Is my mother right about potty training?

[PeterRabbitagain]

My son is 2.2 and we are planning to potty train soon. We were going to do it over summer but I was on crutches so we postponed. My mother has had a go at me saying it's pathetic that I couldn't do it already and that he's getting too old to not be potty trained.

Aside from my mothers unkindness which I'm used to, is she correct about his age? I was under the impression that between 2-3 is normal but my mother said that was wrong.

Tell her to do one. He is your child not hers. If shes so worried she can train him

It always amazes me the amount of people who think they can dictate about others kids or lives.

Fwiw my ds is older and not trained, hes just not ready
Other ds was the same.
Dd was 18m. They are all different!

2-3 is totally normal. Tbh 2.2 is actually young these days. You’ll get people on here now telling you to wait, he can’t possible be ready at 2.2 and you are setting him up for a lifetime of continence issues (you’re not). Mine both trained around that age with no issues.

Good luck 😃

I mentioned to my daughters nursery the other day that she was starting to show signs of being ready to potty train but that she still seemed so young to try. She's 18 months. Her response was that I would be mad to even think about it before 2. I always thought between 2&3 was the recommended age anyway.

Depends what age you are ? "We" were supposed to potty train earlier years ago or kids wouldn't be allowed into nursery or even playgroup my eldest was trained at 18 months it was hard though and she definitely wasn't ready, your mum sounds harsh and that isn't fair on you but I think you should be giving it a go soon so he can get into the swing of it.

Getting your DS clean and dry before school is the goal!

I had a friend who thought that at 2 my DS should have been potty trained!

It is different for each child but the important bit is that it is about control. If potty training is you judging each time he needs the toilet that is not potty trained. He will need to know he has to go and that takes time. My DS was potty trained at kindergarten and at home but that was more luck than judgement then one day at 3 it just clicked for him and he never wore another nappy again.

I don't think there is a too old point. Most children would want to be clean and dry at some point.

Might be a generational thing. My mother always comments if children are not potty trained by two. Unless it's a winter baby then 2.5 is acceptable.

No she's absolutely out of order here. He's your son and that is a perfectly acceptable age to start- although my DD was 3.5 when she was ready, had lots of comments about her not being trained and then she decided to and was dry within 4 days. Up until this point, the potty or toilet caused her great distress despite many attempts to start potty training. Her nursery actually advised me to just leave and it and not stress, wait till she's ready.
Totally your call OP, you know your son best, not your mother.

She's really talking rubbish. It's A LOT easier the later you leave it. Experienced mum of 9 speaking!

She’s wrong.

Kids are actually better off to be slightly older. Less accidents.

Dd was 3.4 when she potty trained. She cracked it in a week and has never had an accident.

Ds was nearly 4 before he was fully trained.

Everychild is different my oldest was 3 and a half before she would even attempt she hated the potty my younger 2 were 2.7 and just after turning 2 don't force it other wise it will just be stressful

My mum suggested feeding mine on the potty !

Our mothers trained earlier because they were boiling nappies over the stove etc which is a massive hassle.

My mum had a washing machine so no stove boiling but I agree terry nappies must have been such a hassle.

Tell her to bog off. (No pun intended). And if she is often unkind perhaps you might want to look after yourself first and distance yourself a bit.

FWIW my older one was not potty trained until nearly 5. he has developmental delays though. The younger one was a bit over 3.

My dd was 3 when we potty trained her. It was so much easier (had tried a couple of times prior) and a quicker process. You do it at your child's pace and ignore outdated and unwanted advise.

She's completely wrong. My DS is 4 next month and we're toilet training now, on our third week and it's going well. They're all ready at different times, just do what's right for your child.

Yeah I agree it's a generation thing. my son is two and a half and has just cracked it now but my daughter was older. My grandmother in law would always mention it when the kids had just turned one, as her boys were fully toileted by 13 months apparently 🙄 just smile and nod.

Younger training used to be commonplace, so in your mum’s day 2.2 would be on the later side. These days however most kids, at least IME seem to be closer to 3 than 2. I left my eldest until almost 3, I’ll confess it was out of convenience as we were travelling a lot. With hindsight it was a mistake and I made it a lot harder on us all as she was so stubborn and had so much bladder control she’d pee like twice a day and if we missed it then that day was a write off for progress! I’m currently reading the Oh Crap book in preparation for DS currently 19 months which seems well regarded and she recommends training between 20 and 30 months so we’re going to start next month and see how we get on.

We toilet trained ours aged 3, they aren’t ready before. They got the hang of it quickly. Tell your mother to mind her own business!

Both mine were close to 3 years old. I didn't do it until I knew they were more than ready and as a result one child didn't have a single accident and the other child had one. Honestly I'd hold out until you think he's really ready, friends of mine started too soon and it took weeks and weeks of wet and dirty pants.

That’s completely fine and normal. My first was trained at 2 years 3 months, my second at 2 years 6 months. Both were trained in a few days, though the first had more accidents than the second. Because I worked, I had to pick a time when I would be on leave -and that was Christmas for both my DC.

Mine were definitely both dry well before 2 and a half but we used washable nappies so think that might have had something to do with it.

Just wait, mine were trained in little over a day I'm lazy, we had a long haul holiday just before they (twins) turned 3 and I couldn't be dealing with long haul flights, small children and toilets so kept them in nappies. Trained as soon as we came home.

Most people I know who trained at two ish spent weeks wiping up piss and doing loads of washing.

You don't need to listen to people who are rude assholes even if they are related to you.

And, she's wrong too. Many kids take til about 3, and many who potty train really early then regress. We waited til the summer that my first son was 3 as summer was a much easier time to do it (so he was 3.5 then actually) and it was easy.

Finally, you have every right to push back or avoid her for calling you names like pathetic.

Personally I’d wait until next summer when he’s 3.

It does work for some younger ones but the older they get the easier it is. We did DS at just before 3, I took a week off, and we pretty much cracked it over a weekend. I know quite a lot of people who tried at 2 with little ones (boys mainly) and had to stop and try again later.

I’m all for making life as easy as possible!