Starting a ‘wee only’ rule in the en-suite rule?

[Notsympatheticenough]

new house. En-suite isn’t as soundproof as old en-suite. Dh’s ablutions in the morning are…loud. Is it unreasonable I ask him to use the family bathroom?

he says the loo is more comfortable in The en suite. He has no embarrassment factor.

maybe I could offer to stop doing something that annoys him?

I am in bed currently listening to my neighbours having a poo next door. Just saying.

user1497787065 · Today 06:57
This again. We all know how weird MN is about en-suite bathrooms. If I'm in bed and need to poo I use my en-suite bathroom if I'm downstairs unused the downstairs loo which is off the laundry room. I don't consider that piping there will contaminate my laundry.

the fact that your downstairs loo is off
your laundry room, shows
that you must have a decent sized house. Most 3 bed new builds are tiny, yet still have a en suite squeezed in, in essentially a cupboard next to the bed! The walls are paper thin and you can hear very grunt and strain! Not pleasant!!

That's why I hate ensuits and always veto them when we buy or renovate a house. I think you now have a problem. You can't stop someone midway, and as it's there your dh will want to use it in the middle of the night. You should have bought a house without ensuits and help stop that terrible fashion 😂

I would simply change my name, move house, and full ghost him if my DP insisted on shitting in the bedroom.

Point out what a libido-killer it is.

Ha! Our en suite is just a shower room, huge sink and vanity unit, no toilet.
Believe it or not we didn't notice until after we moved in! We just assumed there was none - what a pair of dummies!

I was dismayed when we realised. However, I quickly changed my mind for the very reason OP states.

Thankfully, there is a small downstairs toilet, so that's enough to make up for our stupidity.

Was just pointing out to the person up the thread who has a guest loo down stairs that guests may feel squeamish too.

3 toilets here ( 2 of us)
Ensuite is wees only.

The trouble with the placement of downstairs loos is that with many you seem to have to emerge right next to the bosom of a family gathering, often a dining room, one’s methane trailing behind.

I'd prefer our next house to have an outside toilet than an en-suite.

(For DH obviously)

Headphones? They save my sanity every day for so many reasons!

You learn something amazing every day!! I cannot believe that there are those who do not poop in the en suite! It is a toilet - use it!

I am also intrigued by the idea of someone "not allowing" their partner to poop in there. What sanctions are in place I wonder?! The guy needs a poop - leave him be.

It's a poo not kryptonite. Just open a window

I understand many of the modern cupboard type en suites are windowless. Alas.

Yes this . My loo downstairs has a fan so it muffles the sound inside. Unfortunately the sound inside the loo amplifies in the small hall so all you hear in the living room is someone using the loo.
Its also right by the front door. I was having a morning poo when DS opened the front door to my friend. I could talk to her from inside whilst hoping nothing was wafting out. I love an outside loo frankly,

We don't have any ensuites for this very reason. It's not too far to take a few extra steps to the bathroom. We have 3 bathrooms and don't share.

Riiiight.

If you don't have a window light a match it gets rid of the smell
Good God, everyone poos, it's not a secret

We have this rule by mutual consent. There are 2 other toilets for pooing in

It’s not a secret, no, but it’s not something I want to hear or smell while I’m in bed. Nor should OP have to open a window or light a match. There’s a reasonable expectation when sleeping, dozing or relaxing in bed that you’re not also enduring a male performance poo.

God, this thread has reminded me of a ex-boyfriend who used to fart and then hold a match by his bum. Christ.

I agree, BUT bits can fall off the match and burn the floor. Speaking from experience...

Why would a fully grown adult make noises while having their BO?

You get to dictate where someone can have a poo?

MN is weird.

It's a normal bodily function. Hope your's smells of roses.

En-suites have doors. You don't accuse your family of shitting on the landing, do you?

It’s a normal bodily function that has no place in the bedroom. It’s not dictatorial to want to sleep!