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Come and tell me your dull and unexciting news 24: Calmly through the day

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MissConductUS · 06/11/2022 21:45

I've started a new one. Please join us and share the boring and mundane things happening in your world. It will be calming for all.

Here is the link to the prior thread:

Come and tell me your dull and unexciting news 23: Calmly through the day

Apologies that the prior thread filled up before I could create this one. Hopefully everyone will find it. Lurkers are of course welcome to unlurk.

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Lemonsandlemonade · 16/11/2022 22:00

Thanks all for the job support.

Silkie am so sorry things are not improving. Sending hugs.

GetUsedToTheHeatAgain · 17/11/2022 02:23

Morning from my part of the world!

So sorry to read that some posters are going through some really tough times, I hope things improve I really do.

Well I found milk, yeah! and even better beef mince feel like I have won the lottery today, small things eh!

Mollyplop999 · 17/11/2022 03:48

Can I join please? Currently scrolling through MN as I can't sleep. The dreaded covid has finally got DH and myself. So bored but feel too ill to do anything.

HelenaJustina · 17/11/2022 06:19

I too would love to visit Germany properly, the closest I’ve been is driving through it to get to Austria. Glad you are holding up okay Prok

Your poor boy Silkie thoughts and prayers with you all.

I’m writing the meal plan for next week so that I can write a shopping list. I don’t have to do the epipen training this evening that I had previously been booked on - this is a good thing.

Mintyt · 17/11/2022 06:43

I've realised and I've not told anyone that I'm not more depressed I'm just unhappy, and being unhappy is something I can try to deal with and I know I won't be unhappy for ever.

Silkierabbit · 17/11/2022 06:59

Welcome Molly of course you can join. Hope you got to sleep by now.

Thanks everyone so much for the thoughts and prayers for DS. The hospital he is now in are trying hard and are nice but are having no success at all and its been 2 months. I want him home but he is in a scarily bad state still from police handcuffing him and security guards holding him down then being force sedated and the trouble is if we go home we would also be back under that cahms team who thought that was a good way to act to a mute scare child, he has been in catatonia ever since. He did come out for a week and we thought he might be improving but he regressed a lot since. I think it might be as they put him back in the school top he was handcuffed etc in so asked them to change it and bin his top.

There does not seem to be a clear plan at the moment. We applied again to have him released from section but psychiatrist barred it, it now goes to Tribunal on 9 Dec. There was also a plan to leave him in hospital for months whilst they find an ASD home or similar and then move him to that saying they need a really long time for assessment. I have objected strongly to that as that plan makes zero sense, an ASD home takes the medical side away and he won't know anyone and hates transition, better to return him home. They are very funny about us using private people rather than state ones and I also phoned and its long waiting lists for the private as well and about £250 an hour. At least in hospital he is getting lots of therapies though none of them have any effect and he puts his care plan down the toilet. He gets irritated if you use the phrase better and clearly considers nothing wrong with him. But its hard to know if there is nothing wrong with him other than bad treatment from school, police, matcho man cahms service and so a return to home, a better school and a kinder cahms approach could work or one physiatrist was questioning if its more like an illness where he is hearing voices etc but none of them know, one thinks yes who is not with him, one thinks no who is with him. He avoids all eye contact and all contact with any humans including his sister and other children. But Feb and Easter trips we took him away and pretty normal though obviously he was mainly mute but running round Edinburgh Zoo with us, on boat trip, beach, eating big meals, went back did 8 GCSE mocks and passed 7. And its only when school started calling police on him for hiding and school banned him from going to school we saw a very rapid deterioration.

Useless school thankfully have finally been taken off everything and are not allowed in any meetings now. And awful person at LA appears to have been sacked or at least is no longer employed by then after a long disappearance after my complaint. But there's still quite a few problems with the team and plan and I don't believe the dodgy person acted alone. Well I know she didn't from e-mails I have been sent by solicitor, she was working with school. I have a discrimination case against them but am doing it myself and they have an expensive barrister, shame they did not spend that money on DS.

