If you have two children, do you ever wish you'd stopped at one?

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Obviously I don't mean wishing your second child away!

But do you ever think if you could go back in time you would have just had the one child?

DP and I have always said we want 2 children and now DS is 2.5 we are considering TTC end of this year. Now it's getting closer though I'm starting to panic incase we are making the wrong decision?!

Financially we can afford it (money will be a little bit tighter especially with cost of living but will be manageable) I'm just starting to doubt myself and wether I can handle it! I struggle enough as it is and think am I mad to add another child to the mix? But then I don't feel like i'm "done" having children if that makes sense?

Definitely not. Our second child made us in to a complete family. He was our sunshine and the best decision we ever made from the moment he was born.

Was one easier? Yes in every way - practically and in terms of personality.

Do I wish I’d stopped at one? Never. Their sibling bond (even as teenagers) is something beautiful to behold.

Number 2 challenges me more, for sure. They are much more different to me so I dont naturally understand them. But they bring a very different dimension to my life. One I wouldn’t want to be without.

I posted on here previously as I have one and felt guilty for not wanting another. But I’ve since gained enough self knowledge to realise another is just not meant to be, and it’s the right thing for us even if others judge us for it. Family is not a one size fits all. If our daughter hates being an only she can have as many kids as she likes when she’s older.

Thank you . I hadn’t thought of it quite like this as I had been fretting about when DS is older .Yes he can aim and choose to have a bigger family hopefully if that is what he wants.

No, not at all. My second son was the loveliest, loving and calm baby and is a thoughtful, well balanced, kind and decent man/son/husband/father. He has given me joy, a belief in humanity [and a great DIL and 2 lovely grandchildren].

*but can be annoying sometimes, often arrives late, and doesn't phone me enough!...

Well, our third arrived 9 weeks ago and he’s perfect! I feel our family is complete now in a way I didn’t before. Life is chaotic but in the best way.