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How did you show yourself up during labour?

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garlicy · 25/11/2022 19:34

I was off my head on pethidine and obsessed with the fire alarm going off Blush Every time a new member of staff appeared, I would ask if them what would happen if the fire alarm went off, including the surgeon who eventually did my section.

I know to this day that I am known as the Fire Alarm Lady in that hospital Grin

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Mama3737 · 26/11/2022 02:47

floralscene · 25/11/2022 20:03

When I was being stitched up, on gas and air I said to the midwife 'do me like a porn star' still haunts me to this day

So good haha!

ExhaustedFlamingo · 26/11/2022 02:54

At 32 weeks I was suddenly admitted to hospital with sky high blood pressure. Then my waters broke a bit but there wasn't really much sign of anything happening. I was carrying twins so they thought that maybe just a bit had leaked out from one of them.

The previous week I'd had swine flu (remember that?!) and a UTI. I started getting tummy pain; they put a belt on me and had a look and said, "well it's not labour" so maybe a UTI again.

Pain was getting worse. Then the consultant turned up and said they'd send me for an ultrasound just to see what was going on with the sacs. Although I was in the maternity ward, they actually sent me to the regular scan clinic which was literally on the other side of the hospital. I asked for pain relief but the nurses said they'd give me some paracetamol after the scan. I think they thought I was being a wuss. I remember saying to them, "this really does hurt quite a lot now".

So, in my dressing gown, massive twin baby bump, tummy hurting like a motherfucker, I walked right over to the other side of the hospital to wait my turn in the scan clinic.

It was full of expectant mums - who all seemed to be really young for some reason! - who'd popped in for appointments on lunch breaks from work etc. Neatly dressed in workwear etc, all happy and positive.

The toilet was right next to the waiting chairs, only separated by a door - you literally pissed on the other side of the wall. I nipped into the toilet and was suddenly hit by an enormous wave of pain and I accidentally let out a giant fucking roar in agony. I forgot that a single thin wall wasn't going to be soundproof. Composed myself and opened the toilet door and all these women were just STARING at me.

I looked like the wild woman of Bourneo. I shuffled back to my seat while everyone studiously ignored me.

The pain was starting to get worse and worse so I kept bending over double groaning. I think they must have thought I'd escaped from being held captive in a cage somewhere.

I walked all the back to the ward and said, "look, I really do need some pain relief please" - they insisted on checking again "just in case" and I was nearly fully dilated. They tried to put me in a wheelchair to go in the lift to go downstairs to delivery which was literally RIGHT below the ward. I hate lifts. I said "you've just made me walk the entire bastard length of the hospital twice, I can definitely manage a flight of stairs".

Got to Delivery and things got a bit manic. Had pethidine and gas/air but things weren't going well so had an emergency c-section. I was absolutely off my face and sky-high. I had an inhaler tucker in my bra and a nurse kept trying to take it out. I remember saying to her, "you just really want to look at my tits don't you? Go on, admit it..."

And then the surgeon turned up and he was a very, VERY posh, older gentleman who didn't seem to like the mess of pregnant women very much. I'm willing to consider the fact it was just me he wasn't fond of. When he positioned himself by my nether regions for the first time he very clearly said, "Oh. This is very hairy. Can someone deal with this please?"

(I mean, huge twin bump, I'd split up with my ex during pregnancy. I had no idea what was going on down there. I hadn't seen anything below my belly button for months).

The delivery room was rammed with people as it was a premature delivery and there was one team per baby. I also live in a place where everyone seems to know each other. I'm sure that when I go into town even now people nudge each other and say "pssst.....that's the hairy one....".

Four weeks after I gave birth - when I should still have been 36 weeks pregnant - I received my appointment for my 36 week scan. My brother reckoned I should have gone along, had the scan and said "what do you mean they're not there?!" 😅

Sitdownnigel · 26/11/2022 03:06

My (lovely) midwife, jokingly told me I’d better have the baby quickly as she was going off shift in half an hour. I replied, “I don’t care, I don’t like you anyway”, then cackled maniacally.

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StClare101 · 26/11/2022 03:10

After 27 hours labour with no sleep I refused to push , told DH and the obstetrician to fuck off. The OB said to DH let’s just grab a drink of water and they left the room but not before OB giving the midwife a meaningful look. The midwife was allowed to stay and she had to gently talk me into letting them back in.

Same labour, I screamed I’ve changed my mind I want a C-section! It was my OB explaining that ship had sailed that led me to me telling him and DH to fuck off.

