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What are ways to help my unborn boy to sorta get out there and try new things?

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brynna · 18/12/2022 06:07

Hi. My son, whose name will be Archer, is due in February and my husband and I really want to set up the best life for him. That’s already involved us moving into a nice neighborhood, looking into preschools, yada yada yada. The thing we’re having trouble with is that we want him to sorta ‘get out there’ and have skills and hobbies and stuff.

we’ve already thought of having him join the boys choir (if he wants ofc) for the city we live in because it’s great, you travel around the world, you make friends, and yk it’s just good. but what other things are there that we could have him try that could allow for independence? here are some things we’ve thought of:

- required to try out
**- we recommend but not required
-only if you want

-boys choir (offers plenty of opportunities and the program is relatively isolated so he’d be making friends)**
-ballet/aerobics/dance (shows him that he can do what girls do too plus he might enjoy it)
-karate (it’s always good to have those skills plus it builds a good work ethic)**
-piano lessons (not social but gives him an outlet)
-horseback riding (good outlet plus experience with animals)*

we can’t think of anymore though and we’d start enrolling him in stuff like this at age ~4 and we want things with other benefits too so we wouldn’t do piano and horseback riding ag the same time because they’re both outlets and we only need one yk we need to maximize stuff

anyways we just want to set him up with a good future but we need advice!!

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 19/12/2022 09:44

Do please try to chill - and wait to see what sort of* things your little boy enjoys.

*It’s two words, BTW. Once he learns to read, it’d be nice to set a good example.

ZeViteVitchofCwismas · 19/12/2022 10:43

Setting up savings accounts, junior ISA and stocks and shares plus, a sipp.

Have a little fund for fun stuff also.

2ndTimeRound90 · 19/12/2022 17:47

Wow. I really hope Archer arrives safely or you will have a massive job of managing your expectations!

You can plan all you like but you won't know what kind of person he will be until you get to know him. My first is very musical and logical, but easily scared so I wouldn't be forcing him to do something like horse riding as I know he would hate it.

My second is already very active, boisterous and sociable, so I can imagine probably wouldn't sit around for something like choir.

But they aren't that old yet so I'm not trying to plan their interests for them!

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ZiriForEver · 19/12/2022 18:20

I originally read the title as asking what you can do to make him try new things while being unborn :)
I read somewhere that listening to Mozart prenatally increases inteligence. I'm not sure I believe it, but I expected this kind of stuff here, so starting at the age of 4 sounds unexpectedly reasonable to me now.

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 19/12/2022 18:25

we’d need him to at least try out piano and horseback riding at some point in his life

No, you do not. What an absolutely peculiar mindset you are in.

ZiriForEver · 19/12/2022 18:33

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 19/12/2022 09:44

Do please try to chill - and wait to see what sort of* things your little boy enjoys.

*It’s two words, BTW. Once he learns to read, it’d be nice to set a good example.

Are you for real? Bickering about using an informal word online?

BTW, seems you got the meaning wrong. It wasn't used in a meaning "several different types of things". It went together with "get out" to express getting the width of experience or getting out of a shell.

RogersOrganismicProcess · 19/12/2022 18:35

I thought this was going to be the best thread title ever about inducing over due labour! So disappointed 😂

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