Partner in agony.. but won't let me take him to hospital!

[itsoneofthosethings]

Last night at around 7pm, my DP started to get chest pains similar to heartburn. We kept an eye on it, and he took some heartburn relief gaviscon to try to ease the pain (which he said didn't touch it)

Come 9pm and he was doubled over in agony.. he's been up all night, sick every 45 mins / an hour and is white as a sheet, shaking like a leaf and really clammy. His chest is agony he says, and nothing I've tried to give him has eased the pain whatsoever. His back and shoulders are now hurting, too.
I've just woken up to find him lying on the bathroom floor to try to help his back. I've never heard him be sick like he was last night.. and he's almost in tears with his chest.

For context, he had gastric sleeve surgery in February this year, and I'm concerned it could be connected to this? I wanted to take him down to A&E but he insists he doesn't need to.

I'm really concerned..

He's not thinking rationally. Call an ambulance. Sounds like it could be related to his heart.

It sounds like a gallstone attack, did he get his gallbladder out when he had the sleeve surgery?

XP had two hearts attacks and this is EXACTLY how he was both times.

999 NOW.

Definitely 999.

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In the meantime, if he's not taken ibuprofen or aspirin in the last 4h, get him to chew 2 aspirin immediately while waiting for the ambulance.

Hi OP.

I'd be near enough certain it's a gallstone attack. They are awful and much more common in people who have had gastric sleeve/bypass. Sounds silly but when I used to have gallstones and had an attack the only thing to ease it would be to vomit. Nasty I know but was totally worth doing it for the relief!

Would defo call 111 though. Hope he feels better soon.

999…ASAP…possible heart attack

(Aspirin is in case this is a heart attack, although aspirin can be recommended for gallstones too)

Call an ambulance. Also 300mg Aspirin in case it’s an MI

Give him aspirin whilst waiting for ambulance!

If his gastric sleeve is awry don't give aspirin

The fact he has survived the night suggests to me it is the gastric sleeve but I'm not medically trained.

Absolutely nothing we can do

get off mumsnet
Call an ambulance

no brainer

i should imagine it is gut related
best of luck op

And this is why you should get OFF mumsnet

I hope the silence means you’ve got help.

I hope you've called 999 by now. Don't ask his permission, just bloody do it. Whatever the reluctance or fear is this is not something he can fix lying on the bathroom floor in agony.

It sounds either cardiac or gallstone related to me. Either way, even if this wave passes, it’s likely to recur if he doesn’t get medical help. Ask him if he wants to go through it all again, possibly worse next time.

Hope tge ambulance is here now, OP. Best wishes.

I would override his wishes and call 999

Gallstones. I had gastric sleeve 4 years ago and 8 months after the op I woke up in agony thinking I was having a heart attack. Went to A&E and the discovered I was riddled with gallstones, it's a regular side affect. Had to have my gallbladder removed.

ignore him call 999 Similar happened to a friend who refused help and died. Family have to live with knowing they should have over ridden him. He is not making a rational choice.
if he refuses help when ambulance comes u will know you have done your best.
Good luck

Sometimes you have to take control in a situation like this. 999. Don’t mess about with 111.

Good grief just call 999 now!!