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Silent sex

112 replies

SoSobored · 23/09/2022 19:53

I'm dating someone new, we've done everything up to PIV sex. They seem to be having a good time, but honestly he is so totally silent when we do anything.

It's so weird. I make a normal amount of noise, but it's starting to make me feel a bit self conscious.

Does anyone have any tips/advice?

OP posts:

EmmaH2022 · 24/09/2022 18:17

Stichintimesavesstapling · 24/09/2022 17:37

Dh is silent and it's so demoralizing especially with me on top.

Have you ever talked about it?

there's clearly far more silent shaggers out there than I ever imagined!

whatsthestory123 · 24/09/2022 19:53

dont people talk dirty to one another sometimes
im 😵so many dont make any noise

Calyx72 · 25/09/2022 12:31

My DH is totally totally silent
He says he is enjoying it when we talk about it. I have told him I feel as though I am doing it wrong and he assures me I am not. I have asked him to make noise but he just doesn't/can't during.
I am used to it now

INFJismyvibe · 25/09/2022 13:11

Mmm... when you have teenagers in the house, sometimes you have to be reeeeaaallly quiet!

SleepingAgent · 25/09/2022 13:24

lookeelikee · 24/09/2022 16:24

Stick your finger up his arse. I'm guessing you'll get a reaction even if it's a sharp intake of breath :)

lapasion · 25/09/2022 13:28

I would feel self conscious too! Maybe he’s holding back a bit? Focusing on making it last longer? The only way to know is to ask.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 25/09/2022 14:17

SpinningFloppa · 23/09/2022 22:49

That’s what I thought that most men are silent so surprised to see people saying the opposite 🤔

I'm surprised to read that men are silent 😂 Not my experience. Or my preference.

Mamma2017 · 25/09/2022 23:10

StarlightLady · 24/09/2022 09:48

You want the right balance between the sound if enjoyment against the stupid noises from porn films.

As a slight aside, it reminds me of a camping trip many years ago. There was a German couple in a tent nearby. They used to get down to it regularly around 11:00 pm each night and were so loud. People in other tents used to clap and cheer as she finished 😂! They used to cycle everyday. It made me consider treating myself to a bike.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Original poster

SoSobored · 26/09/2022 07:53

Thanks so much for people responding.

Just to clarify there isn't even a sharp in take of breathe, or much change to his breathing. Which is what I'm more used to.

It feels odd.

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FeralWitch · 26/09/2022 08:14

I bet it does. Have you mentioned anything?

Closetbeanmuncher · 26/09/2022 23:09

Bloodyhell soso I would be wondering if I had sleep walked into a morgue 😵‍💫

Closetbeanmuncher · 26/09/2022 23:10

I’m not surprised you feel uncomfortable at all

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