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Friend and her BIG house

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subtoprem · 17/01/2023 06:19

I have a friend I met through a hobby about five years ago.

She lives in a big house that I've been to quite a few times, so I'm fully aware, but she drops it in conversation all the time. Is this weird?

Eg. I moan about having some cleaning to do, her "think yourself lucky you don't have to clean my big house!"

Conversation about when our kids were growing up "well, I've been lucky living in a big house, so much easier with space"

Inane chat about the size of her dog "yes, I'm so glad I have a big house!"

Seriously, it gets shoehorned into a conversation every time we meet (maybe once a month)

I don't care about the size of her house 😂

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Dragonsmother · 18/01/2023 19:18

I have a family member who refuses to come to my house as it’s “small” and “claustrophobic”

Now the utility bills have gone up she moans how much it costs. I snigger back and remind her that as I have a “small” house I pay a fraction of what she does! 😂

SweetSakura · 18/01/2023 19:22

Dragonsmother · 18/01/2023 19:18

I have a family member who refuses to come to my house as it’s “small” and “claustrophobic”

Now the utility bills have gone up she moans how much it costs. I snigger back and remind her that as I have a “small” house I pay a fraction of what she does! 😂

Are we related Grin this is what my mum does. And my house has 5 bedrooms so not even that small! But she acts like a caged bear when she visits!

Cantstandbullshitanymore · 18/01/2023 19:24

Iateallthechips · 17/01/2023 06:52

Oh God. I had a friend like that. Always going on about her “big house”. Every bloody conversation.

When we bought a house (a three bed semi, eve horror!) she came round and kept saying how it was sweet “for a small family” and used to make ducking movements when she went though a normal sized door and used to do exaggerated squeezing against the wall motions like Hyacinth Bucket if you walked into a normal, 12x12 foot room and He would say, “oh gosh. I am just used to my big rooms!”

It was tedious.

hey it’s Bouquet to you lol

larchforest · 18/01/2023 19:28

I had a friend who would always end a sentence about having gone out somewhere with:

"... in the Audi".

Every single time. Grin

Dragonsmother · 18/01/2023 19:33

SweetSakura · 18/01/2023 19:22

Are we related Grin this is what my mum does. And my house has 5 bedrooms so not even that small! But she acts like a caged bear when she visits!

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😂 😂 😂

BustyLaRoux · 18/01/2023 19:42

Some people really love to boast. My DP does this. I HATE IT!!!! Actually now I just smirk and nod, which is my way of saying “you obviously think you’re being impressive but I think you’re being a twit!!” It is infuriating though and if I were you I would have to find some way of passively aggressively pissing on her chips.

Wns5ae · 18/01/2023 19:45

My SIL often describes her very average garden as 'land' and acts as though she has bought a grand house (average 3 bed dorma). She often drops odd things like this into conversations and it honestly baffles me!

CountryMouse22 · 18/01/2023 19:48

We have 5 bedrooms (last one is tiny though) and my sister told me we should take in a Ukrainian family as we have so much room!

Notformethankyoukindly · 18/01/2023 20:01

Jonnywishbone · 18/01/2023 18:52

I find it totally appropriate to talk to friends about the difficulties caused by enormous penis and stess of having a gigantic bank account so can see why someone with a a large property would want to discuss it at every opportunity. It's not at all vulgar or boring.

😂 brilliant

BaconChops · 18/01/2023 20:10

I’d be tempted to see how many times in one meeting you could get her to reference her big house 😂 just me?!

winterpastasalad · 18/01/2023 20:11

I knew a woman like this once. Her car was MASSIVE (Mazda hatch back) her bedroom was HUGE (2 up 2 down terrace) the garden gate was BEAUTIFUL and her brother was FRIGHTENINGLY ATTRACTIVE. Everything she had was described using the most hyperbolic adjectives. I used to roll my eyes but found it quite entertaining.

Toomuchtrouble4me · 18/01/2023 20:17

subtoprem · 17/01/2023 06:19

I have a friend I met through a hobby about five years ago.

She lives in a big house that I've been to quite a few times, so I'm fully aware, but she drops it in conversation all the time. Is this weird?

Eg. I moan about having some cleaning to do, her "think yourself lucky you don't have to clean my big house!"

Conversation about when our kids were growing up "well, I've been lucky living in a big house, so much easier with space"

Inane chat about the size of her dog "yes, I'm so glad I have a big house!"

Seriously, it gets shoehorned into a conversation every time we meet (maybe once a month)

I don't care about the size of her house 😂

Well you clearly DO care about her big house or you wouldn’t be in here.