Prokupatuscrakedatus · 17/11/2022 07:30

Silkie This appears to have been a case of malicious incompetence on a gigantic scale. And yes, from DS (mine and.yours) point of view there is nothing from with them, it's the others acting strange.

Silkierabbit · 17/11/2022 08:24

The press are over similar children at the moment, these cases are quite similar but its true if you speak out you are threatened. The room he is in is similar to the one pictured but a bit nicer but basically its a bed, bathroom with no door, no TV, does not leave room, watched on CCTV all day even in bathroom.

www.itv.com/news/2022-11-16/mum-pleads-for-help-with-autistic-son-10-in-broken-system

MissConductUS · 17/11/2022 14:42

@Mollyplop999, of course you can join in, and I'm sorry that you and your DH are poorly with covid.

Silkie, I don't understand why anyone would think it makes sense to treat your DS this way. At least you have the hearing coming up in December. Do you have a professional (doctor or lawyer) who can help advocate for him at the hearing?

DH put the recycling out early this morning and discovered that Amazon had left a package outside our garage at some point. It contained cat treats. We discovered that they are also possum treats, as one of the Ring cameras revealed.

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Silkierabbit · 17/11/2022 16:51

No we don't but its a stupid system he gets a free lawyer who speaks to him but he is mute. And we don't get to speak. We did not even get invited last time.

I could go to press but not sure if would help or worsen things as it will wind them up and we are threatened if we complain. National TV and papers are following me now so think they would be interested. Some kids seem to be locked up for years and quite a few cases of kids dying in there via wrong meds or suicide. And lots of their families are threatened if speak out as well but press are on to it now. But does it do any good?

halfpasteleven · 17/11/2022 21:11

@Silkierabbit I feel for you and your boy.

As you say, he was his usual self until the school called the police and the police handcuffed him and it has spiralled from there.

Could you take him home? He isn't thriving - he's barely existing in that hospital.. anything has to be better than being in a room like you have described...

Take him home to his Silkie chick and Mr Floof...

I'm sending you strength and wishing you both all the luck in the world with this one.. I wish I could give you a hug!

In dull and unexciting news I'm in bed with a hot water bottle since 8.30... cramps and a headache have brought me to this...

mathanxiety · 18/11/2022 00:01

Silkies do you have any documentation of DS on holiday or at home - photos, videos, showing him happy, relaxed, curious, bright eyed, engaging with pets, and behaving differently from how he is now?

I think the hospital, doctors, school would take a lot more notice of you if you were to hire a lawyer to speak on your behalf.

Lemonsandlemonade · 18/11/2022 07:32

💐 Silkie I have no advice but am thinking of you and your family.

MissConductUS · 18/11/2022 18:50

I'm off shortly to pick up the fresh turkey from the Italian supermarket. I ordered a 10-12 pound bird, so hopefully, it won't be too hard to squeeze into the fridge in the garage.

Western NY is getting 4-6 feet of snow between today and Sunday. Thankfully, it should miss us completely.

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MissConductUS · 19/11/2022 16:05

The fresh turkey was a bit over 11 pounds and looks lovely. The market gets them from a farm upstate. Normally my brother hosts Thanksgiving, so I don't usually buy a turkey. It wasn't that much more expensive than the mass produced frozen ones.

I also picked up the ingredients for the Holiday Mashed Potatoes, some veg, jumbo prawns with cocktail sauce and a few other traditional bits.

We had our first hard freeze and frost overnight. It looks and feels like winter. The weather forecast is still good for picking up DD from uni on Tuesday. Western NY is at a standstill with four feet of snow.

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Silkierabbit · 19/11/2022 19:42

That sounds lovely MissC hope you have a lovely Thanksgiving

Thanks Half Hope you are feeling better now. Sadly we are not allowed to bring DS home and there is not even talk of when in the future we would be allowed. Its a vicous circle he is bad in there so they say he's too bad to come out. If you suggest he is better at home you get no he's too bad and you are going against medical advice. Bangs head. They keep saying they need to assess more and may send him to another place for further assessment.

