mentality of a man who wants to see the mother of his children arrested after obviously going through a massive, very public breakdown after he left her. The primary carer of his DC no less.

I’m really torn on this.

On the one hand, she needs to be stopped from posting what she does online, especially for the sake of her kids.

On the other hand, I don’t think I would ever forgive my dad for doing something like this. I’m not sure it matters to them how bad she is behaving online, she is still their mum. I can’t imagine how traumatising this would be for them.

I think what tipped it over the edge was she was messaging his employers. He says she's the reason he can't get acting work but to be fair his career has been drying up for a while. He was good in Liar he should try to get more UK TV drama stuff. Why they thought they could live in LA when neither of them were Hollywood stars , I can't understand they should have sold up years ago.

Rosiefifi · 30/01/2023 18:21

Somebatshitteryonhere · 30/01/2023 18:13

I’m utterly appalled at the posters who are so obsessed that this man has moved on and got himself another partner , a younger slimmer one to boot, that they will absolve any form of abuse in the home.

it is like pavlovs dog. Ring the “Younger girlfriend” bell and the salivating starts.

for some it Really is the ultimate unforgivable cardinal sin, even when no form of cheating has ever been collaborated, when they likely got together a year after the split, when a restraining order is in place, the children in court ordered therapy due to the mothers behaviour , when non compliance of visiting rights evidenced, the abuse and alcoholism documented, her own videos and comments on social media collaborating it for years . It’s still, still, “but yeah he got himself a younger thinner girlfriend” so fuck him.

im sure there were faults on both sides, but this Pavlov dog reaction that Alice has exploited is disturbing.

I'm younger than Bianca and I still think he's a shit father.

MarshaMelrose · 30/01/2023 18:26

no form of cheating has ever been collaborated, when they likely got together a year after the split,

We don't know if they cheated. But a friend of theirs from the Harrow set was authorised to speak on their behalf. She said that they started speaking and being friendly in the second half of filming season 3 in 2020. So about June / July. In August 2020 he told Evans he was no longer interested in her. Those dates seem quite close, but could be a coincidence. (On here, posters would say red flag, I think.)
He left Evans at the end of Jan 2021. He claims he started a relationship with Wallace in June 2021. So actually four months later.
I don't really care that he left Evans, but at least let's be accurate with known facts.

Rosiefifi · 30/01/2023 18:28

Vivi0 · 30/01/2023 18:20

I couldn’t give a fuck that he left Alice.

I couldn’t give a fuck that he met someone else.

I think Alice’s behaviour is indefensible.

But what I really can’t stand is grown ass women harping on about “poor Ioan”, to the point they actually believe he is even being victimised and abused by his young daughters.

Nah, he’s not prioritised his children at all. I’m not letting that shit go unchallenged.

They must fancy him , or they hate Alice that much that Ioan must be a saint. They can't compute that you can think both are shit. I'm not sure if you have seen tattle but there's basically a fan thread for Ioan . Nothing negative can be said about saint Ioan or they chase them off with pitchforks.

hothands · 30/01/2023 18:28

Somebatshitteryonhere · 30/01/2023 18:13

I’m utterly appalled at the posters who are so obsessed that this man has moved on and got himself another partner , a younger slimmer one to boot, that they will absolve any form of abuse in the home.

it is like pavlovs dog. Ring the “Younger girlfriend” bell and the salivating starts.

for some it Really is the ultimate unforgivable cardinal sin, even when no form of cheating has ever been collaborated, when they likely got together a year after the split, when a restraining order is in place, the children in court ordered therapy due to the mothers behaviour , when non compliance of visiting rights evidenced, the abuse and alcoholism documented, her own videos and comments on social media collaborating it for years . It’s still, still, “but yeah he got himself a younger thinner girlfriend” so fuck him.

im sure there were faults on both sides, but this Pavlov dog reaction that Alice has exploited is disturbing.

Are you even reading the same thread? No one has even mentioned Bianca's age or how thin/fat she is.

I'm finding some of the pro Ioan posts utterly bizarre. Apparently, if you don't think Ioan is a literal angel on earth, that means you're defending Alice.

Rosiefifi · 30/01/2023 18:30

MarshaMelrose · 30/01/2023 18:26

no form of cheating has ever been collaborated, when they likely got together a year after the split,

We don't know if they cheated. But a friend of theirs from the Harrow set was authorised to speak on their behalf. She said that they started speaking and being friendly in the second half of filming season 3 in 2020. So about June / July. In August 2020 he told Evans he was no longer interested in her. Those dates seem quite close, but could be a coincidence. (On here, posters would say red flag, I think.)
He left Evans at the end of Jan 2021. He claims he started a relationship with Wallace in June 2021. So actually four months later.
I don't really care that he left Evans, but at least let's be accurate with known facts.

He conveniently met Bianca when he was filming out there , he was almost certainly flirting/ shagging before their official relationship began in June 2021 which they then quickly moved in together. There was definitely some kind of overlap but people try to twist it and say there wasn't.

Rosiefifi · 30/01/2023 18:34

hothands · 30/01/2023 18:28

Are you even reading the same thread? No one has even mentioned Bianca's age or how thin/fat she is.

I'm finding some of the pro Ioan posts utterly bizarre. Apparently, if you don't think Ioan is a literal angel on earth, that means you're defending Alice.

It's because we must be bitter old and fat to not see how much of a saint Ioan is.