HaroldeVwilliam · 18/01/2023 20:37

If I won the lottery I would never ever buy a huge house!
Something detached but enough for DC to visit and bring GC. But not large enough that I'd be scared in.
I've lived in two large quite sprawling houses and I was terrified a lot.

Huge to clean and don't see others much.

I'd much rather a beautiful characterful house with 4 beds two upstairs baths and one loo downstairs.

Pinkyhere · 18/01/2023 20:40

Cosycover · 17/01/2023 07:12

'do you have a big house? You never mention it'

Love that!

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 18/01/2023 20:42

A few years ago a former boss of mine invited me to dinner with his wife when I was back for Christmas. I knew he lived in a 4-storey Victorian pile in a very exclusive part of town. Drinks were served in the hall immediately on arrival and then we moved to the vast high-ceilinged drawing room on the same level. It was bone-crunchingly bloody baltic. I think I kept my coat on. Some time later the wife put her head around the door and said oh no, the heating's packed in again, best come downstairs to the fire.
I can guarantee that that drawing room hadn't been heated since 1972 and they'd been practising that line ever since.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 18/01/2023 20:53

Everything she had was described using the most hyperbolic adjectives.

Yep, sounds like everything she said was just a load of hyperbolics Grin

CockSpadget · 18/01/2023 21:13

HaroldeVwilliam · 18/01/2023 20:37

If I won the lottery I would never ever buy a huge house!
Something detached but enough for DC to visit and bring GC. But not large enough that I'd be scared in.
I've lived in two large quite sprawling houses and I was terrified a lot.

Huge to clean and don't see others much.

I'd much rather a beautiful characterful house with 4 beds two upstairs baths and one loo downstairs.

I wouldn’t either, I hate the thought of rooms just sat unused. Such a waste.

Bleachmycloths · 18/01/2023 21:45

schnubbins · 17/01/2023 10:04

I had a friend who really took the wind out of my sails when I showed her our new house after we moved in 20 years ago.It is a new build terrace house that we had saved long for the deposit for .I was absolutely thrilled to have my own home for the first time .So she walked around and then asked 'are you ok with 'making do' with this house ?I mean it nice and all but wouldn't be to my taste and I would never want to live in a house that I couldn't walk around. Then added 'I presume this is just your starter home ?
The silly old bag told me shortly afterwards that she found it difficult to find the time to meet up with me as she 'now moved in different circles'Needless to say we are not friends anymore.

What an utterly ridiculous woman! Such stupid remarks are not those of a normal person. You were well shut of her.

NoBiscuitsLeftInMyTin · 18/01/2023 21:46

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 17/01/2023 07:04

She should try living in Nottingham Cottage it's tiny, the staff keep banging their heads on the low ceilings, and the cat hits every wall and I'm not even holding it with an outstretched arm.

😂😂😂😂 it’s a bitch isn’t it!

Rubix89 · 18/01/2023 23:05

Maybe this stems from insecurity. Is it only with you, or does she do this with others? It could be a jealousy/insecurity thing in which she feels the need to compare and engage in one-upmanship. Honestly, I would just let her say what it is she’s saying, but just not respond to it. Just move the conversation on and she’ll hopefully get the hint and stop doing it. There’s nothing wrong with being proud of her house, but it’s not a good thing to be obnoxious.

TheDuchess1979 · 18/01/2023 23:06

I do this. I’m recently widowed and I keep saying at work about how I’m fed up about going back to my massive house and being all by myself. To be fair, the 13-year-old DS is home but it’s possible to hardly bump into each other.

I hadn’t really realised what a humblebrag this is….I honestly just hate how big it is.

Merple · 18/01/2023 23:07

That's hilarious. What a knob.

Thelnebriati · 18/01/2023 23:28

Have I ever told you about my Hyacinth Bucket friend who bought a house on a new estate and started to refer to it as The Cottage? Grin

SaySomethingMan · 19/01/2023 00:07

Iateallthechips · 17/01/2023 08:29

I was in a very stage whispered way if you see what I mean - I very much lived in the wrong part of town but went to playgroups in the nicer bit. So the other parents were often a little taken aback when they saw our house wasn’t as nice as theirs.

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Ah I see what you mean now. Oh dear!

HikingforScenery · 19/01/2023 00:08

TheDuchess1979 · 18/01/2023 23:06

I do this. I’m recently widowed and I keep saying at work about how I’m fed up about going back to my massive house and being all by myself. To be fair, the 13-year-old DS is home but it’s possible to hardly bump into each other.

I hadn’t really realised what a humblebrag this is….I honestly just hate how big it is.

Sorry for your loss @TheDuchess1979 💐