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Tell me why you've had to end a friendship

127 replies

heartbroken22 · 23/10/2022 00:11

Even if it was small one.

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Wisterical · 23/10/2022 00:15

For expecting me to share stuff without being willing to share stuff themself.

Golden231 · 23/10/2022 00:16

Felt like a one way street, they wanted to know everything about me, but didn’t like it when I used to ask about them.

XenoBitch · 23/10/2022 00:19

Treating me like a therapist.

username345 · 23/10/2022 00:20

I ended one long term friendship for many reasons. I remember asking if she wanted to meet and she flicked through a calendar before telling me she could meet in three months. She didn't invite me to see her baby in a year. Loads of reasons, there was a straw that broke the camel's back and I ended it. But it was after a lot of similar behaviour and after I asked her about it. We'd been friends for over twenty years.

GarfieldsAunty · 23/10/2022 00:22

QAnon. Anti-science, covid is fake, Trump is saving us all from Baby eating pedos etc etc

Zipps · 23/10/2022 00:36

She only felt like my friend when things weren't going well. Circumstances changed and she became jealous and started with the put downs and nasty comments.
It crept up until I couldn't stand to be with her. The final straw was when she didn't pay me back for something. It wasn't a fortune, around £50, then lied and I thought you know what, get to fuck and I just distanced myself very quickly.
I hadn't known her long, have lots of other friends, some for decades and this has never happened before.

Sarahcoggles · 23/10/2022 00:40

Used to pick fights with me after a few drinks. About literally anything. I could make the most benign uncontroversial statement and he'd turn it into an argument. In the end I told him I'd had enough and didn't want to hang out with him any more. I felt sad about it because he was my main running buddy but it had to be done.

happinessischocolate · 23/10/2022 00:42

We'd been friends for 15 years, yet she gossiped about me behind my back. Told a mutual male friend that I was having an affair with another mutual friend who had a long term girlfriend and a young child.

When I confronted her she said "but I thought you were" so not only was she gossiping about me, she didn't know me at all.

It then turned out she was having an affair with the friend that she'd told, she was obviously judging me by her own standards.

After we stopped speaking I started hearing stuff from other friends which made me realise she'd never really been my friend.

Penelope987 · 23/10/2022 00:43

He joked about my son’s medical condition and ignored me when I explained why it was upsetting. Good riddance.

DramaAlpaca · 23/10/2022 00:48

My DH has always travelled a lot for work. The friend who suggested that he couldn't possibly be faithful to me because of all the opportunities he must have being away from me, got dropped smartish. I later found out that this had in fact happened to her, so no wonder she was cynical, but it didn't excuse her comments to me.

Gingerkittykat · 23/10/2022 01:04

I recently ended a 15 year old friendship.

We had met at toddler group and became really good friends. She always helped me out with DD and I reciprocated with her DD. Our kids were inseparable until they got to around age 11 and developed different interests.

I started to distance myself during lockdown as I was sick of her conspiracy theories and asking me to meet up even though I was shielding.

She started phoning me every night about midnight and I listened to her constantly having the same problem with her manchild partner and I was sick of it.

She now only contacts me either to cry about her new man who is even worse than the first or to ask me for lifts. The one that made me finally decide to cut contact was when she asked me if I fancied having a day out in city an hours drive away and eventually revealed it was to drive the new BF (who I have never met) to a hospital appointment.

Citycentre3 · 23/10/2022 01:13

I let a friendship drift because I was fed up of being the "back up" friend. Only good enough when there was no one else better around. She liked making friends with real rough people, and she picked them over me to be godparents to her children and to be her bridesmaids at her wedding. I remember at her wedding, I was 8 months pregnant and her chief bridesmaid kept purposely pushing me on the dance floor to try and provoke a reaction from me, which she never got, however since then I only say a polite hello if I ever happen to bump into her.

Bearwolf · 23/10/2022 01:25

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BagpussBagpussOldFatFurryCatpuss · 23/10/2022 01:33

Expecting me to provide unlimited transport and childcare for her DC so that she could hit the gym after work or go on a date with one of her many OLD men when it was ‘her weekend’ with her DC.
She was very miffed when I backed right off and started to say no.

