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What just happened?! I don't know what to make of this.

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Believers · 14/12/2022 00:52

I've had the strangest experience tonight and I don't know how to explain it.

I volunteer with a charity, and tonight myself and 3 others from there went out to a pub I've never been to before for a pre-Christmas drink.

At one point I went to the toilet and as I was on my way out a woman was on her way in. We exchanged pleasantries and went on our separate ways.

About 5 minutes after I'd joined my friends, this same woman came up to us, and sat next to me on the banquette thing. She took my hand and said she had to tell me something.

It was all a bit odd, but I figured she'd maybe had a drink, and I had no objection to her joining us. But then she said to me that she had xxx with her and he wanted me to know that he was happy, that he loved me and that it was time I moved on. She was crying as she said this and I started crying too because xxx was the name of my late dh.

I have no idea how she could've known any of this. None of us knew her, I'd never been to that pub before, dh's name isn't wildly unusual but not that common either, why did she come and find me after our brief encounter in the toilet etc.

I can't get my head around it! Any ideas?!

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Annabel073 · 14/12/2022 09:30

Something similar happened to me about 6 months after my mum died when I was young. A lady who I had never met before told me my mum was sending me a bunch of my favourite flowers and correctly named them. It would be impossible to guess this as they are not sold in the UK and she used the 'local' name for them, rather than the name by which most people would know them. I've never encountered her since but have thought of her often over the years.

Rockersversuswalter · 14/12/2022 09:31

Knowing a name isn't magic.

Sorry.

Morestrangethings · 14/12/2022 09:32

santasbushybeard · 14/12/2022 09:20

Re Ghosts. - Don’t watch the American version. it’s probably just because the original is so excellent, it seems dire in comparison!

I wind my children up by saying I will never leave them and will be watching one of them at all times. Ds always says, if I need the toilet, please haunt one of my sisters for 15 mins, don’t make it weird 😂

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Han99 · 14/12/2022 09:32

That's not to say I'm not open to persuasion. I love the idea that we could speak to loved ones who have left us

Han99 · 14/12/2022 09:33

Morestrangethings · 14/12/2022 09:32

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You're so right. The American Ghosts is rubbish, the BBC one is sooo much better!!

Blabla81 · 14/12/2022 09:36

santasbushybeard · 14/12/2022 08:29

But telling me something very accurate (I was pregnant, “he”, which he was, would be okay but it would be worrying.

How would you pick up on all that?

I’ve had people say she could have seen you were young with a wedding ring and so mentioned pregnancy - I’ve never worn any jewellery so no wedding ring. I’ve had people ask was I reading a baby magazine - it was heat 🤣 always read it on my lunch break the two days I did day shift, I had no interest in falling pregnant when I did, he was a wonderful suprise.

The name, yes, could have been a lucky guess. She could have just said your grandmother though.

And lots of people have tough births and have problems afterwards.

I am genuinely interested, I’ve read about cold reading through the years, watched so many programs, but she wasn’t just throwing things out there or telling me “facts” about a dead relative. I never said a word, it was over in seconds.

It would have been quite a coincidence if she had made it up.

I would never pay to see anyone. Like I said, I think most are fake. But that experience has never left me.

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I know it sounds weird, but I have, on several occasions, been able to know someone’s pregnant just by looking at their face. I don’t know what it is - an energy? Something that changes slightly? Twice I’ve known my sister was pregnant before she’d told anyone and she was so freaked out and could not understand how I knew. And there were 2 people at work - I can’t explain how I knew, I just knew. I’m sure there is an explanation for it - something primal perhaps.

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Believers · 14/12/2022 09:38

Oh gosh, thank you for all the messages :).

I'm not upset at all by what happened, just completely puzzled. We really hadn't mentioned dh at all before that, and I'm not on any social media. I don't even have a Facebook account. There were no newspaper articles/obituaries when he died.

