Is it really the norm to be completely hair free for sex now?

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I was married for 30 years, I kept myself tidy if I was likely to be going swimming but that's about it. DH never seemed to mind or express a preference for anything else.

I was part of a conversation with a bunch of middle aged, mostly single, admittedly quite drunk, men and women (don't ask me how the conversation came up!) and the consensus seemed to be that anything other than a completely hair free woman and a well trimmed man was "disgusting".

I've told them all that if the ever get the opportunity (they won't!) they'll have to take it as it comes 😆

I really can't imagine setting myself up for that sort of maintenence, even if I wanted to, but is it really the norm?

is it ageist to state a fact, that 51 is objectively old?

Prudishness does often have an age element, and that users age does give some insight into their views and lack of knowledge about what a bloody meme is

When I was 22 I talked to colleagues about sex sure (don't ever remember discussing body hair and keeping track of what they each did, or their parents for that matter), but now most people I work with are either men I'm trying to square up to in meetings or people line managed by me, so no it doesn't happen, and I'm equally in a much busier job than I was in my 20s.

I'm from a family of girls and know that all my siblings and girl mates of same age all don't have hair down there mostly (30's).

Also @PortiasBiscuit your comment regarding the association with children is really gross and offensive to women who choose not to have hair down there and to their partners. You're implying that women do it either to mimic that look or to please their partner, neither of which are the reasons.

I assume you’ve never heard of the Swinging Sixties, then.

@Baconsprouts but 51 is surely younger than your dad, who you apparently talk about sex with?

FYI yahoo news stories aren't really based on facts

It’s definitely alternative, I don’t think you can use a group of ‘alternative’ people as your basis of the norm.

And I’m sure it would be weird for you, as seen in other threads you’ve struggle work wise.

this might be of interest - uk.style.yahoo.com/brits-prudishness-sex-talk-colleagues-142608635.html?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvLnVrLw&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAAFIQDNkxA_Erpjoxeo9z3-EIRPKi7-oODnbem0mHvdUuEMw2zM7dCcpa3eSmZdXzUZ6BAv8-rhxcOaDEGQWm3VtRSUapYkDD-ApNu_wASIojmd8sttkPX1PYiuzaq3i42nTeXIjkZx_PmXjxwbNJb8fdZdq9ewx5rr71t87ULbW

Ok please tell me what a meme is.
51 is old when you’re in your 20s but believe me I still feel the same. I think it’s a lot about the type of person you are as to whether you openly talk about sex and public hair with colleagues. It’s crude.

is it ageist to state a fact, that 51 is objectively old?

Yes. "Old" is not a fact at 51. And I'm a long way off it myself. I don't understand your posts, on the one hand you're trying to say you and your parents are completely normal giving each other sex tips, but on the other you're saying "old" people in their 50s are repressed and don't talk about sex which would make your family abnormal by your own measure...so which is it?

Yep, I never said older people don’t or can’t talk about sex, but it’s an objective fact that older people have more prudish attitudes towards sex than younger generations.

Its seen a lot on here, that doesn’t mean all older people are prudes, but it does explain why some posters on here find certain things alien.

Well I find what you're talking about alien @Baconsprouts. I've worked with people the same ages as me and I've worked with people older and younger and never discussed sex at work.

it’s an objective fact that older people have more prudish attitudes towards sex than younger generations

An objective fact? Seriously? What data are you basing this assertion on?

Yep, I never said older people don’t or can’t talk about sex, but it’s an objective fact that older people have more prudish attitudes towards sex than younger generations

They're not, most of them are just not creepy like your parents and don't inflict inappropriate sex talk on much younger women.

Who said all people in their 50’s are repressed?

it’s not however a lie to say there are far more sexually repressed people in their 50’s than in their 30’s

I now work in tech, as I said in that thread I retrained. Couldn’t talk about body hair on reception, greeting strangers with a conversation about pubes 😂
Still don’t discuss sex life at work, would be deeply weird. Quite a young demographic in my office, aside from the standard arsehole boss and weird finance guy, but it would be deeply uncomfortable to cross those boundaries

So your non-alternative girl, she still shaves? Are we talking the eyelash extension and fillers type because that wouldn’t surprise me but also none of my friends are in that demographic

I prefer to be completely bare. I think like anything in life we all have preferences and the whole point of sex is to enjoy so do what makes you happy.

@Baconsprouts so your parents are abnormal then?

Well I’m in my 30’s, absolutely not ‘sexually repressed’, but don’t talk to my colleagues about sex and body hair. I’m busy at work. It’s a professional environment. It would be inappropriate and crude.

I was in a restaurant last week and a woman on another table was with a large work group obviously on a Christmas do. She was boasting that she loves giving blow jobs but once threw up on a partner’s stomach when she got one of his hairs stuck in her throat. Classy.

Anyone who believes people in their 50s and up are more likely to be sexually repressed than someone in their 30s has clearly never been to a fetish or swingers club…

My non alternative girl?

And definitely none of my friends or colleagues are the eyelash and filler type, more likely to go on a Boden shopping spree than get our faces pumped with lord knows what.

I have friends working in the civil service, large banking institutions, schools, architects, estate managers, carers, I myself work in a large multinational currently and all of them, and myself talk about sex at work. It’s pretty normal and I’ve never worked anywhere it’s not been.

There we have it, not that uncommon

It’s pretty normal and I’ve never worked anywhere it’s not been

But you're SO young apparently, you can't have been that many places.

I can’t believe that any woman who shaves their pubes off thinks that’s just personal preference and that they are in no way influenced by porn, patriarchy etc. I don’t think it’s rude to say that it looks like a child, the main thing in my view that distinguishes a child/adult genital area is hair. I appreciate that many disagree but in my view it’s part of an ever increasing objectification and disgust with the natural body.

Probably!

and don’t even get me started on my Nan! Although she was a proper 60s wild child in her days so it’s not that surprising the stuff that comes out of her at times!

I’ve worked across 6 different companies, for most it’s how you progress quickly and secure large pay rises.

Every single place this was normal.