BagpussBagpussOldFatFurryCatpuss · 23/10/2022 01:34

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Did you reply at all? I wouldn’t have been able to stop myself!

stillvicarinatutu · 23/10/2022 02:47

I ended two because they were controlling.

One woman wanted me to buy a house with her that was half a million pounds - she didn't work - I'd have been the bill payer . When I said I had major reservations she said she couldn't speak to me again - so I said fine !

Another was also a mother hen type but extremely controlling- decided I needed to end a relationship (which to be fair I did) but she dictated and said she wouldn't be friends with me unless I did what she asked .
Did it in my own time .

I don't have many friends now . But the ones I do have get me and do t make demands or judge .

Freeasabird76 · 23/10/2022 02:51

Deserted once for a man,let her back in and she did it again,now likes to tell everyone that its the other way around.

VacancyAtNumber10AGAIN · 23/10/2022 02:56

She trauma dumps and uses me. Owed me money and never once acknowledged it or even apologised. Not spoke for 2 years. I can’t even abide hearing her name

Scottishskifun · 23/10/2022 03:07

Had a friend who made up her own narrative of events when they really didn't happen. She would also get annoyed that I "never put her first" (above my children and husband) and that I went on holiday with my family and didn't invite her.....

A lot of her lashing out I took until she accused me of being a bad mum as I wasn't reacting or arguing with her (I didn't see the point as saw it as her letting off steam). That for me was game over and my life has been drama free and blissful since!

french76 · 23/10/2022 03:10

Some because they were only friends while I was down on my luck. My circumstances picked up and a couple clearly did not like it. I've also learnt to choose friendships better. Friendships based more on healthy common interests instead of trauma bonding which I was definitely guilty of!

user1471453601 · 23/10/2022 03:13

I've only once ended a friendship deliberately (some have ended because of distance, physical or otherwise). That was because she failed to respond to my message I sent her about my daughter, a woman she knew and had done her many favours in the past, picking her up and taking her places.

Daughter had been woken in early hours to a woman screaming outside our home. Daughter ran to woman's aid (she was being raped) and frightened the perpetrator off. It could have, so easily, ended badly for my daughter. I was playing "what if"in my mind, with thoughts of what could have happened, thoughts I couldnt/ wouldn't want to share with my daughter.

I told a couple of friends/family (who knew daughter) by email or text . All of them, with the exception of this one friend, replied straight away, asking how daughter was. This one friend didn't reply. When I checked she'd got my message, she said she had but she was too tired to respond.

Any way, perpetrator was arrested, thanks to daughter's evidence, pleaded guilty and daughter got a formal commendation from the judge.

It hurt me beyond measure to give this friend up, but I knew it was the correct thing to do. I'd be forever thinking whether or not she was genuine in our interaction after that, and that's no basis for a friendship.

Avrenim · 23/10/2022 03:20

Irreconcilable political differences.

Appalling behaviour towards a friend whose dad was dying.

Generally drifting apart socially (they got very wealthy, I didn't, and their priorities changed dramatically).

Bluebellandpansies · 23/10/2022 03:25

Stalking. I moved.

Kennykenkencat · 23/10/2022 03:56

I dropped 2 of my so called friends last year because I realised that I was always there for them with practical and financial help and organising get togethers.
With them went a larger group
I was alway the one to call, always the one to organise stuff, Help people out. Sometimes giving hours and hours of help that resulted in 1 of them being awarded friend being awarded a 6 figure sum,

When I said I was struggling I asked both of them separately could they call me back. I just wanted to talk through things.

It took 7 months for one of them to attempt to contact me, by which time I didn’t need help and realised I couldn’t have been that much of a friend. So I never replied.

ShandaLear · 23/10/2022 04:11

Kept trying to kiss me (a proper snog) when she’d had a few drinks. We house shared and I could never go out without her inviting herself along. She just kept trampling over boundaries to the extent that I hated being alone with her. She kept having one night stands with random people - not a problem in itself but she kept bringing these randomers home and you never knew who you’d meet coming out of the bathroom or wandering round the house including, on one occasion, the local kebab shop man. She moved away for a job luckily and I stopped keeping in touch.