Partner in agony.. but won't let me take him to hospital!

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Last night at around 7pm, my DP started to get chest pains similar to heartburn. We kept an eye on it, and he took some heartburn relief gaviscon to try to ease the pain (which he said didn't touch it)

Come 9pm and he was doubled over in agony.. he's been up all night, sick every 45 mins / an hour and is white as a sheet, shaking like a leaf and really clammy. His chest is agony he says, and nothing I've tried to give him has eased the pain whatsoever. His back and shoulders are now hurting, too.
I've just woken up to find him lying on the bathroom floor to try to help his back. I've never heard him be sick like he was last night.. and he's almost in tears with his chest.

For context, he had gastric sleeve surgery in February this year, and I'm concerned it could be connected to this? I wanted to take him down to A&E but he insists he doesn't need to.

I'm really concerned..

Hopefully you're in expert hands now

op, I hope your dp is ok. It sounds like a cardiac problem (I am a surgeon, paediatrics so not in the field) so you should absolutely 100% call an ambulance if you are displaying any symptoms at all of a cardiac problem. I am praying that your silence is because things are happening and you are speaking to the doctors about how best to treat him. If you are in hospital, he is in the right place. I’m here if you want to talk

I hope you called 999!

That sounds so worrying. I hope he went to hospital and I truly hope he's ok. Best wishes for a speedy recovery 🙏

Call 999. Those symptoms could be a lot of things including gall stones

My Dad was dying and refused to let us call anybody. There is a balance between respecting their wishes but also you and your feeling come into too. We decided after a point that even if my Dad didn't want any intervention it was unfair to put it all on us. Especially as my Mother is such a massive worrier. We decided we were going to call anyway as we were at a complete loss what to do. In the end he agreed for us to call anyway so we didn't have to go against his wishes.

Given the symptoms stack up like a heat attack I would call an ambulance. It’s not really negotiable is it? He is not making a sensible decision.

I wonder if he thinks he knows the cause of the symptoms ie has eaten something that disagrees with the gastric sleeve.

Regardless that does not rule out cardiac issue and the symptoms warrant an ambulance so 999

OP, you have just described my heart attack, it was a blood clot & the pain was exactly the same as your description. I called 999 & it was sorted under local anaesthetic in a 40 minute operation.
Please call 999.
Good luck!

Don't live with any regret OP. Hope he is in good hands as we speak. Thinking of you both.

Yes I agree - call 999. I hope all is ok

Surely in the time it’s taken you to post here you could of googled the symptoms and realised it’s an emergency.

Can't believe anyone here is actually stupid enough to recommend 111. For fuck sake this is a 999 call. What the fuck do people on mumsnet actually think an emergency is?!

For the record my dp had these exact symptoms last year. He had a major heart attack and survived the night before being rushed to heart surgery. He was in his twenties.

No need to be downright rude either.

There is no pussyfooting around an emergency. She calls 999 no matter what he says end of discussion.

My uncle refused to let my bro call an ambo. He died five days later of sepsis.

This sounds extremely scary. I really hope help us now coming and that he’ll be okay.

He 'won't' go, but he is putting this all on you - this is not ok. Ring for medical professionals.

999. Immediately.

Have you called 999 yet?

Ignore him and call an ambulance.

You should have called 999 last night … you Devi should have called 999 when you found him this morning … I’m struggling to understand why you didn’t do this???

For those saying 111, get a grip - this is definitely 999!

I hope you did what you were advised. We had similar situation in a family and it had tragic ending. If only they called an ambulance... Please don't make the same mistake. Step up and do it.

If he has previously said he doesn't ever want medical treatment in a serious emergency, don't call 999. Otherwise do so right away - he's probably just really afraid of hearing he's having a coronary thrombosis, which in all honesty sounds like what's happening. I hope he is getting help now.

I agree ring 999 hope you are getting sorted op thinking of you.