What just happened?! I don't know what to make of this.

[Believers]

I've had the strangest experience tonight and I don't know how to explain it.

I volunteer with a charity, and tonight myself and 3 others from there went out to a pub I've never been to before for a pre-Christmas drink.

At one point I went to the toilet and as I was on my way out a woman was on her way in. We exchanged pleasantries and went on our separate ways.

About 5 minutes after I'd joined my friends, this same woman came up to us, and sat next to me on the banquette thing. She took my hand and said she had to tell me something.

It was all a bit odd, but I figured she'd maybe had a drink, and I had no objection to her joining us. But then she said to me that she had xxx with her and he wanted me to know that he was happy, that he loved me and that it was time I moved on. She was crying as she said this and I started crying too because xxx was the name of my late dh.

I have no idea how she could've known any of this. None of us knew her, I'd never been to that pub before, dh's name isn't wildly unusual but not that common either, why did she come and find me after our brief encounter in the toilet etc.

I can't get my head around it! Any ideas?!

It’s all too easy to dismiss such incidents, but IMO genuine mediums do exist. A niece knows one who has twice - during ordinary, everyday encounters - told her things she couldn’t possibly have known or found out - without charging a penny, and without charging even being thought of.

AFAIK the niece was as sceptically non-woo as anybody until the first time this happened.

Op - I believe it was a genuine message meant for you. I hope it gives you some comfort. 💐

You make of it what you want to make of it op.

There is more to this life than that which we see.... Thassorl 🙏

Och nonsense. The whole thing is a load of drivel. There’s no “spirit world” of people giving messages to loved ones.

op I am so sorry this was unsettling. I agree it will have been a cold reading. These charlatans are very experienced at it. Maybe she’d passed and you’d mentioned your oh, maybe she’d overheard the charity name and looked up stuff online. Maybe it was a guess if it was a common enough name. The message she gave was also very general/vague.

That’s what I think about the large majority.

But when it happened to me, I can’t explain it that way.

The woman was walking though the park and just stopped next to me. I was sitting in silence reading a heat magazine. I didn’t utter a word thought out. Then she just walked off.

I’ve had friends say that she could “sense” I was pregnant even though I would have only have just fallen pregnant and didn’t know myself, that Dorothy would be a common name for an old person who died (although she never said grandmother, just a name).

I don’t see how you could could read any of what she told me. she was waking past and only stoped for as long as she was speaking.

Oh dear, this is awful. Her husband has passed. So clearly he can’t reach out . So they can’t be good people with a psychic gift.

op. I’m sorry these people read obituaries, look,at their family on line and prey on rhe vulnerable ,thinking they are helping. So this is clearly a lucky guess or she knew you/of you.

I think many of them genuinely think they are helping to be honest.

Probably picking up lots of unconscious signals. We are mammals and can sense lots of things which would have meant either we survive or don't at one time.

I think if you are able you take this as something positive. Either it is a message from your late DH, or it could be someone trying to be nice to you. There was no gain for the woman.

Sometimes things happen which we genuinely can’t explain.

I once went for the first time to a supermarket in a strange town.
I passed a woman pushing a trolley with a young child, maybe 3 years old sitting in it. The child looked at me and said ‘your name is ***’ She was right.

My name isn’t unique, but it wasn’t that common then. I thought maybe she had recently met someone of the same name and was calling everyone that.

For some reason we passed a few times and she always said the same thing.

She also nodded her head very affirmatively. Her mother looked a bit puzzled, but when we bumped into each other when leaving and the girl said it again her mother said ‘it isn’t really?’ I said ‘yes, it is’ and she looked shocked.

There was no point or purpose to the exchange. I will probably never forget it though.

I hope it didnt upset you and I'm sorry for your loss.

I have also had a weird experience. When I was 11 weeks pregnant I was out celebrating a friends birthday. Noone knew I was pregnant at that stage (I had told NOONE) and it didnt show at all (I'm tall and quite skinny). I hadnt even got round to ordering a drink (coke) and this woman (a complete stranger) came up to me and said "congratulations on your baby- I can see a white, silver light/aura eminating from your stomach- its a boy!". I did go on to have a boy but to this day I have no idea how that woman knew as noone knew I was pregnant, she was a complete stranger and at that point, even I did not know the gender. I often wonder about that.

As someone with bipolar who has enjoyed far too much time in psych wards he sounds mentally ill rather than psychic.

I went to clairvoyant in the late 90s in the UK. This was well before social media was out there like it is now. My appointment was made only in my first name. The lovely woman told me things she could not possibly know. To preface I did not grow up in the UK and have no family there. I was living in London at the time - this woman was not in London.

In the reading she told me I have no link with my father. I asked what she meant by link and she said I haven't seen him since I was 12 (I think it was 11 when I cut him out of my life for good but it may have been 12).