VacancyAtNumber10AGAIN · 26/11/2022 03:38

DD had pood and wrapped the cord round her neck so I was taken in for a c section under GA.

they were putting the lines in for the GA and for some reason I said to the anaesthetist “before you sew me back up will you get me a fag and a can of Dr Pepper” I hadn’t smoked in 10 years and I can’t remember the last time I drank Dr Pepper, must’ve been the gas and air cos I was off my nut on it

RambamThankyouMam · 26/11/2022 04:50

Tigertigertigertiger · 26/11/2022 00:52

No one shows themselves up during labour , it’s a wonderful magical thing to do, however you do it

Ha! I'm not sure shitting yourself and babbling nonsense cos you're high on gas & air is particularly magical, but ok!

Suboptimalsitch · 26/11/2022 05:23

This might not be the time of the thread but I don't think women should ever be ashamed or embarrassed at ANY aspect of labour. It's a heroic thing to do

I agree. Pain and the drugs used to manage it, can make people say and do all sorts of weird and wonderful things. People say the most bizarre stuff while under light sedation or after being given ketamine. Women in labour coping with agonising pain for hours on end should never feel they’d shown themselves up.

Redead · 26/11/2022 06:07

My birth wasn’t awful or anything but remembering it feels so bad. I wish I could be cheery about it like the women on this thread. 😅

I pushed for 12 minute and the baby came out and I only needed one stitch. I count my lucky stars everyday as both my sisters had horrible births. One got her baby stuck in her hip and needed physical therapy after her birth and the other had a stage three tear and hemorrhaged and nearly died from blood loss and needed reconstructive surgery after. I was absolutely terrified that I would be horribly disfigured after.

Plingston · 26/11/2022 06:51

I was only 19 when I had my first and very unprepared for it all. I unhooked myself from all of the monitors, left the room and started walking towards the exit because I'd changed my mind and I didn't want a baby, I just wanted to go home.

At one point, high on drugs, I turned to the midwife and beckoned her closer, like I was about to let her in on a secret. Then I told her that I had a filing cabinet at home, but it wasn't an ordinary filing cabinet. It was actually made from the skeleton of a person and all the files were ribs. No idea why I believed that, but I truly believed that I was confessing a deep, dark secret when I said it. I didn't have a filing cabinet of any description.

PearlSlaghoople · 26/11/2022 07:20

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preservesandreserves · 26/11/2022 07:25

IAmSoProudOf · 25/11/2022 20:07

Also the obvious' I'm gonna pooooooo' said poo was actually the baby.

Oh dear, the opposite for me.
I had terrible diarrhea for my whole labour and I thought "this Is it", alerted the midwife and shit everywhere. Over and over for hours.
it was the worst experience of my life. But only afterwards, during I was fine about it and the lovely midwife was absolutely gorgeous. She was so kind and didn't make me feel anything but normal and happy. I do feel bad for my dh. Silently grabbing some wet paper towels and helping to clean me up. I think of that moment of pure, vile love when we argue now. I love him so much.

Another baby the midwife wasn't so nice. I was being 'examined' rather roughly, late in the game and was begging her to stop. She wouldn't stop or explain what she was doing and kept shoving her hand up me every 5 minutes.
After a few goes I screamed "if you don't take your hand out of me I'll kick you in the face!" and she did. And I would have. I sort of wish I didn't warn her. She made me feel as though I had no bodily autonomy, whereas the other midwife was so kind she made me feel so cared for and not embarrassed at all (until after).

Bunnycat101 · 26/11/2022 07:32

I am pretty sure I told the anaesthetist he was the best man in the room and could replace
my husband….

In also remember vividly the surgeon bringing out the forceps and I just said ‘what the fuck are those, you’re not going any where near me with those”.

Dogtooth · 26/11/2022 07:34

The midwife stitched up my episiotomy, I had local anaesthetic and gas and air, high as a kite. I kept saying 'this is like bad sex, you keep prodding and poking about and I can't feel anything, it's just awkward really.'

Natsku · 26/11/2022 07:35

My first labour, the OB came in to discuss further pain relief options, I was meanwhile trying to cope with gas and air and was going wild on it. She came in and asked how I am and I shouted "I'm really fucking high!"

Jaaxe · 26/11/2022 07:50

I was high on gas and air in the birthing pool but i thought I was in a swimming pool, I was swimming about telling my OH and midwife I’d “meet them at the deep end”

Blessedbethefruitz · 26/11/2022 08:44

Is there that much difference between pethidine and diamorphine? I had the latter and certainly wasn't high. I think a lot of my pain was panic, so once I had the injection, everything just felt nice and dunky dory, with much more reasonable pains. I just chilled and listened to music for a few hours until the birth then.

