Tom Parker's widow and new boyfriend

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The press have started reporting on Kelsey Parker dating a "convicted killer" 8 months after her husband Tom died. She has two very small children. Is it too soon, is it none of our business?

I wouldn't say it is advisable, but that's my own view only.

You think people who get new partners after being widowed don’t love as deeply. That’s everything I need to know about you and your limited empathy. Good luck to everyone who has to deal with you in real life

Respectfully, I think you’re talking rubbish. It’s impossible to judge or measure how ‘deeply’ someone loves.. no one can do that, so your whole argument is pointless.

I don’t there is anything to say she has introduced her kids. She hasn’t even been seen with him,

OP... what a horrible gossip you are. Do you really need telling that it's not yours or anybody else's business?

I too thought it was Tom Parker Bowles, MavisChunch

It’s none of our business. That said, if this were my friend or sister I’d be very concerned. Above all, I hope the children have stability and there’s no rushing into a new stepdad or, even worse, “blended family” situation.

Er, no that's not what I said.

Best of luck to you.

Ah fair enough then. All I’ve read is this thread :)

Eh? Are you serious or just on a wind up?

Single parents shouldn't date. Wow.

That's right, if they truly love their children, they should put them first and not get them a new daddy at the earliest opportunity. It is morally wrong and the poor children just don't do well seeing their parent with someone else so soon. That is factual, granted not many people have that self control, but ideally no one with young children should be getting into new relationships at a whim.

I think it's pretty obvious that a person who walks away from their wife and kids and maintains little to no contact with said kids does not love their family very deeply. But keep arguing otherwise.

I think she has every right to embark on a new relationship. That said, her choice of bloke leaves a bit to be desired by the sounds of it.

I used to really like her and I think she was a pillar of strength for Tom Parker in everything he went through. I can’t imagine how difficult and traumatic that must have been to witness, having nursed two of my own close relatives through terminal cancer.

But… being totally honest, I unfollowed her on social media because I feel like she pushes her children’s modelling and fame - they have their own instagram accounts and I just feel a bit uncomfortable with that. They’re very young, they’ve lost their Dad in terrible circumstances. I think it’s too public, I wonder what they’ll think when they’re older. I think fair enough if she wants the publicity but I do feel her children deserve some privacy.

I rather think that scenario is very different from the one I believed we were discussing, of a widow (or widower) moving on to date someone else relatively quickly. The scenario which is actually relevant to the thread we’re currently on and the discussion taking place. Changing goalposts and using somewhat irrelevant examples seems rather a time wasting exercise.
No matter, I suspect you’re as firm in your belief regarding measuring the depth of a persons love as I am in mine, and so I think I shall bow out now. Have a lovely afternoon.

I’d imagine that the series and the charity trek would both have been in the works before Tom died and about continuing the work they started together in raising awareness.

As for the new relationship, when my mum knew she was dying I was given things to prompt dad to do. Stuff like clearing out her clothes, and whatever. Dating was on the list and I first raised it after about six months.

None of their business either.

You weren’t talking about that though, were you? You were judging someone who lost the love of their life for not then behaving in the way you deem appropriate. Someone whose partner has died is not comparable to someone who abandons their family.

Whoever she is and regardless of how recently her husband died, I wouldn’t think letting someone who got into a fight over a taxi and punched someone hard enough to cause their death is a great partner or role model for her children.

There were a few women in my widows group who met another man within months of husband’s death and it was surprising how “ they don’t go together at all” they all were. One of them even said to me I don’t know why I’m doing this. It’s like a rebound in a big way.

She's made money from the death of her husband and is making a reality show about it- arguably to secure financial stability for her children but the cost of that sadly is media intrusion. I'm sure if he hadn't killed someone (I know it wasn't 'on purpose' but he chose to punch someone and that person is no longer alive so you know) then the press wouldn't be half as interested.

That aside I think it's wonderful is someone who loses their husband or wife goes on to find love again.

I won’t slate you. In fact I applaud you!

I said that some people can move on so quickly (6 months later) because they don't love as deeply. Not everyone is deeply and profoundly in love with their spouse. Some are just quite fond of them. And then I extended the example 'not loving as deeply' to the very common scenario of someone abandoning their family when a more exciting opportunity came along.

Obviously no one else’s business but yes I think it’s too soon. Pretty disrespectful and can’t see it going down well with fans even if he wasn’t a criminal.

Really? Maybe you should investigate the difference between manslaughter and murder.

Two drunks had a late night stand off at taxi rank; one punched the other in the face, he fell over and hit his head on the ground . The next day, he died of a brain bleed from his head injury.

Puncher was charged with manslaughter, and pleaded not guilty. He was stupid but did not intend to kill. Judge awarded four year sentence, knowing he'd serve two.

Unless you've lost a partner, you have NO IDEA.
I lost mine suddenly, I met someone just under a year later and was given absolute hell for it by so called "friends" who felt I should still be at home in black, wailing and weeping.
These "friends" got the funeral out of the way, said the right things and then ignored me. I was so lonely. I'd be over the moon for someone that is making the first steps towards a new life without their love.
The loneliness is crushing. It was a short relationship, but I needed it. I've now moved on, I've met the second great love of my life and ditched the harpies that fucked me over when I needed them most.
I hope they never experience what I did.
This poor woman is finding her feet and has found comfort with someone that may or may not be her future. Who gives a shit, it's her life.
Take the judgmental attitudes elsewhere.

That is absolutely hilarious 😂
You have no clue. No clue at all

Oh do grow up. The lady is in the public eye.

Perhaps she fancied a bit of rough.
She's been through hell so let her have some fun now. I'm sure she won't expose her children to him.

She's spruiking her life around to gain publicity for her new tv series. She is the one making it everyone elses business. Not that I could care less