What did you used to like but can no longer be bothered to do?

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One of my friends recently said that she didn't want to go abroad ever again.

For me it is baking, I used to love it but cba with all the faff weighing, mess etc when M&S and the local bakery do it perfectly.

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GREAT thread. Also, this is TOO weird. I was considering posting this exact same thread very recently, after realising how much I LOATHE fireworks now. Used to love them with a passion, and trail around the town I used to live in looking at peoples firework displays - and the bonfires. (Had our own when the kids were pre 14-15 y.o. But also looked at other peoples.) Also LOVED them as a child!

I find them intolerable now. Pointless, waste of money, dangerous, scary for animals, and just should NOT be sold to the public. Just to businesses that do BIG displays that people can get a ticket for, like pubs and suchlike.

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As others have said, clubbing and staying out 8pm til 3am, and also shopping for clothes for 4-5 hours at a time. Would never do either now.

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As another pp said, reading books. Used to read one a month. Only read 3 or 4 in about five years. CBA now.

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Writing to penfriends. Had between 15 and 20 for some 25 years from my mid teens. Got fed up when I wrote within a week or two of them writing, and they took 3-4 months to write back. By then, almost everything I had said in my letter was old news, and irrelevant. I told one penpal about my DD's birthday that was in mid June. (I wrote late June.) Got a letter back late October and she said 'glad your daughter had a nice birthday.' It was nearly November. Her birthday was mid June! (And my letter was written late June!) I quit as it became tedious. Still have 4 or 5 penpals that I have on facebook but i do not write letters now

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Going to the hairdressers. Used to love it - about 8 times a year. Been 3 times since 2018. Just trim and colour it myself now. It's waaay overpriced, and fucking boring sitting there making small talk with someone I don't know, for one to three hours.

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Going to pop/rock concerts... driving an hour and a half, or taking 2 hours going by public transport... leaving the house at 3.30pm, and not getting back til midnight! For a one hour concert!!! Was good fun at the time - taking the kids to pop and rock concerts in the noughties, but could NOT be fucked with it now!

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Coach trip holidays. 26 hours on a coach (incl overnight travel) to Spain - and to Portugal. Was great fun some 15 years ago. Did it in 2019, (to Spain.) Nearly killed me. Never again. MAYBE if we could stay overnight in a hotel on the way yeah, but not overnight on the coach. Nope!
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Having people around my house, entertaining them, letting them stay 5-7 hours, and feeding them, and giving them drinks (coffee/tea/wine/whiskey.) 2 or 3 times a week some weeks... Once other weeks. CBA with ANYONE coming now, and only have the 2 DC around with their partners once a fortnight. CBA with even having neighbours or friends. Just meet friends at Costa or Morrisons Cafe, or for a pub lunch ... And chat to the neighbours at the foot of the driveway, or across the garden fence. In my house? NOPE. It's my sanctuary!

DD thinks I am anti social and a bit grumpy LOL. I said 'wait til YOU are in your mid to late 50s, and YOU have spent the best part of your adult life (35 to 40 years or so!) people pleasing, raising kids, looking after ailing parents, and grandparents, and had multiple dozens of kids parties, and entertained your husband's family as WELL as your own week in week out, year in year out, as WELL as working! By your mid to late 50s, you will want to say 'fuck it all!' too.'
'Nah I won't' she says. (We'll see!!!!!!!!!!)

Sex.

Going out at busy times. Too noisy. Can't hear anything, have to wait in queues, can't get a seat in a bar. I'm all about going first thing now, pre theatre, midweek.

This is exactly me.
I really struggled with The Ink Black Heart and I used to love reading. I am going to try this week to get back into it. Less screen time,
more book time.

Yoga.
I went every week without fail then the pandemic hit and now really have no interest in it.

Restaurants. Can't afford them now but they've all gone pricey or they changed opening. I'd go to some swanky place for the set lunch for £30 But getting a train to London and fanning about is beyond me. Did the clothes, luxury goods but I don't go out anywhere now and people are wearing fakes so no one knows anyway. Not that it matters. But I did like Armani and Hermes bought in the sales. Now prices are crazy even in the sales. I used to enjoy looking in Bond St and those places but CBA now.

I am the opposite of most people here re baking! When I was single I couldn't be bothered to cook anything exciting for one. But now I love googling an ingredient and seeing what the internet suggests I cook with it. Found some delicious and easy recipes that way! Helps that husband is very appreciative and washes up!

I loved backpacking in my 20s. Last did it in my late 20s and remember consciously thinking that was the last time. I was exhausted! It was fine when I had long uni holidays, but now I'd rather relax, know that I have comfortable accommodation pre-booked, and enough money to eat in nice places!

Going to London. Used to go loads but post-baby it's way too much effort.

