Starting a ‘wee only’ rule in the en-suite rule?

[Notsympatheticenough]

new house. En-suite isn’t as soundproof as old en-suite. Dh’s ablutions in the morning are…loud. Is it unreasonable I ask him to use the family bathroom?

he says the loo is more comfortable in The en suite. He has no embarrassment factor.

maybe I could offer to stop doing something that annoys him?

Don't have an en-suite then.
What's the point?
If the smell bothers you then your bedroom is far too small or you can't be bothered with air freshener.

People shit. It's natural.

@stuntbubbles
Not true, I had it peer-reviewed

For this comment all is forgiven

Unfortunately our en suite is the only bathroom I can't hear my husband emptying his bowels. For some reason the downstairs loo and family bathroom echoes like mad... such a turn on.

🤣🤣🤣

So why have doors or walls at all? Why not put toilets in a corner of whichever room lends itself to plumbing.
Because it is a bit gross really and undignified.. And I say that as someone who doesn’t mind a nappy, picking up dog shit or working in cow shit on farms.

Ours is wee only as DH does really stinky shits. Plus the family bathroom is all of about 12 feet from our bedroom. He respects that and I agreed to Chuck the paper from on top of the butter straight into the bin after opening it. Apparently it drives him mad if it’s still there 🙄 🙄 Life’s all about compromise.

Do you make guest traipse downstairs in the middle of the night? 😮

No, they traipse along the hallway to use the upstairs bathroom, or if they’re staying in the loft bedrooms they use the en-suite up there.

I don’t mind pooping in the en-suite although hearing farts echoing against the porcelain of the toilet can be a turn off… I just hate when DH leaves the door wide open when he poops so the bedroom then smells like shit 🤢 …

Speaking of poor loo placement, I'll never forget being at a dinner party where the loo was directly above the dining room and there was really poor sound insulation. An older lady was speaking but paused when we all heard "plop...plop...". There was a terrible, awkward pause where no-one dared say anything until she continued, (imagine this in a cut-glass accent) "As I was saying...". 🤣

No downstairs loo here. Family bathroom is where guests and DS use (for all bathroom activities). En suite on top floor is where DH and I use (for all bathroom activities). We try to show each other respect by not using it for a poo if the other is in the bedroom but I have IBS so sometimes needs must….

Everyone poos (unless they have a colostomy bag and I’d rather hear / smell someone’s poo than them have to have a colostomy).

Having a urinal in the bathroom doesn't always work....

My husband is banned from the en-suite but mainly because he has a medical problem but managed to shit all over the last en-suite. He never normally shits all over the house, he holds down a highly paid, professional job and functions just fine.

Before you all bash me, he didn't properly clean it up and there was some on my laundry basket and door. I didn't speak to him for three fucking days. Marriage died a bit tbh.

I love him so much, but he wonders why I never want sex anymore

And this is why we don't have an en-suite. No thank you!

I lived with a guy like that and I didn’t like it one bit. Off putting.

What’s the point of having a toilet in the en-suite if it’s not allowed to be used for the thing it as made for??
Use mine regularly and the smell never comes through to the bedroom. Modern house and I can’t hear pooing happening. How is your husband that loud??! The splashing sound or groaning… seriously it can’t be that loud.
I think you all need to relax a bit. But hey, I have a bowel disease, maybe my tolerance is higher than the general population.

I decided the ensuite was mine and mine alone when my OH refused to train our little boy to put the toilet seat lid down. We had just moved I to our new house, three loos in total and I felt as if everywhere I looked there was a loo seat sporting its underside. My OH accepted this and it was a very good compromise. If anyone asks to use it I always say yes, but they do have to ask.

Poo Pouri loo sprays or similar brands mask poo smells
A few sprays in the bowl before pooing effectively keeps the smell down
Matches don't work as I found out when my decorator used my bathroom 🤢