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Offered something on Facebook .. now confronted by harrassment

343 replies

listsandbudgets · 13/01/2023 13:41

Luckily I'm quite robust and couldn't give a damn but for your entertainment

I'm having a big clear out and putting things in Facebook and olio for people to take.

This morning I listed a play pen on a local group and after about half an hour.got a message from a lady who will come.and take.it this evening.. brilliant.

Just before marking it as taken gone got a message from.someone else

"Need this .. please drop off at X address between 3 and 5pm today" I replied saying it was taken and anyway collection only and left it at that.

Then received

" I can't believe you would give it away without even asking why I need it I bet I need it more than anyone else "

"You're so selfish I bet you sold it instead"

"You don't care about anything but clearing out your house you couldn't give a sh*t about a young mum like me"

"If you've got any other children's stuff message me and you can drop it over tomorrow, I need things"

"You obviously don't care if my child gets hurt because they dont have a play pen.. youve got to give it to me, dont be heartless"

" How am I supposed to come and get it Ive got children you need to drop it off today"

I ignored her and blocked her and now receiving stroppy messages from another person saying they're her friend, I'm victimising her,.I shouldn't just give things away without talking to people about what they need it for everyone deserves a chance..

and best of all:

" you should be dying of shame for treating a young mum like this I hope you carry the guilt.to your dying day"

WTAF ?????

I've blocked them too and await next messages with interest. I strongly suspect they "friend" is also her. I am having quite a boring day cleaning out the loft so this is brightening it up no end

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SouperNoodle · 13/01/2023 18:31

Omg what an entitled psycho 😂

Nanny0gg · 13/01/2023 18:37

Cuppasoupmonster · 13/01/2023 16:14

I sold something recently, a fairly cheap item. Got a message from A asking if it was still available, I said it was. A few minutes later another message came through asking to take it that day at 5pm, so I accepted. I then told person A it was now pending collection and they lost it - demanded to know whether I had made it up because ‘10 minutes ago it was free’, ‘I bet you just don’t want to sell it to me’ etc.

Did I break some kind of etiquette? I was always under the impression the first person to make an arrangement to collect had the item, rather than just the first person to ask about it?

I wouldn't have done that. Give the first person a chance to arrange collection.

Think you were wrong there

red4321 · 13/01/2023 18:44

As if by magic, I log onto FB and there's someone wanting curtains, curtain poles, wardrobe, chest of drawers, small tv and storage units. As they "are not working much due to my charity commitments". Followed by various probing about HDMIs etc.

Hmmm...

AlwaysGinPlease · 13/01/2023 18:51

Batshit crazy! 😂

We had an issue, the other way around. I was after something for our dogs but didn't want to buy it brand new as it's pretty pricey. Looked for a while. Found one on FB marketplace and messaged.

Seller says that someone is coming to get it the next day but if they don't show up we can buy it. So I hear nothing, I messaged again just to check but she didn't reply.

Another one comes up , further away but exactly the same and actually better condition though a bit more expensive. So we messaged and arranged to pick it up. Picked it up that weekend, no issues at all . Very pleased.

A week or so later ... the first seller messages saying it's still available as the person didn't show up after messing them about for a bit. I said thank you but we bought another one.

She went off on one. We were liars, time wasters, she needed the money now. How dare we mess her around etc. I politely reminded her of the facts. She told me to to fuck off.

Where do these people get such a ridiculous view of life from?!

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 13/01/2023 18:52

PeachyPoppedBack · 13/01/2023 18:23

I always reply is this still available because I’m autistic and it’s one of the standard relies offered- easiest to use set replies than guess. Never realised that was classed as rude. I’ll find an alternative.

Ultimately it’s yours to do with as you wish though.

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"Is it still available?" is sort of a nothing question in the sense that it doesn't move the conversation on at all, it doesn't give any information to the seller/giver about whether you're willing and able to buy/collect, and there is a chance that someone else will jump in with a firm offer before your conversation with the original poster continues.

It would be more efficient to say something like "If this is still available I would like to buy/take it. I would be free any evening this week to collect if that suits you." It cuts out a lot of unnecessary back and forth and gives the seller the information that you not only want the item but you're prepared to pick it up without a lot of messing around.

henni85 · 13/01/2023 18:54

I bought the double pushchair that I had been prepared to buy new for £50. The seller had been let down. She said other people had expressed an interest, but because I was polite, had the cash waiting and gave a date for collection, she let me have it. Win!

