I think I've got body dysmorphia. Wedding in 35 days and I feel AWFUL in my dress

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As the title says, really.
I think I've finally come to terms with the fact I've got body dysmorphia.

I just went to my dress fitting today, with my seamstress. I loved the dress I've bought when I last tried it on! But today all I could see was fat and faults. My arms looked huge, my back was bulging out.. I had a weird area around my stomach where it was bulging out the dress.

No matter how many people tell me it looks lovely, I just can't see it let alone FEEL it.

I'm so not looking forward to my wedding, because I'm not looking forward to how I will look and how I'll feel.

I had weight loss surgery February this year, and am 6 stone down so far. For some reason I feel like I was so much happier before? Although I wasn't, and I was unhealthy.. I'm struggling to come to terms with how I look now.

I just can't stop crying 😢

I did write a post about whether or not I should buy the dress recently. I loved it in the shop, I felt so happy.

Now all I see are faults. I feel horrible. How do I get over this?! What do I do?

Do I look awful?

I have huge sympathy for you, I can only see myself as fat, regardless what anyone else says and it's a horrible feeling.

Has the dress been altered to fit you? It will feel totally different then I am sure.

Can you invest in some really good shape wear?

Crossed posts with the pictures. Fwiw you look lovely and it's a gorgeous dress.

Would it help to get a different dress? I know that’s a big step and potentially a lot of expense, but maybe it’s the dress that’s wrong rather than your body?
congratulations on your weight loss, and remember it’s the marriage to the one you love that matters in the end, not the one day of the wedding. Good luck and I hope you feel more positive soon.

I think you look beautiful

Cross posted with the photos - you look absolutely lovely!

It is a beautiful dress, fits beautiful and gives you a fabulous shape.
maybe consider some talking therapy to talk through the surgery, quick weight loss and changing body shape.

I think you look beautiful in you dress op ❤️

You look lovely and its a lovely dress!

OMG that's a beautiful dress and you look good in it.

My advice is in the LT get some help with your thoughts. In the SH, buy a lovely silk wrap and drape it over your shoulders, arms and tummy to get through the day. Walk down the aisle like in the pictures though, your future DH will want to see you!

I think you look amazing and you have done incredible to lose 6 stone since February! ❤️

OP, I think you look absolutely incredible!!! A stunning dress and you look stunning. I can understand how you must feel and it can be overwhelming. Perhaps getting a couple of counselling sessions or talking to a professional might help you overcome this in time for your big day? Your mindset here is the issue, not your body x

The dress looks lovely and congratulations on your weight loss.

You look beautiful!!! Honestly! You need to stop beating yourself up, you really do. You've done fantastically well with your weight loss and you should be proud of how good you look.

Beautiful

Not just saying this because you're struggling... But you genuinely look lovely! It's really shapely and your skin looks lovely too.

I think it fits perfectly and you look lovely. But…will us thinking that make any difference to how you feel? Is there any dress that you would feel comfortable in?

could you potentially ask them to make a lace top style thing that would go over the dress so it covered your arms and back if they’re what you’re worried about? I’ll try and find an example of what I mean.

Oh op you look lovely.

There are no bulges, it's incredibly flattering and looks like it fits you perfectly.

GORGEOUS!!!

You look absolutely lovely! There are certainly no bulges or weird areas at all! The overall impression is smooth and formal; you look classy. Your skin is really, really nice and the colour of the dress showcases this. I know I can’t tell you how to feel but you have every reason to feel beautiful and confident in that dress. Maybe your period or hormones are playing a trick on you right now.

something like this

You look gorgeous! The style of dress really suits your figure and there are no bulges. It's a wonderful fit!

I suspect you still haven't got your head round losing so much weight and in your mind your body hasn't really changed. But it really has and you will look stunning on your wedding day.

I genuinely think you look perfect. The dress fits really well and really suits you. I know what you mean though. I loved my dress but looking back at pictures I just focus on my chin(s) and arms

Oh my gosh you look so, so, so stunning. What an amazing dress - beyond elegant and classy and just beautiful. I feel jealous that I didn't look like this on my wedding day!

You look absolutely stunning! I think the veil compliments the style of dress so well. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding :)