Starting a ‘wee only’ rule in the en-suite rule?

[Notsympatheticenough]

new house. En-suite isn’t as soundproof as old en-suite. Dh’s ablutions in the morning are…loud. Is it unreasonable I ask him to use the family bathroom?

he says the loo is more comfortable in The en suite. He has no embarrassment factor.

maybe I could offer to stop doing something that annoys him?

DH banned from using en suite loo. Luckily there are four other loos in the house so he’s never caught short.

It's good manners to use the main bathroom if the other person is still asleep and your plopping will disturb them, but in general a toilet's a toilet. I'll give off to DH if he's done a smelly shit, but I'd do in good humour regardless of the loo I detect it in. I don't agree with policing poo's- it's his house too and as long as he doesn't leave skids up the back of the toilet what does it matter? It's weirdly controlling.

@Phos
U v. Non-U was a attempt to keep the oiks in their place by Nancy Mitford and her jolly upper class chums.
It selected words used by the Upper Classes (U) against words used by the non-upper classes (non-U) to show which tribe you belonged to.
An appalling bit of mid 20th century snobbery.

Gosh that got away from me. Yes it's the lack of soundproofing. If he's in bed I'll use the family bathroom. He doesn't....

Headphones might be the answer....

Oh I get it. Heard of Mitford sisters but not especially familiar with them so that one obviously escaped my notice!

Only on MN...

DH and I only ever need a wee in the night so this issue doesn't arise (we don't have an en suite anyway, but the main bathroom is next door). I suppose I'd prefer it if he used the loo downstairs if he did need more than that in the night but so would he as he prefers privacy. Although not if he had the runs and getting downstairs would mean he got caught short!

During the day who cares who uses what?

I didn’t even know this was a thing.

Imagine being so weird and prissy about a normal bodily function.

It’s prissy to not want to hear someone loudly pooing from a few feet away?

@stuntbubbles - I live in a bungalow. No choice.

Related question: is it an en suite if the door is not inside the bedroom but the room is adjacent?

Husband has his own bathroom - I won't even share a toilet with him. I keep the upstairs one nice and clean for me and baby. Too many arguments about his mess in the past.

Amazed at all these people with two bathrooms/loos. We’ve only got one!

Our friends wife banned him from pooing anywhere except in the loo under the stairs (they had 5 toilets in the house).

Their marriage did not last!

What are people eating that’s making their poo smell so badly they’re banished to the other end of the house to go to the loo.

And then everyone knew she'd done a massive dump!

If you want to keep the spark in your relationship and have your partner actually fancy you , you don’t shit in the en suite

end of

'end of'

Such a mature and balanced way to have a discussion.

@softpilllow

its true though!

who wants to hear/ smell their partners shit??

@YukoandHiro

who wants to hear / smell their partner having a shit?!

nowt prissy about wanting to avoid that

We don't have an ensuite, I hate them. Last thing I want is to hear and then smell DH pooing when I'm in the bedroom. We have separate bathrooms and I never set foot in his because his standards of cleanliness aren't up to mine.

No shitting in the en suite an no shitting in the hotel bathroom. Simple rules that make family life more harmonious.

Such a prudish rule. People saying don’t shit in the bedroom - surely there is a door and a room, separating them??

Our en suite is amazing and sound proof, but I can’t ever imagine dictating to my husband where he can poo in his own home?!!

@badbaduncle so you make people use a public bathroom rather than a hotel bathroom??

The rules were set from day 1

1. no "Heavy Use" in en-suite
2. en-suite is DaisyChain territory only, apart from night times when DH can use the en-suite, but then Rule 1 (above) applies.

Any breach of above rules = in the doghouse

Guarantee of happy marriage = separate bathrooms. 👍 men are revolting.