HikingforScenery · 13/01/2023 18:54

This ´use be a joke 🤣🤣🤣🤣

HikingforScenery · 13/01/2023 18:55

HikingforScenery · 13/01/2023 18:54

This ´use be a joke 🤣🤣🤣🤣

*must

Wetblanket78 · 13/01/2023 18:55

Some people are so entitled. If she bought one she would have to arrange delivery or get it home herself. I've been offered money to deliver but don't drive myself so no.

sentientpuddle · 13/01/2023 18:56

I don't give stuff away on marketplace - only sell, people are nuts when stuff is free, but if I have stuff to get rid of for free I post it in a local 'save stuff from landfill' group. People in it seem very reasonable - and of sound mind.
It is STRICTLY no begging/crying poverty etc.
I once tried to list something & my post was automatically rejected because it contained the keywords 'in need of a clean'!

Something happens to people's behaviour re 'free' stuff. No matter what it is, food, open bar at a do... It brings out the greedy vultures.

WiddlinDiddlin · 13/01/2023 18:56

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 13/01/2023 18:52

"Is it still available?" is sort of a nothing question in the sense that it doesn't move the conversation on at all, it doesn't give any information to the seller/giver about whether you're willing and able to buy/collect, and there is a chance that someone else will jump in with a firm offer before your conversation with the original poster continues.

It would be more efficient to say something like "If this is still available I would like to buy/take it. I would be free any evening this week to collect if that suits you." It cuts out a lot of unnecessary back and forth and gives the seller the information that you not only want the item but you're prepared to pick it up without a lot of messing around.

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I agree, however it is one of the pre-set replies to market place posts and it is VERY easy to send that by accident on your phone.

I guess the thinking is, if its NOT still available theres little point discussing collection etc.

AlwaysGinPlease · 13/01/2023 18:59

determinedtomakethiswork · 13/01/2023 17:30

You could have asked your health visitor if they wanted to pass baby things on to anyone.

🙄

Gonners · 13/01/2023 19:01

I used Gumtree, offering stuff for free, until we had a young couple furnishing their first flat come round to pick up one of those corner TV cabinets and a perfectly clean and serviceable hall rug, both left behind by the previous owners. They took the cabinet out to the car and then pointed out that the rug we had in the hall was very much nicer than the one we were offering and asked why they couldn't have that one instead. And then argued when I said it wasn't on offer! They took the one that was, and stomped off muttering that it was So Unfair!

Since then I've just left stuff outside with a note saying "Free: please take me." It's usually gone within the hour.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 13/01/2023 19:01

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂.

OssomMummy1 · 13/01/2023 19:07

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Tekkentime · 13/01/2023 19:20

It's incredibly entitled so I purposely don't reply because I don't want to encourage their behaviour.

Nanalisa60 · 13/01/2023 19:27

Mad as a box of frogs!! This thread has really mad me laughing.

AlwaysGinPlease · 13/01/2023 19:30

chriswguerrr*a is brilliant at these! Links to his TikTok

Dibbydoos · 13/01/2023 19:32

What CF!

Not your prob if she has a child without appropriate finances in place to look after the child. She sounds unhinged 😞 and has no idea how to behave.

I have to admit when I give things away, I do tend to vet the applicants - I normally give to charitable organisations eg those who help women who have fled abusive relationships etc.

azlazee1 · 13/01/2023 19:34

Unbelievable!

AlbertaAnnie · 13/01/2023 19:45

GroggyLegs · 13/01/2023 13:48

Add her as a friend.
I bet her FB posts are AMAZING.

Yea! Please do this and report back!! 😂😂

princesssugarless · 13/01/2023 20:02

We gave away all our baby and children's toys, some really good stuff some less valuable but still nice toys. Offered free to collect but take all , never again. Demands to deliver to towns 50 miles away, demands to deliver parts of it, just random insults . In the end we just put it on the street in boxes and a sign saying free to a good home. Someone put a used nappy in one of the boxes. We are in the middle of a residential area - did they bring it with them? No changing tables near by. Charity shops get it now.

FloozingThePlot · 13/01/2023 20:03

Report the accounts to FB.

MissAmbrosia · 13/01/2023 20:11

Last autumn I was having a mega clear out, and as we have a local market nearby we get lots of people parking in our street - so I stuck loads of stuff out the front with a sign saying "help yourself". I'd gone indoors to get a drink and came back into the garage to find some guy poking about saying he'd like to take x,y and z and was really rude and aggressive when I said it was only the stuff outside that was on offer, as he really needed that bike/chest of drawers etc. Scared the living daylights out of me.

NewPapaGuinea · 13/01/2023 20:24

Exactly why I never give things away for free.