Rainbowsandbutterflies1990 · 30/01/2023 18:36

Somebatshitteryonhere · 30/01/2023 18:13

I’m utterly appalled at the posters who are so obsessed that this man has moved on and got himself another partner , a younger slimmer one to boot, that they will absolve any form of abuse in the home.

it is like pavlovs dog. Ring the “Younger girlfriend” bell and the salivating starts.

for some it Really is the ultimate unforgivable cardinal sin, even when no form of cheating has ever been collaborated, when they likely got together a year after the split, when a restraining order is in place, the children in court ordered therapy due to the mothers behaviour , when non compliance of visiting rights evidenced, the abuse and alcoholism documented, her own videos and comments on social media collaborating it for years . It’s still, still, “but yeah he got himself a younger thinner girlfriend” so fuck him.

im sure there were faults on both sides, but this Pavlov dog reaction that Alice has exploited is disturbing.

I said this much earlier up thread. The younger girlfriend is really what the issue is. If he's new gf was a older woman than his ex who was not on stereotypical attractive I don't think a lot of this would have been said. I think that's what it boils down too and the fact he's a man who's the abuse victim , it's like he cannot possibly be the victim. Sad really.

hothands · 30/01/2023 18:37

It's because we must be bitter old and fat to not see how much of a saint Ioan is

Don't forget that our husbands also must have left us for a younger model Hmm

Sindonym · 30/01/2023 18:42

Vivi0 · 30/01/2023 17:50

TBH I can't imagine the mentality of a man who wants to see the mother of his children arrested after obviously going through a massive, very public breakdown after he left her. The primary carer of his DC no less.

I’m really torn on this.

On the one hand, she needs to be stopped from posting what she does online, especially for the sake of her kids.

On the other hand, I don’t think I would ever forgive my dad for doing something like this. I’m not sure it matters to them how bad she is behaving online, she is still their mum. I can’t imagine how traumatising this would be for them.

Yeah I feel the same. I feel really conflicted about Alice tbh.

hothands · 30/01/2023 18:43

I said this much earlier up thread. The younger girlfriend is really what the issue is. If he's new gf was a older woman than his ex who was not on stereotypical attractive I don't think a lot of this would have been said. I think that's what it boils down too and the fact he's a man who's the abuse victim , it's like he cannot possibly be the victim. Sad really

This is what you've concluded from all the posts talking his children? You seriously think that any concern shown that his parenting isn't up to scratch is all because his girlfriend is conventionally attractive? Really?!

Vivi0 · 30/01/2023 18:44

Rosiefifi · 30/01/2023 18:28

They must fancy him , or they hate Alice that much that Ioan must be a saint. They can't compute that you can think both are shit. I'm not sure if you have seen tattle but there's basically a fan thread for Ioan . Nothing negative can be said about saint Ioan or they chase them off with pitchforks.

I’ve had the misfortune of seeing the Tattle threads. It’s, quite frankly, embarrassing and frightening in equal measure. They are OBSESSED.

The way they speak about his daughter Ella is disgusting.

They invade Twitter and the DM comments regularly, but when they bring it over to Mumsnet, there’s no way I’m not challenging that shit. Lol.

WaitingForLifeToGetEasier · 30/01/2023 18:54

@MarshaMelrose Too right if AE had posted on here that timeline. Most of MN would have immediately have said he'd had his head turned and it's likely there was an OW! Especially if she'd said he was an actor with a leading role who'd been working away for a long time.

I don't know AE (and neither does anyone on here I presume) but other than the statement IG wrote for his restraining order, is there any unbiased evidence that she was this vile, abusive monster that most posters have stated she categorically is? Why did he leave the DC with her for months at a time then? Why leave DC with their mother drunk on the kitchen floor and bugger off to the other side of the world? Leave it to the nanny?

She comes across to me from the few Instagram videos that I saw (only due to the media reports of their split) as a bit of a loud, vocal, eccentric person who has behaved understandably badly due to suspecting her DH was cheating on her after telling her he wasn't attracted to her, then leaving her after umming and ahhing for while still insisting he didn't have anyone else and knowing she'd lose everything due to the prenup after she'd put her career on hold for his, then seeing his OW come out of the woodwork to the media and her perceiving him abandoning his DC for her. The financial situation, DC taken out of school etc.

Obviously she had a platform to be vocal about it which the average person wouldn't have and as she said she wanted the truth to be known and it broke her.

Those saying she had a nanny so why didn't she work - would you leave your IVF DC with a nanny for weeks or months at a time while you and your DH were working all over the world? She was an actress. They may well have agreed that she not work so he could.

Not an embittered ex wife btw but I think done balance is needed. AE is obviously very unwell.

Rosiefifi · 30/01/2023 19:01

Vivi0 · 30/01/2023 18:44

I’ve had the misfortune of seeing the Tattle threads. It’s, quite frankly, embarrassing and frightening in equal measure. They are OBSESSED.

The way they speak about his daughter Ella is disgusting.

They invade Twitter and the DM comments regularly, but when they bring it over to Mumsnet, there’s no way I’m not challenging that shit. Lol.

I know the part about making a 12/13 year old the villain vs her 50 year old dad makes me sick. They will say anything to defend him including making a child the enemy. She's obviously really hurt and traumatised as anyone in that situation would be. To write off a 12 year old and spout shite about her is crazy and evil.

BashirWithTheGoodBeard · 30/01/2023 19:08

hothands · 30/01/2023 18:43

I said this much earlier up thread. The younger girlfriend is really what the issue is. If he's new gf was a older woman than his ex who was not on stereotypical attractive I don't think a lot of this would have been said. I think that's what it boils down too and the fact he's a man who's the abuse victim , it's like he cannot possibly be the victim. Sad really

This is what you've concluded from all the posts talking his children? You seriously think that any concern shown that his parenting isn't up to scratch is all because his girlfriend is conventionally attractive? Really?!

Batshit gonna batshit.

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