Partner in agony.. but won't let me take him to hospital!

[itsoneofthosethings]

Last night at around 7pm, my DP started to get chest pains similar to heartburn. We kept an eye on it, and he took some heartburn relief gaviscon to try to ease the pain (which he said didn't touch it)

Come 9pm and he was doubled over in agony.. he's been up all night, sick every 45 mins / an hour and is white as a sheet, shaking like a leaf and really clammy. His chest is agony he says, and nothing I've tried to give him has eased the pain whatsoever. His back and shoulders are now hurting, too.
I've just woken up to find him lying on the bathroom floor to try to help his back. I've never heard him be sick like he was last night.. and he's almost in tears with his chest.

For context, he had gastric sleeve surgery in February this year, and I'm concerned it could be connected to this? I wanted to take him down to A&E but he insists he doesn't need to.

I'm really concerned..

Ignore him and call 999, it's what they are there for.

If it's nothing to worry about they will reassure you both, but they could potentially save his life.

Chest pain and clamminess are heart attack symptoms.

I’m someone who eye rolls at all the posts where people ask ‘should I go to A&E with xy or z’ - but in this instance, call 999 OP. This could be very serious and needs checking urgently.

I hope you've called and ambulance and he's ok OP. The longer it goes on the more damage it could do.

This is what my flipping MIL is like. She phones us up in the middle of the night declaring she's dying. DH used to go darting up there in the middle of the night until one night I had to go with him cos he'd had a drink (and drag the kids out of bed to do it). Asked on the way if MIL had phoned an ambulance. No she had not. Had ahe pressed her panic alarm for her carers? No she had not. I turned the car around and took us all back home. I was not dragging my entire family out in the middle of the night to attend to MIL attention seeking. BTW DH is NOT medically trained or a carer in anyway whatsoever. Don't know what she bloody expected him to do.

I agree with calling 999. I hope everything works out ok.

Why does MN love 111 so much? In what instance would you call 999 if not for agonising crippling chest pain? What do you think they will do about it?

Could be a life or death situation if it’s a heart attack, for goodness sake call 999.

You have to make the decision for him. He's not well enough to decide for himself.

There’s a very outside chance this could be linked to the gastric sleeve-called dumping syndrome, however heart attack needs to be ruled out first and that can only be done via a trip to A&E.
Hope he’s seen sense

Call 999 and get an ambulance to him urgently. Don’t ask him, just do it

If you ring the gp the automated message will say, if you have severe chest pain, ring 999.

I would deem him to ill to still have capacity to make an informed decision and call an ambulance. I'd rather a grumpy partner than a dead one

Adding to the many who are saying call 999. Hope he’s ok OP.

Ring for a damn ambulance - it sounds like a heart attack!

I hope you have sought emergency help by now and that everything turns out okay.

I would have called 999 but I can see that everyone else on your thread has said the same. Sounds like a terrifying experience and I hope he’s ok.

Call 999 and show him this.
Best wishes

I hope you called 999 OP and your DH is getting the help he needs. In this situation 111 is just wasting precious time as with those symptoms they’d tell you to call an ambulance immediately. When someone is this poorly they can’t always make rational decisions so I’d use my judgement here and take the decision out of his hands. Thinking of you OP. It sounds really scary to see your DH in such a state. Hope he’s soon feeling much better.

That was my first thought too.

HCP here - call 999 whether he wants you to or not, you'll likely save his life.

I agree it sounds like gall bladder, but obviously seek help if he's in that sort of pain.

This. If I had not been able to get dh into a car would have called 999.

Definitely 999. Could be a heart attack or complications of surgery. You don’t want to mess around with either.

Call 999 don't even ask him the paramedics will sort him out