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Tom Parker's widow and new boyfriend

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ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 22/11/2022 11:15

The press have started reporting on Kelsey Parker dating a "convicted killer" 8 months after her husband Tom died. She has two very small children. Is it too soon, is it none of our business?

I wouldn't say it is advisable, but that's my own view only.

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MassiveSalad22 · 22/11/2022 11:17

Who?? I would say dating a convicted killer isn’t advisable for anyone on the planet.

Thisusernameisfree · 22/11/2022 11:20

I think it's her business and no one else should be commenting. There is no set "right time" after a person dies, if she feels ready then that's the right time for her.

As for the boyfriend, he's done his time (regardless of the sentencing, that's on the judiciary not him).

He made a mistake, he didn't set out to kill anyone, he threw a punch. Not saying that's ok in itself but he intended to punch someone, not kill them, and I am aware of the "eggshell skull" rule around this. But he's served his time.

If people want to always label those who have been in prison as "bad" or to be avoided, what's the point of shorter jail terms?! Surely if they have forevermore to be pariahs then just keep them locked up.

upfucked · 22/11/2022 11:21

@MassiveSalad22 I had to google. The wife of The Wanted singer who died from
cancer.

It’s no one’s business when/if she decides to date.

A convicted killer is probably not a great plan for anyone.

TicketToRideFan · 22/11/2022 11:23

It’s one of our business. Her husband was arguably in the public eye, she should be allowed to rebuild her live making her own choices, taking only guidance from those around her.

Blocked · 22/11/2022 11:23

None of our business when she moves on. Everyone's business if two young children are in the company of a violent man.

MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 22/11/2022 11:24

I'm of the opinion that it's not a great idea for a recently bereaved person (google tells me her husband died 6 months ago) to get into a relationship so quickly. Especially when you're the parent of very young kids, who will also be grieving.

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ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 22/11/2022 11:24

MassiveSalad22 · 22/11/2022 11:17

Who?? I would say dating a convicted killer isn’t advisable for anyone on the planet.

I don't think he is a career criminal. From what I read he's an electrician who got into a fight, punched someone in an argument over a taxi, who later died - he was convicted of manslaughter.

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Shouldershoddy · 22/11/2022 11:25

Absolutely no one’s business…shocking that this poor lady is having her private life invaded by the media !

Differentnamedifferentplace · 22/11/2022 11:28

None of our business. She's the widow of a tragic but obscure pop singer. She deserves to get on with her life without intrusion. He hit a man once, the man died, he did his time for manslaughter. That doesn't make him a danger. Her call and even if it's a mistake it's nothing to do with us

Digimoor · 22/11/2022 11:30

She is apparently doing a 6 part TV show with ITV "Kelsey Parker: Life After Tom"

Trulyweird1 · 22/11/2022 11:30

I think we should leave her alone to rebuild her life the best way she can. It is none of our business and reporting it in the press is all sorts of nasty and judgy.

Hintofreality · 22/11/2022 11:31

I’m certain the parents of her deceased Husband will have a lot to say about their grandchildren being around a man who thinks it’s ok to punch someone l.

Perpop · 22/11/2022 11:32

It’s literally none of your or the press’ business. Leave her alone.

burnoutbabe · 22/11/2022 11:33

Digimoor · 22/11/2022 11:30

She is apparently doing a 6 part TV show with ITV "Kelsey Parker: Life After Tom"

Indeed. Which I though good for her if it shows us about struggling as a young widow. Not sure we have seen much of that on tv. Jade goodies stuff was similar I suppose.

So she had thrust herself into the public eye now with that show and so people will comment if she appears in public with a new man.

LizzieSiddal · 22/11/2022 11:34

She’s doing a reality TV show so the whole “it’s non of our business” isn’t relevant. She’s putting her life out there for all to see.

I just hope she isn’t introducing her Dc to this new partner. They’ve just lost their dad and shouldn’t to be getting too close to someone else so soon.

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ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 22/11/2022 11:34

It would be interesting if someone posted for advice on Relationships "I'm a widow with two under school age children, my husband died 8 months ago and I met a guy on holiday who has been in prison for manslaughter - is this a red flag?" The advice would be very different to the comments here.

Of course, she's not asking for advice on Mumsnet. The media are giving her that advice unsolicited.

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BobbyBobbyBobby · 22/11/2022 11:34

It’s none of our business but do be aware that it’s her and her team that are advising the media as they want maximum publicity for her upcoming tv show.

Whether you like it or not she has to make a living.

LizzieSiddal · 22/11/2022 11:36

If she were my DD or friend, I’d be extremely worried about her.

awmum2b · 22/11/2022 11:41

I don't have any issue with her choosing to move on or when she does so, but I must admit I did sit and ponder how she could find the time?!?

I am a single parent of a 4 year old and no involvement from her dad, my family help me out every now and then but I can count on one hand the amount of times I have been out this year...I couldn't imagine having the time or energy to actually date someone. That's just me though!

midsomermurderess · 22/11/2022 11:42

Manifestly it is no one else’s business.

Peteryougit · 22/11/2022 11:44

It’s absolutely shit that she is being thrust into the press with this.

But not unexpected or shocking. And as PP said, there’s an upcoming TV show and she will have her own management etc.

Poor woman - but equally, you can’t have it both ways.

Shes making a TV show. It would be very different if she was living a life where she didn’t want any publicity at all.@

MajorCarolDanvers · 22/11/2022 11:44

Absolutely no one else business

Abeachsomewhere · 22/11/2022 11:50

I will no doubt get slated for saying this, but IN MY OPINION six months after losing a supposedly much loved spouse is far too soon even to be dating anyone, let alone getting into a serious relationship. I don’t care how judgmental that sounds. When you factor in that she has young children who have had their world torn apart after losing their dad and that she has also picked someone who has a criminal record for manslaughter (!!!), words fail me.

Whichwhatnow · 22/11/2022 11:56

My husband's friend pushed a lad off his bike when they were both teenagers after an argument. Very tragically he hit his head and died. I know this man (DH's friend) well and I know he is absolutely not a threat to society, no violent tendencies at all. He just got into an immature fight. I have no idea about who the man is that Kelsey is dating but please don't judge people based on one mistake - it's not equivalent to a serial killer or rapist.

As for her moving on after Tom that is entirely her business.

PollyAmour · 22/11/2022 11:57

This is a rebound relationship and I doubt it will last. She's a young woman, with two very small children, bereaved and grieving. She's not in the best place to be contemplating another relationship right now, but it's probably helping her get through.