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Chickenvoicesinmyhead · 14/12/2022 09:39

October2020 · 14/12/2022 09:26

Your friends were talking about you when you were in the loo. This lady is fake. However - I'd trust however your gut reacted to the message to be how you proceed with 'moving on', or not. Psychics are a load of nonsense, but our gut is never wrong!

Once you've got your head around it @Believers I hope it brings you comfort.

Yes, there are many charlatans but the various experiences on here show there are also genuine mediums. We are so sophisticated and detached from our energy. We don't know everything. There is much still to learn.

In your words @October2020 ....load of nonsense, but our gut is never wrong.

I may have read this wrong but you've just described something that can't be proven but you choose to believe it!?

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Believers · 14/12/2022 09:46

I didn't make it up, I promise!

I suppose my friends may have mentioned dh when I was in the toilet but after she'd left us we were all speculating about how she could've known that. And none of them said "oh we were talking about xxx when you were in the loo". They were all as "wtf" as me!

No check-in in the pub.

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TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 14/12/2022 09:46

DarkNecessities · 14/12/2022 07:05

I also suspect your friends may have talked about it whilst you were in the loo

This
This if they say they didn’t all it takes a own sentence that they then forgot or deny.

TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 14/12/2022 09:47

*One

as in one day I’ll learn to double check before posting

DangerousAlchemy · 14/12/2022 09:47

JeanMarie · 14/12/2022 02:37

This has happened to me twice....both times in the same hospital. It really spooked me! First time was when I with my son in A&E, waiting to get a plaster on his foot. I noticed a girl helping a woman to get to the reception desk. The girl looked panicky and the woman looked like she was about to drop. I went over to ask if I could help and sat with the woman while the girl booked her in. The poor woman could hardly breathe, she was gasping but managed to tell me she had pneumonia and her immune system was wrecked. I said I had a lowered immune system and she said " Yes, I know . You see a neurologist don't you". It was a real WTF moment...I actually do see a neurologist regularly. Before I could say anything she said "don't be frightened....your mother told me" . My mum had died the previous year . I told her not to try and talk because her breathing was really shallow but she said my mum was giving her strength. Just then the girl ( her daughter) came over and I left to go back to my son. She reached for my hand and said " she loved the flowers you left at the river". Now I really was freaked out...a few days earlier it would have been my mum's birthday and I'd went to the river where her ashes were scattered and left flowers.
I'm the biggest sceptic there is about these things but.......
The second time was when I was admitted to the same hospital for a minor operation. I'd just got changed and settled when a woman a few beds down came over ....as I thought to say hello. She told me not to worry ....she said my mum was with me as I walked into the ward.
I'd never met, or seen either of these women before or since....and it still freaks me out 12 years later.

That is all so creepy @JeanMarie !! I don't really believe in any of that stuff but I've never had an experience like yours either tbh x

Blabla81 · 14/12/2022 09:48

My mums uncle lived with us (and her, years after I’d left home) for about 20 years. Strange man - very religious and very set in his routines so the following story isn’t that believable to me (or my family). Anyway, at the age of 78, he passed away in hospital after much resistance (kept trying to sit up, saying he was going home , reaching out to something at the end of the bed, all usual, and very sad). The next day at my mums home, an elderly dishevelled man turned up on the door step out of breath, having ridden his bicycle all the way from his home several miles away. He was adamant that he had to come because George, the uncle, wanted to urgently let my mum know that he was ok and in the ether. That was it . He then rode home again . No idea who the man was, no way he could have known about him dying as it had only happened the day before. It left my mum and sister who was there at the time very “eh? Wtf?.

Redkettle · 14/12/2022 09:49

Fascinating thread

JaneAustensHeroine · 14/12/2022 09:49

I used to work with someone who could detect pregnancy by a certain smell. She would know people were pregnant before they did. It was uncanny. When you saw her twitch her nose you knew!!