Thanks Lemons

Thanks Math Yes we do have photos etc, not so many from this year as was doing cancer treatment, last ones we have are Feb break in Scotland. I wish I had more but even things I have written proof of are being ignored. Everything to do with institutions has been removed from his history so school saying find another one never happened even though we have proof, him being badly affected by being handcuffed again they won't write anything, LA not finding school meets needs, nothing written. And there's a whole load of made up rubbish in there we have proof is not true but even when presented with written evidence they leave in. I got fed up yesterday and told them I had contacted a libel barrister then they started changing things. Its scary for DSs future as well as it says things like child absconding from home and putting himself at risk by going to school which has a main road. Umm yes he went to school. He is 15 and has never entered a road dangerously. And we have child had poor sleep and poor diet at home, both are rubbish but how do you prove that. The disability discrimination case did reveal e-mails saying that the school and 1 person at the LA were going to retaliate for us doing the discrimination claim. The person at LA appears to have been sacked now (at least I complained then we got a they are no longer employed suddenly one day) but the untruths remain. Its the damage they will do to DSs life which bother me most. He was handcuffed based on school's claims he was absconding from home when he was just wandering school grounds but they wanted to pass blame over. And it has snowballed from that. School have now been taken out of all meetings.

Silkierabbit · 19/11/2022 19:46

DD has got herself a job working on the fancy dinners at the university here and it gives her garden parties etc and pays well so she is happy. She is doing so well.

Floof is being super cuddly he is getting big now and he sometimes sleeps with me at night with his head next to mine and his paw over me giving me a cuddle. He is the sweetest creature.

We are going to stay overnight at hotel by DS with swimming pool tomorrow which will be nice.

Prokupatuscrakedatus · 19/11/2022 20:30

We had our first bit of snow today and temperatures are below zero.
I am back home and feeling tired but otherwise ok.

halfpasteleven · 19/11/2022 21:56

I'm banging my head with you @Silkierabbit .
You're his mother- he is still only 15- you should have the final say in where and how he is treated..

Hope you enjoy the swimming pool and the hotel tonight. I hope you have a lovely breakfast tomorrow morning.

Today was the coldest day we have had all year- frost on the cars this morning and it stayed cold all day with a biting wind. I stayed home with DD and lit the stove nice and early. Bliss.

halfpasteleven · 19/11/2022 21:57

Prokupatuscrakedatus · 19/11/2022 20:30

We had our first bit of snow today and temperatures are below zero.
I am back home and feeling tired but otherwise ok.

Prok, glad you are home and doing ok. Hope you are warm and cosy tonight.

IWanderedLonely · 20/11/2022 09:01

Silkie Flowers enjoy the swimming pool.
We went to our Christmas lights switch on last night. It stayed fine, quite mild actually. Wish we had snow, I love it.

Mollyplop999 · 20/11/2022 13:32

MissConductUS · 18/11It looks very festively wintry on your pic. It's a cool but sunny day in our part of the UK today. Just been to see our ponies as I was feeling a bit better with the covid. However I'm now really tired again so snuggled up with Bobby the cat .

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Taswama · 20/11/2022 15:29

I have made some Parkin this morning. Two thirds is going in the cake tin and I have frozen some squares for DS2 to take in his packed lunch.

MissConductUS · 20/11/2022 15:46

Molly, I'm glad you were feeling well enough to visit the ponies. Get some rest today while you can. Bobby is quite the handsome cat. I've had two black cats with yellow eyes, both females with unique personalities.

Taswama, I had to google Parkin. It sounds delicious. Are you from Yorkshire?

DS has decided he wants to make stuffing to go with the turkey, so we got a loaf of sourdough bread and carrots and celery to make it with. I went to church this morning and they were encouraging people to get their pledge cards in for 2023 so that they can do the budget. I turned mine in last Sunday. Tomorrow will be my only day at work this week, which is nice.

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Prokupatuscrakedatus · 20/11/2022 21:18

The snow is melting again - we go into snow-rain territory. Temps. will hover around zero.
DD made me a new beanie to sleep in at night. The door we ordered in the summer for her room is due to arrive on the 22nd - finaly.

Because of some threads I read on MN I had to google "hospital bays". Now I know.

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