Why are so many women so obsessed with having girls?

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(Not all women of course.)

But it seems to be so common that pregnant women are desperate for a baby girl! Why is this?!

3 of my friends who had babies around the same time as me were so disappointed to find out they were having boys and have made a point to "keep trying until they have a girl"

I'm not trying to be goady I just genuinely cannot think of why baby girls are so favoured over baby boys?

I wanted a girl. Ended up with two girls - but to be honest I probably would have liked one of each.
I am very close to my mum, granny and other female relatives. I wanted to begin the next generation.

Because they can relate better to someone of their own sex seems to be the obvious answer.

Also, especially if not surrounded by positive male role models, because of fear of not being able to bring up a boy that won't become one of the violent, abusive thugs so many become (several orders of magnitude more likely than women). In isolation, that should be a doddle. Living in society not so much, sadly.

When I found out that I was having a boy, a lady at work said "oh what a shame". I was in shock! How is that a shame?!

The only post I can agree with on this thread.

Me neither. I preferred boys and my dream came true

@Donatellaa
absolutely we all carry some bias due to our own conditioning but the best we can do is reflect and see what is driving certain thoughts or expectations. My husband is one of the nice Asian men but his family? Well let’s say they weren’t quite ready to have a western brought up woman with opinions despite them thinking oh she’s same culture as us her parents seem the same mindset as us but they assumed too much about me. It wasn’t easy for me but I made sure I taught them some lessons let’s put it that way. this is the reason so many prefer a woman from ‘back home’ so she does as she’s told unlike us corrupt western women who like to challenge things we don’t agree with 😂

Because females are the superior sex.

@Duttercup I have not seen many threads on here from men at all

They exist, but mostly it's women posting

Never have seen a thread from a dad about preferring boys. Have seen many from women preferring girls

It's definitely a thing

@magma32 Yess! They want a nice compliant wife for their Prince son so she will clean their home and cook their lunch in their old age. I mean, I would help but I don't want it expected!!😲Nice to have met someone who gets it.

For me it's this. Boys, well men, usually go towards the wife's family. And you become the awful MIL who's hated because you've taken to loud of a breath.

Also, I'd like one of each to get the experience of both.

I just wonder why, especially on here, it’s acceptable to say you have a preference for a boy but not for a girl?

@Donatellaa
Haha likewise! It’s sad because irl even my peers similar age, education level, life experience will still choose to act like the respectable wives so they really aren’t helping the cause, as people like me then have to keep our opinions to ourselves. Once I told a woman to let her husband sort his own dinner out as does mine and she was disgusted. She’s someone in a very good job in management but she was disgusted I suggested her husband fix his own dinner. I can only really rant at my husband, he has no choice but to accept and agree but everyone else is wondering how I’m getting away with behaving so disgustingly ie doing my own thing and not conforming. Yes we all want to do things out of the goodness of our hearts for those around us ie in laws but when it’s an expectation due to our biology and we aren’t respected like the men folk, it just becomes dog work doesn’t it.

Misogynist.

You must have heard the phrase:

Have a girl have her for life.
Have a boy have him until he meets his wife.

Actually, quite the opposite, all my life as a female I have been treated worse than boys / men. Why on earth would I want my children to go through that? I want their lives to be good, therefore I want boys!

It’s a bit like some men wanting a son. Perhaps it’s because they see a mini me. Same for women and wanting girls? Also, amongst a lot of my friends and family it seems like it’s usually girls who have that life long bond with their parents and siblings. Obviously this isn’t always the case, but in my experience it’s the daughters who continue to be close to their parents

I’ve always wanted a girl. Before having any children I always thought 2 girls would be my ideal family. Loved the options of girl’s clothes, toys, bedroom designs etc. My DH never had a preference. I just could picture myself being a girly girl’s mum who is into all things pink, glittery and princesses!
Anyway, my first born was a son. No regrets, but tried again for my princess. Got another boy. No regrets, tried again and got my girl. Thing is though, she hates pink and girly toys. Won’t touch any of the princess/Disney dolls. Plays with her brother’s Spider-Man figurine and is showing a huge interest in football already (she’s 2.5 years old !) I love her to bits, but seriously not the girl I pictured many years ago 🤣🤣

What would the acceptable male:female ratio be for you? There's already more women than men.

I wanted daughters.
Perhaps they feel the mother-daughter relationship is sacred, empowering. I am sure that is wrong, because women are weak, selfish idiots who want to dress up dolls because we obviously haven't cognitively developed enough to stop wanting to play with dolls. Or ludicrous because women are bitchy and can't ever be really close.
Or maybe the concept of finding that relationship sacred and desirable enough to roll your eyes.
I am delighted I have been blessed with daughters but I frequently dismiss the sympathy of strangers IN FRONT of my daughters because I have no sons, so I am very surprised by your experience.

I have 2 boys and love them to bits..but I'd love a girl. I'm close to my mum, I dont get on with my sister and always had this fantasy that when she was an adult wed go to spas together etc. .obviously I may have had a daughter who hated all this stuff but its imaginary on my part. To keep trying for a girl is the most stupid thing I've heard...

I’ve got a boy and two girls and I love them all but I definitely wanted two and three to be girls. Can’t quite put my finger on it. My second is basically a boy if you did it based on video games and wanting to live in trackies. My third is a girly girl but I certainly am not she wants her hair in all sorts of fashions I’ve got no idea on how to do for her.

But even at these ages the girls seem to want to be here in the livingroom more and talk and be involved and want to learn basic yet important stuff while my son seems to expect to only come down for food and be locked in his teenage bedroom. Despite cooking with him much to his unhappiness about it and trying to do all the the things with him I do with the girls basic again life skills. He just wants to sit on his phone with his mates and game.

In fact as the first born he probably had all the best bits more baby groups etc the Masiah of being the first born grandchild and the only boy to “carry on the name” 🙄 but as his got older his definitely less family more friends only. Unless his hungry or wants money or needs his tech fixing 😅

No idea, I wanted boys if I'm honest. I have boys and girls, can't say I valued any one of them above the other. I have two grandsons and they are great and can't understand a friend's disappointment that her dd is expecting a boy either.

I have a DS and am pregnant with DS2. The disappointment expressed by DPs family when we told them the sex (both times but particularly this time) was palpable.

Before the 20 week scan his grandma was saying things to me like ‘I hope you’re eating the right things for a little girl!’ And when I replied I don’t care either way but don’t think it works like that, she replied in a huff ‘well it worked for MIL.’

I’m over the moon to be a boy mum and can’t wait to meet DS2 in a few weeks.

I had two boys and then a girl. I love my sons dearly, but when expecting my third, I really wanted a daughter.

This wasn't for pink and princess reasons, but just to have another female in the house to relate to etc. i didn't want to be the only female in our family, now I've got three teens and my daughter and I enjoy shopping trips, spa days etc together.

My dad was a bully and tormented us and our mother. My brother’s a drop-out destroyed by the same MH problems I’ve just about managed to navigate my way through. One grandfather is a sex offender and one died before I was born. I was fat and the boys at school bullied me. I was frightened of men until well into my thirties and had no positive male role models in my family. I was very upset when I found out I was having a boy. Now I have my baby son I love him beyond words and couldn’t imagine him being any different. His father is a wonderful man. But the fact that I didn’t want a boy was certainly not for superficial reasons and I bet that’s true for a lot of other women.

I wanted a girl, only because I thought it would be more easier. Not as in physically, but in more general ways, because I never had brother or cousins who were boys, so I had no idea what would boys be like.
Once my ds was born, I was very happy.