Wishimaywishimight · 14/12/2022 09:50

I keep an open mind on these things. As you say OP, she had absolutely nothing to gain from passing on this message and I would take it as a well meant gesture that you can take comfort from. It's always wise to retain a healthy scepticism but those who dismiss such matters as "scams" are perhaps too quick to do so. As someone once said to me "you don't know what you don't know". I am inclined to believe there is more to the universe than that which we can see and touch right now.

skyeisthelimit · 14/12/2022 09:50

There are genuine mediums out there. I have seen more than one over the years, and have somebody within my own family who is gifted that way.

People can disbelieve if you have never come across it, that is their prerogative, but you shouldn't insult others.

Take comfort from it OP, the message was meant for you and she had to pass it on.

knittingaddict · 14/12/2022 09:51

To those who say that these "mediums" get nothing out of it, what makes you say that? Money isn't the only currency. They get attention, they get to feel special, they get people talking about them (many years later it seems, if this thread is anything to go by). For someone needy, attention seeking or with narcissistic tendancies, that is like gold dust.

If this was real someone would have proof by now and all the anecdotes wouldn't be from people meeting strangers in a pub.

ArtixLynx · 14/12/2022 09:51

you are always going to get people who scam, people who think its a scam..etc

however, i'm a pagan witch and firmly in the camp of belief that the energy that surrounds us in life, leaves echoes in death, and there are people out there who can pick up on those echoes and surges in the energy that connects us all... thats all prayer and spells are.. energy manipulation essentially.

Its quite possible this person was genuine, but no-one else can tell you what to believe or what not to believe. What matters is YOUR perception of it, and her intent in giving it.

If her intent was pure and for no gain, then take it at face value, the level of belief you have is up to you... if it brings you any peace to believe, then that is enough.

DangerousAlchemy · 14/12/2022 09:51

Dotellhimpike · 14/12/2022 03:49

I've just finished reading Beyond Black by Hilary Mantel and this could be a scene from the book.

Oooh @Dotellhimpike - was it good? I love her books 📚

blankittyblank · 14/12/2022 09:52

I've never believed in mediums or anything. Not at all spiritual, not religious or anything.

But, the weirdest thing happened to my sister after mum died. My sis used to work with woman who she didn't know very well, and this woman was very corporate (wore a suit each day). Only mentioning that as she wasn't woo or anything.

Anyway, mum has been dead a year or so. This woman didn't know my sister, didn't know our mum had died. But she would keep coming over to mum sister and saying things like "I'm sorry to bother you, but is your dad making bread and butter pudding? Because apparently he's doing it wrong". And things like "did you ever get that car mirror fixed"? Loads mor little things like this.

It was SO weird. This woman didn't want anything. She looked sort of troubled when she came over like "I need to tell you this cus I can hear it"

The weird thing with my dad making bread and butter pudding, is he had been making it! And he didn't really make any desserts. Just that one, and was trying to copy how my mum did it. My sister didn't even know this (she lived in aus) but I did.... so there's no way woman could have known through my sister or anything. Also, mum mum would have totally despaired at how dad made it 😄

It really freaked us out, but actually in a lovely way. I still don't relay believe in life after death or anything. But I can't explain that. My sister described it as an echo of mum, which was a nice way to explain it.

Moranguinho · 14/12/2022 09:54

And you know that how?

Dotellhimpike · 14/12/2022 09:54

Oooh @Dotellhimpike - was it good? I love her books

First one of hers I read, was almost going to give up about a third of the way in but I am so glad I stayed with it, never read a book quite like it, in essence the story of a woman who is haunting herself.

Pilgit · 14/12/2022 09:56

We don't really know if this is possible or not. Shutting it down as impossible seems short sighted - it was a commonly held belief that we couldn't fly until we did. So dismissing it as a possibility seems short sighted when we don't know what science will discover next. There are though lots of horrid people who play on people's emotions and exploit them. I'd like to think there is something further after death.

knittingaddict · 14/12/2022 09:57

Moranguinho · 14/12/2022 09:54

And you know that how?

Who are you asking?

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