I was on a high after the birth though after I'd finally gotten some gas and air. I had a bad 2nd degree tear and several people checked to see if I had torn through my bum. They asked me to clench to check with their fingers up there, and were very surprised at my bum clenching abilities. I proudly told them "I have had diarrhoea for 6 weeks now you know" very proudly 😅

jackstini · 26/11/2022 08:46

Definitely a thread for classics 🤣🤣

I was on the bed after being induced - been dripping meconium for 36 hours so presumed waters had already gone - I had no idea there are hind and fore waters

Mw came with the crochet hook to burst them - consultant, student and dh also at the end of the bed

There was a gushing sound and then a poonami of yellow- brown water flash flooded out of me, off the bed, onto the floor and over all their shoes

They all jumped back, arms in the air and said 'woah!'

It was like a comedy Mexican wave - i could not stop laughing - then pissed myself

Mw said after it was the most waters she'd ever seen. Dh just looked green

nobird · 26/11/2022 08:57

Just as the baby’s head was crowning and the midwife was telling me to ‘breath through it’ and not to push, to keep my perineum intact, I decided at that moment to vomit with all my might instead. The baby shot forth like a bullet from a gun and ripped my perineum wide open. I handed the sick bowl to the second midwife and glanced up to see the first midwife holding up the baby and telling me I was going to need ‘a few stitches.’

airwrapped · 26/11/2022 10:21

Having a Caesarian after being in labour for 4 days, I got taken to theatre and introduced to the anesthesiologist. He was an older man (mid/sixties?) and I was convinced he was too old to be responsible for my spinal block and wouldn't know how to do it correctly, so I helpfully walked him through the instructions for every step of giving one (I like to read a lot and had come prepared by watching lots of medical tv shows). He asked me if I worked in the medical profession, I rolled my eyes and said "durrrr no, I work in marketing"

IWillBeWaxingAnOwl · 26/11/2022 10:23

I love this thread so much 🤣

SuperSue77 · 26/11/2022 10:52

I was induced with my twins and after 30 hrs of induction starting had reached the stage of having my waters broken to progress labour. With my first my waters had been broken while I was lying on a hospital bed and baby popped out 30 minutes later (they had told me they were sending me home but I begged them to check how far along I was and they announced - fully dilated, we want baby out in 30 minutes - and they were going to send me home!!!)
So waters with the twins were broken, lots of gushing and the midwife cleared it up and explained I’d better put a pad on as more could leak out. She left the room, I jumped off the bed (as much as you can when 38wks gone with twins) and a second massive gush poured out all over the floor - I was horrified. Midwife came back, cheerfully cleaned it all up and I put in a pad (just in case) and headed off to the M&S on the other side of the hospital to get a sandwich before the contractions kicked in.
I got my sandwich and sat outside on a bench chatting on my mobile to my dad saying excitedly how contractions were starting and after my sandwich in the sun, I’d head back to the labour ward. After the call I stood up, and an even bigger gush of waters came flooding out of me all over the ground, luckily no small children were nearby or they’d have been taken out by the torrent.
I waddled to the nearby loos, trousers absolutely soaked, ditched the pad which had been next to useless for this amount of water, ditched my knickers too as they were dripping and couldn’t face putting them back on after wringing them out.
I had a long walk back to the labour ward where I had to stand outside still dripping, looking very sorry for myself, until someone answered the doorbell.
Not especially funny, but I will never forget it to the day I die. Crying with laughter at a lot of these!
I never had gas and air, but after the delivery when they’d sewn up a big episiotomy I heard one midwife talking about diamorphine - I said “you’re not giving me that”. She said you need it for the pain. I point blank refused to have it so she had to throw it away with all the paperwork that comes with it and was visibly moody with me. I couldn’t believe they were going to give me heroin without even checking I wanted it! With two babies to breastfeed I didn’t want to be off my face on drugs!

stuntbubbles · 26/11/2022 10:54

This thread is so glorious and beautiful and nicer than my epidural was. I have no funny stories to contribute but it’s making me exceedingly glad I’m having an ELCS next month.

RoseAndGeranium · 26/11/2022 10:59

Just ruined my mascara laughing at this. Poor you, what a scary thing to think while giving birth at 19! What did the midwife say?!

GettingStuffed · 26/11/2022 11:05

In baby no 1 I kept telling the staff that when an elephant gives birth all the other elephants stand around her to protect them.

nothing on no 2

no 3 after being threatened with c section baby decided to make a move, my waters broke all over reception.

NextPrimeMinister · 26/11/2022 11:07

After 4 days induction, epidurals and no sleep and a C section I proudly told anyone who'd listen how much the baby looked like my DH's best friend.

(Child is my DHs btw)

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