Oh - wearing heels! I have heels I do still love, but it makes me much taller than DH - shallow I know but I don't like it.

Go abroad.
Bake.
Invite DH's relations for a meal.
Clean the car.

Completely agree

Maybe it is because we are all tired in this crazy world where everything seems to have to be done fast. That is how I feel so have slowed right down now in retirement plus with health issues I cannot be arsed with the following;

Socialising and small talk.
Travel, hate packing, queues, crowds and sleeping in a bed which is not my own.
Shopping, have to do it, but resent it, the cost, crowds and trolley rage.
Baking, too much faff especially the clearing up.
Crap on t.v.
Going out past 7 p.m. Home is my sanctuary. No wish to go out to gigs, pubs and endure noise and drunk people.

Drawing.

In theory I love it but it's too much effort. So much easier to keep checking my phone 😳

Noooo! Baking I love, my dream is having my own bakery business. Cooking on the other hand I can never be bothered with, but have to do it!

Can no longer be bothered with trailing around busy shopping centres/supermarkets with long queues etc, online is fantastic for most things. Hate the thought of busy pubs/bars and people shoving past each other.

In the dim and distant past, I'd spend Saturday morning shopping for a new outfit to wear out that night.

I'd start getting ready at about 3, leave the house at 8 (what did I do for FIVE hours??) and very often crawl back home around dawn and grab a couple of hours sleep before spending most of Sunday in the pub.

Now, at 49, that sounds like an ordeal. I could do it, but it would probably take me three days to recover, and I'd begrudge the money I'd wasted.

Hair, nails and waxing...nope, I do it myself.
Holidays abroad...nope, quite happy to holiday in the UK.

I'm quite happy and content living my life quietly.

(she writes, laid in bed at 8.30pm)

PurpleButterlyWings
Thanks - interesting to read all the replies.

Literally everything I don't want to go shopping or go for a walk or read a book or watch a film. I'm not interested in a "nice hot bath" or some self care bollocks. I go to the gym but wouldn't say I enjoy it, I just go and get it done because I want my body to be stronger. I find days out draining. DH mentioning going go to the zoo or whatever makes me think "oh GOD, fine, what fun!"
Definitely some depression going on since lockdown. I can't find enjoyment in anything. The only thing that makes me feel genuinely happy is getting in my bed at night and bedtime is becoming earlier and earlier!

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Making friends with new people on holiday. In my 20s one of my favourite parts of a holiday was meeting interesting people. I never did the holiday romance thing but my friends and I often ended up socialising with another group of holiday makers, sitting in the hotel bar chatting to the staff, making friends on day trips etc. Nowadays I'm perfectly polite to people we meet and happy to make small talk for a few minutes but the only people I'm interested in having a long discussion with are the people I've travelled with (whether that's DH and the DC or friends). We always seem to encounter a couple who want to share life-stories and join us for dinner/drinks in the hotel every evening- my younger self would have loved this but now I end up arranging my evenings to avoid them.

@Pedallleur it's an interesting comment. I work in that industry and the thing is the artists are getting the same kind of fees if I'm honest- it hasn't rocketed- but production costs can be 5x as much- most artists aren't getting massively richer on it but things like ticket agencies have and even road crew are asking double what they were 5 years ago in many cases- same with venue hires etc - an awful lot of 'wanting to claw back' I guess post covid which hit this industry one of the hardest. I see a lot of comments ref greedy artists- but in many cases it's the peripherals that have caused rocketing prices plus greedy promoters (artists don't set ticket prices unless they self promote and hire) - which very few do at a significant level

DIY. I used to like doing all the odd jobs that needed doing as well as decorating. I really can’t be arsed now so we have a regular handyman and hire a painter and decorator when needed. I’m not sure why I stopped enjoying it.

I'm great thanks. Don't you think it's positive that people's tastes change and they change too? It'd surely be worrying if we all went from 20-90 with the exact same hobbies and pastimes, wouldn't it?

Cooking.

I have a culinary certificate, I am quite proficient in the kitchen and for the past 25 years I have amassed a large library of cookbooks, attended various cooking classes in loads of different cuisines, worked in catering and have been a wine consultant. I always said that once my kids had grown-up, I would go into catering full-time or work as a culinary consultant or go into wineries.

The kids have grown up and now I cannot be bothered to cook becauseI hate cooking now. I also quit drinking last year and wine no longer interests me.

I am now looking at retraining at 52 to anything else.

Swimming.

Don't get me wrong, I still like it when I can and honestly immerse me in water and I'm just so happy BUT to go for an hour's swim just feels like such an undertaking, when you take into account getting there (our town pool closed down with no alternative so I've to go slightly further afield), faffing about getting changed, sorting hair out etc etc it's a lot of faff.