She told that I'm good at my job and well-liked but I should be writing and one day it will take me to the US. I did have a passion for writing but never thought I'd do it professionally. I told her I had no interest in living in the US and she said I won't live there but will go for my writing. Many years later I co-wrote a book and we secured a publisher in the US and I went there to promote it.

She said a man by a certain name would be very important in my life. I didn't know anyone by that name and she said you've not met him yet. I did meet a man by that name randomly several years later and we've had an on/off relationship for 20 years and he is to this day very important to me (we live in different countries).

She also told me my nan was in spirit and we shared a very special bond. My nan died quite young when I was 13. The claivoyant said I was her favourite but she'd never have said that when she alive. I knew we had an incredible connection and hearing that was lovely but not a big shock as I knew it in my heart anyway.

There were other things she said but it was so long ago now I've forgot.

I haven't gone to anyone since because I honestly don't think I'd get such a great reading. So yes, I absolutely believe some people are gifted in this way.

But telling me something very accurate (I was pregnant, “he”, which he was, would be okay but it would be worrying.

How would you pick up on all that?

I’ve had people say she could have seen you were young with a wedding ring and so mentioned pregnancy - I’ve never worn any jewellery so no wedding ring. I’ve had people ask was I reading a baby magazine - it was heat 🤣 always read it on my lunch break the two days I did day shift, I had no interest in falling pregnant when I did, he was a wonderful suprise.

The name, yes, could have been a lucky guess. She could have just said your grandmother though.

And lots of people have tough births and have problems afterwards.

I am genuinely interested, I’ve read about cold reading through the years, watched so many programs, but she wasn’t just throwing things out there or telling me “facts” about a dead relative. I never said a word, it was over in seconds.

It would have been quite a coincidence if she had made it up.

I would never pay to see anyone. Like I said, I think most are fake. But that experience has never left me.

A wild guess?? So she picked the correct name from hundreds? She didn’t ask for money or move on to anyone else in the group. There was nothing in it for her.

I believe her.

I agree, many people are quick to dismiss, without ever experiencing it. If you have had a reading with a good medium it is amazing, and very reassuring.

I think it's a bit arrogant to assume we know everything about life and the universe . But I've had so many experiences I can't not believe in "something else".

Just one example, I was hanging out in the park as a teen and a drunk homeless guy came over, took my hand, said "you were in a famous hospital for burns when you were a baby" - I was in Stoke Mandeville for three weeks after my dad spilled boiling soup on me as a toddler. He then told me a few other things and walked off. What was in it for him?

There are things we don't know about consciousness ❤️

Sorry, I haven’t read the whole thread yet as just off out but had to tell you that the same thing happened to my sister not long after our Nan had passed away. My sister was working in a shop, a lady came to purchase something and told my sister that she had someone standing beside her. She then went on to describe my Nan exactly. My sister had never met this woman before and had never mentioned our Nan to any work colleagues etc. The lady then told my sister that Nan was calling her by her nickname, this is a nickname only our family (ie me, mum and dad) use, not even her partner calls her this.
There is no way this woman could have known all of this.
I personally do believe there are somethings no one can explain in a scientific way, I do think some people have some kind of ‘gift’?
Sorry for your loss.

Think about this sensibly. Realistically, would your husband suddenly have chosen, six years after his death, to attach himself to some random stranger in a pub to tell you something really pretty anodyne? And is that much more likely than someone using cold reading techniques and making a lucky guess that the name she chose might be someone you knew?

I think it's a bit arrogant to assume we know everything about life and the universe

The thiing is, though, that people have been trying to find scientific proof that this sort of thing is genuine for an incredibly long time, with large rewards being offered to the person who comes up with proof. And no-one ever has. Don't you think that if people coming back from the dead to pass on fairly pointless messages was a thing there would be at least some testable evidence by now?

I would absolutely hate to think my dead relatives were standing around watching me do undignified things when I think I’m alone 😖

She must have overheard someone talking about you. People give away loads of detail if you listen carefully. She would only have had to hear something like “it’s great to see Believers looking so happy since Dave’s death “
Id have been furious if someone did this to me on a night out. It’s bad enough when friends do it when you just want to forget the bad things for one night.

I would think the most likely explanation is that your friends mentioned your husband by name while you were in the loo, and she overheard x

This. What she did was really rude and intrusive.

Let's say she was genuine. She had no idea how you were going to react, and no idea who you were with. Yet she sat next to you and held your hand and told you this without checking you were ok with any of it. Why did she need to touch you? Why couldn't she have asked for a word privately?

I recieved a message and a description of the deceased. They said he's not verbal but waving his hands around, making a lot of gestures. This was someone I knew, who was deaf and used sign language!

That is seriously bad luck, to STILL be deaf and nonverbal in the afterlife, and presumably for all eternity

That is what I always think!