What just happened?! I don't know what to make of this.

[Believers]

I've had the strangest experience tonight and I don't know how to explain it.

I volunteer with a charity, and tonight myself and 3 others from there went out to a pub I've never been to before for a pre-Christmas drink.

At one point I went to the toilet and as I was on my way out a woman was on her way in. We exchanged pleasantries and went on our separate ways.

About 5 minutes after I'd joined my friends, this same woman came up to us, and sat next to me on the banquette thing. She took my hand and said she had to tell me something.

It was all a bit odd, but I figured she'd maybe had a drink, and I had no objection to her joining us. But then she said to me that she had xxx with her and he wanted me to know that he was happy, that he loved me and that it was time I moved on. She was crying as she said this and I started crying too because xxx was the name of my late dh.

I have no idea how she could've known any of this. None of us knew her, I'd never been to that pub before, dh's name isn't wildly unusual but not that common either, why did she come and find me after our brief encounter in the toilet etc.

I can't get my head around it! Any ideas?!

I've seen one who was genuine.

I hope you found comfort in the message.

👍

I mean, great that you got the baby.

How secure is your social media? If you 'checked in' at the pub, or she used the 'nearby' function she could easily have found your profile, searched your full name for other platforms, and if your late DH is mentioned on there decided to come and talk to you.

FWIW I don't know if I believe in mediums - I believe in the afterlife. There are so many exposed fakes that I know lots of them are charlatans. I can't know any are real. However, I do know that many of them believe they are real, and despite snooping around in the natural, will still genuinely claim that they are communicating with spirits because "I couldn't have known that part". A mixture of cold-reading and research. What makes them convincing is they've convinced themselves.

I know some on here seem to think it's lovely, but I'll add another thing that I don't like - a complete stranger sitting close to me and grabbing my hand. Completely overstepping most people's boundaries and I would HATE that.

It's like the recipient of their attention don't matter and are just a conduit for their "specialness" and narcism.

Did you find comfort in her message? If so, let it be. If not, just ignore and forget.

There are things that you may not be able to explain, either because you don’t have enough information or because they simply have no explanation. No need to torture yourself over rationalising then situation.

Also possible.

I met had a similar experience in a pub - I'd just met my now DH and she said we'd be very happy together - been married 14 years now!
Didn't ask for any money or anything 🤷🏻‍♀️

I had the same once.

I was sat on a park bench on my lunch break and an old lady walked up to me.

She said “please listen. I’ve got Dorothy with me. She wants you to know your baby will be okay. It will be worrying, but he will be fine and will grow up strong”.

She patted me on the shoulder and walked off, I was too WTF to ask anything.

Dorothy was my grandmother who died the previous year, but I had no Idea why she would talk about a baby.

Until my period was 2 weeks late and I did a test. Ds was born not breathing, he was in NICU for two weeks, but ultimately he was fine (and 20 now!)

I wish someone had been with me as no one ever believes me. It wasn’t even like I looked pregnant - I would have only been 4 weeks then, me and exh weren’t even trying for a baby.

Whether you're a spiritual believer or not, I know it made you cry but if this happened to me I'd take a lot of comfort from this.
So sorry for your loss, sending hugs to you xx

Your friends were talking about it while you were in the toilet.

That's probably why she followed you in a couple of minutes later, but then for some reason had a change of heart and decided to mention it later on instead.

Sometimes the simplest explanations are the right ones...

I wish someone would give me a message like that from my mum.

I would just take comfort from it op.

This.

Something very similar happened to a family member many years ago in the US. That medium was not known at all then but went in to have a tv career and always comes across as being very genuine. It was completely random and unprovoked like you, and he mentioned many accurate details about the person who had died. He says this person would not leave him alone till he had passed the message on!

@VenusClapTrap , me too!

OP, I cannot help, but, I have now bought that book (and hope it doesn't take me a year to wade through, like "The mirror and the light")

I find this really interesting - I hope you are ok.

I hear about this more and more and find it fascinating.

My friend was in Marks and Spencer's and a similar thing happened with a lady approaching her. She said she knew she was torn with a decision but please go for tests (gyn) as soon as possible.

Friend and hubby were debating wether to have one child or none ( private conversations behind closed doors) Husband was furious and complained to the staff.

Friend took herself off for a private test and there was early signs of cancer.

This pressured them to get pregnant and after C section they took everything out.

I've always found this fascinating.

I wonder why these medium skills also seem to be linked with extremely poor social skills around the living.

I mean, if I needed to tell a stranger something urgent/life-changing whilst they were clearly out with mates at a pub, I might approach tentatively, ask if I could have a word, say that I know it sounded daft but I thought that someone from their past had just tried to get a message to them and ask if they wanted me to continue.

I will never forget being approached publicly aged about 15 when I was at a community event by a guy of about 19. He started gazing into my face and telling me that God had just told him that I would bring the love of Jesus to many people. I was already feeling like the least cool of my cousins and it ruined my evening. It was frankly scary.

This.

I don't think all mediums are out and out charlatans, I think some genuinely believe in their "gift". But they are cold reading/working on information they've heard/taken in unconsciously, not receiving messages from spirit.

If this actually happened I bet either you or one of your friends has done a check in at that pub on social media and she found you that way.

Could it be, that whilst you were in the toilets your friends mentioned something she overheard?

Sorry for your loss,

I don't think I'm a believer - but there are some very convincing stories out there. And who knows? 200 years ago people would have wondered at electricity, wifi, aeroplanes. Are we that arrogant to believe that we now know everything about the universe?

I just wish my Dad (died 60 years ago when I was 6) would get in contact.

Same. Like an emotional hijacking.