What did you used to like but can no longer be bothered to do?

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One of my friends recently said that she didn't want to go abroad ever again.

For me it is baking, I used to love it but cba with all the faff weighing, mess etc when M&S and the local bakery do it perfectly.

Reading this has made me realise how much joie de vivre I still have!

I've had to rack my brain to think up something and the answer is making small talk. I took my daughter to hockey this morning and all the other parents were in small groups chatting and a few said hello to me as if they wanted to strike up conversation and I just couldn't be fucked. Nothing against them at all, I just couldn't be arsed making chit chat.

A few short years ago I'd have been right in there chatting away.

Socialising 😂 I just don’t have the energy to make small talk and feign interest in someone else’s marriage, kids etc.

I think working in retail has really put me off people.

self catering holidays.
Having to buy and cook food on holiday doesn't feel like a holiday. We always go full board or AI now and it's bliss (even when the AI food is a tad samey, at least I don't have to cook it!

Swimming. I used to go after work and find it a great workout and stress reliever. These days I just cba with all the faff.

With you on this...I really enjoyed cooking but two fussy children and a DH who only eats to 'fill a hole' have taken all the joy out of it.

I have stopped trying to keep in touch with people where all the effort is one sided by me. Sadly this is family. I think about it daily and it is painful.

CBA with clothes anymore. My weight has crept up so don't like my shape. I wear comfy, shapeless, cheap boring stuff unless I'm in the office. I fear I may be one of those people that gets nominated for a makeover on daytime TV cos people feel sorry for them.

• going to the cinema
• aeroplane travel
• staying out past 10pm (8pm if it’s a work event)
• volunteering - I’ve done something every year since I was about 16. I’m having an extended break.
• caring about non essential policies and initiatives at work
• organising things - I’ll turn up, but I’m done playing social secretary.

thing is - the reason I’ve said ‚sod it‘ to those things is so that I can spend my limited time doing stuff I actually want to. I want to read, paint, listen to podcasts in the bath, bake, sort out the garden. I’m finally focussing my time on what I care about and it feels great.

Oh. Parenting. Burnt out.

Liquid eyeliner
Baking cakes
Volunteering
Clubbing
Matching underwear
Fake tan
Handbags
Umbrellas
High heels
Sunbathing
Doing shots
Belts
Magazines
Radio 1

Going to gigs. I used to love it but now the effort of getting to London, standing for hours, shouting full volume to be heard by the person next to you etc. It's also ridiculously expensive compared to my teens and twenties. Maybe I will get back in to it one day.

Em - are you lot ok?????

the only two things I can think of are cross stitching (and I know I’ll go back at some pout) and giving a shit what people think. The rest l still love - I may not have as much time for it these days but still love it all.

And me. I’m not depressed, I still enjoy life but what I really enjoy is not having to do anything unless I really want to. I don’t date or have sex anymore (though it was my whole point of living years ago), I have zero motivation or interest to do either of those things. I don’t bake anymore because it’s way too much faff and mess when I can just buy it (trying to make Paul Hollywood’s crumpets some years ago killed any motivation to do home-made anything ever again), I don’t physically read nowadays (once a passion) but I do listen to audio books. I don’t wear make up or high heels anymore or have any idea what is in fashion. I don’t style my hair (I couldn’t live without heated rollers in my younger days), I don’t watch serials on tv anymore, I just can’t get invested in six seasons of something, no nights out - I like to be in bed by ten latest. It sounds like I’ve given up on life but I really haven’t, there are countries I’d still like to see and plays in the West End I’d like to go to but they’re not feasible at the moment.

Cooking. Rarely cook from scratch. Much prefer to buy delicious deli items and assemble my food instead.
Used to have a weekly blowdry, now I have my hair done very infrequently as no patience to sit in the chair.
Going out after work. If it means going home first for any reason, it won't happen. Once I'm home I'm not budging.

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Baking its a chore to wash it all up after rather buy a cake or pay the local cake lady for something.

Getting my hair done as never seen to have time

I haven't given up on life yet. I am waiting to go to a WestEnd show right now. Planning travel. Seeing friends. Just don't want to parent or cook or bake.

Cake decorating, baking, shopping, clubs, bars even pubs. Speaking to my oh, it's the same old shit. Trying to make friends. Work
Gym but I'm trying to get back into this.

Drawing and painting. Used to love it then went to art college. The experience destroyed my interest as now I only associate it with being aggressively criticised sand humiliated. Wish I could get over it but its

... it's been over a decade and the I'll feelings won't budge.

Going abroad . CBA with the faff

Reading for me, maybe. I won awards in primary school for reading huge numbers of books. But now..

I am super busy with other things, definitely not a CBA problem. More like "I have so many other things to do !" situation.

More than OK. Also more than happy to embrace not giving a shit what people think who wonder if I'm OK 😀

That's such a shame ummmwtaf. Is there something else creative that you could do instead?

Crikey. I couldn’t go through life with so little enthusiasm! I still love socialising, going out, travelling, exercising, shopping etc etc.

like a PP I don’t have the attention span for a physical book since DD but I listen to audiobooks constantly.

Driving.

This is inspiring me to do more of the things people are listing!

I’m mid 40’s, I’m not ready to sit at home doing fuck all for the rest of my life. There is too much left to see and do and I’ll never get the chance again.

This thread is like the polar opposite of the 50s nostalgia thread, where they are worrying that the party is going to end too soon!