Is it really the norm to be completely hair free for sex now?

[Getdone]

I was married for 30 years, I kept myself tidy if I was likely to be going swimming but that's about it. DH never seemed to mind or express a preference for anything else.

I was part of a conversation with a bunch of middle aged, mostly single, admittedly quite drunk, men and women (don't ask me how the conversation came up!) and the consensus seemed to be that anything other than a completely hair free woman and a well trimmed man was "disgusting".

I've told them all that if the ever get the opportunity (they won't!) they'll have to take it as it comes 😆

I really can't imagine setting myself up for that sort of maintenence, even if I wanted to, but is it really the norm?

Every single place this was normal.

Are you sure it wasn't just... you?

I’ve worked across 6 different companies, for most it’s how you progress quickly and secure large pay rises.

Thanks for the advice

Guessing the open sex talk helps too

I do it for purely practical reasons. I have coarse body hair, they get caught in the elastic or in the weave of my knickers and pull, if not trimmed. It’s quite painful like snagging. And if trimmed, because it’s so thick they can be spiky, rub against my thighs and end up with a rash. Nothing to do with porn, just easier especially now I’ve lasered so it doesn’t grow back.

@Baconsprouts and I'm pleased you've agreed that your parents' approach is indeed not the norm...

I have a very well trimmed and maintained bush and both myself and my DH prefer it.
For me, it feels cleaner and sex/ orgasms are much better. But that’s me.
I really don’t feel attractive with a furry muff so this suits both of us.

More common sense than advice but continue to be an arse if you like.

Id not be on the salary I am now at my age if I hadn’t job hopped for payrises and progression through the years, it doesn’t pay to be loyal in most industries unfortunately

‘Furry muff’… why do people have to use such weird and derogatory language? 🤣.
I could say ‘I wouldn’t like having a naked mole rat down my pants’ 😂.

@Baconsprouts I don't know why you're talking about careers to me, honestly if you knew me you'd be cringing at what you're saying right now!

You could be earning even more if you spent more time working and less time talking about your sex life and pubic hair 😉

@Baconsprouts

Erm not pivoting. You were the one who said you regularly chatted about sex with your dad including your bits aka your minge! But hey keep back peddling 😂.

By the way I’m not repressed just because I don’t to inform my dad about my sex life 😂

Nope, as I don’t work with friends and their workplaces are all the same.

It’s weird you are so set on this not being reality, when it’s just not your reality.

The study referenced earlier shows over 25% of people talk openly about sex even with co-workers. And more than half those surveyed think being more open with sex is beneficial even if not all are brave enough to do it

@WaddleAway

Wow so she even chats about her minge to co workers as well as her dad? Christ.

Do you not understand the word most?

The study referenced earlier shows over 25% of people talk openly about sex even with co-workers

You know it's out of 100 right...so the majority do not...

I'm sure sex talk would go down really well in my work place not

Never said I talk to my dad about my minge. Again you don’t seem to grasp the word ‘most’

I talk about sex definitely, as it’s quite an open topic on both sides of my family, and when you have IVF and struggle to conceive you end up talking about sex a lot with those who know about it!

Never said the majority do.

@Baconsprouts

No, you said you talk about your sex life and your “bits” to your family and most of all your dad. I mean do you understand the word most?

Just own it, you chat to your dad about your minge, or are you referring to other “bits” 🫤 It’s there in black and white.

Never said the majority do.

Except you keep trying to state that your experience is the norm and others are the odd ones, despite having to concede there's a study saying you're in the minority and have already back peddled to say your parents are not usual (and thus the parental sex tips are in fact not normal.....)

Well you clearly don’t understand the word most.

I listed things I discuss with my mum and friends, and said most I also discuss with my dad, the word most in this context means some of that list is not discussed with my dad.

You haven’t seemed to understand that word and have taken it that I discuss everything listed with him as well. Which is a bit silly.

I never said my experience is the norm, I said it’s normal for me and everyone I know.

Goodness me, some really dense people on here tonight.

I'd rather never have sex again than have sex with a man who trimmed anything. I hate the shaved/groomed look on a man. Trim your beard if it's a bit long but that's it! I shave if I can be arsed!

@Baconsprouts

Convenient. 🚲 Particularly when you then referenced you did discuss sex tips with your dad particularly when he entered the dating pool. That has nothing at all to do with IVF.

@Baconsprouts * "definitely normal*"

Sure I'm being dense, using the literal definitions of the words you're writing...

The words “they” which means more than one person. Swapping sex tips with your mum and dad and them also getting tips off you. Yeah, totally normal. Just us repressive normal Mumsnet folks who find that a little odd.