Why are so many people lazy ?

[LovelyYellowLabrador]

Is it more they are struggling in life or they just genuinely don’t want to do stuff

People who call other people lazy are just jealous. When I see people living life a little slower I look at them as lucky people. To be able to nap midday is a luxury. Not rush for work is a dream. To have time to watch hours of t.v means more time for escapism. Why wish for everybody to be hardworking to satisfy your own benefits? If they choose to do things that are considered lazy and they are happy and prefer it then the problem is with you not them.

It’s a shit lifestyle, don’t worry. They’ll all starve or freeze soon and you will be able to stop clutching your pearls.

I read on I think it was MN, lately, that people are saying, why should they care about making small chat with people at the school gate. That effectively it didnt matter how others feel. It matters how they feel only.

I think this is the same sort of thing.
What many would call normal and nice behaviour, patterns are shifting.
People are now saying self self self. If i want to be lazy and not love my neoghbour, what business is that of anyone elses'.

What they dont understand is that they damage themselves in the process. In more ways than 1.

Me too
though I do do stuff
just add little as possible
I enjoy resting

I think I might be lazy. I work 10 hours a day, get home, make dinner, do stuff around the house but when I sit down about 8 at night that's it - I barely move til I go to bed a few hours later, I just can't be arsed. Friends are going to the cinema, theatre etc. I'm just so tired.

How do you define lazy? And how can you tell if someone is lazy or struggling with health conditions?

In general, I don't think I am a lazy person. I work part time, keep the house ticking over, get the kids to their clubs, have my own hobbies, keep in touch with friends and family and feel like my life is quite full. Some people probably view me as lazy for being part time, not pushing myself harder etc.

I know people who work harder than me, who have much busier schedules and I honestly not sure I could cope with it, I get tired. I can also be lazy as in sometimes leaving dishes for the morning, sometimes dumping my clothes on a chair rather than carrying them to the laundry basket, sometimes think I'd rather sit in the garden with a coffee rather than go for a run. Usually all based on how tired I feel. I also know people who I probably judge as lazier than me but if I'm honest they all have some sort of mental health issue that affects them, making them disordered in some way.

I'm lazy as anything when it comes to things like vacuuming or going to exercise class or cooking. But tell me I need to go to ten stores to find the right fabric for curtains or view six houses I'm your woman!

I'm lazy I spend far too much time lazing around reading judgements on Mn

I appear lazy I'm sure to people on the outside, but I'm struggling to juggle everything.
I have several mental health diagnosis, and I have chronic fatigue syndrome, and my back has been damaged since I had my son.

Life's hard both mentally and physically, and I have literally 0 support.

I'm sure it looks like I do sweet FA all day, but I am juggling everything as well as I can.

10 hours a day 5 days a week? If so, you just work too much. Of course, you don't have energy to go to the theatre.

The answer is tiredness.

I think most people the OP says are 'lazy' are tired. Different people definitely have different energy levels. I have PCOS and insulin resistance and I've been tired my whole life and it's only got worse closer to menopause.

I'd love to have energy. But I don't. Exercise seems to make little difference (other than making me more tired - though I do it anyway) and if I have a busy few days it can make me sick with a migraine or physically sick.

I wish it didn't, I look at people with boundless energy with huge envy.

I think it’s because we eat too much white bread.

I can be spectacularly lazy. Like, I just don't see the point in most boring tasks.

I do have a full time teaching job, and I absolutely do everything that I need to. But I can do a lot of that work quickly and efficiently (and sitting down!) And I would really hate for my line manager to think (realise?!) that I'm lazy.

But at home, when I don't have a boss checking up on me? I'm absolutely shocking. It's like I spend so much time thinking about AALLLLL the boring, boring shit that I don't want to do, that I'm exhausted by it before I've even started. I find the physical element of housework very tiring as well (I'm a maths teacher, not a PE teacher!)

And sometimes I really do desperately want to get a task done, but I just literally can't. I don't really know how to describe it, or why I can't do it, but I can be sat at the kitchen table in tears because I need to fold the laundry and put it away, but it just seems like too big of a job, and I honestly can't get started on it.

"The answer is tiredness.
I think most people the OP says are 'lazy' are tired."

Nah. If you don't do anything you don't get really tired (illnesses aside). Bored is more like it and boredom makes you sleepy.

I feel lazy, but I work four jobs and run a household with various complicated people and pets in it. I come home from work, feed everyone, make sure everyone is clean and then go to bed and watch crap on telly for a couple of hours before bed. I’m just tired because apart from those 120mins most nights, I’m busy busy. I hate my life.

Bluemumdays

You have ADHD

I’m one extreme to the other. I’m either blitzing my house organising my entire life at 3am or I just don’t do anything unless absolutely necessary. Idk why, I know my life would be easier if I kept on top of things, but here I am still doing the same thing. I’ve always worked or been in education though bar 3 months out of both when I dropped out of uni.

I have no idea why I am like this though. It frustrates me but it’s like a mental block. And my parents are by no means lazy, they’re very different from each other but neither are anywhere near lazy.

I worked full time, cooked kept the house reasonable, gardened, had hobbies and volunteered, but since I turned 65, I seem to have ground slowly to a halt, I got a dog after my husband died, as I was not getting enough exercise, so at least I get out every day, but sometimes all I do is walk the dog, the garden is overgrown and the house is untidy, I seem to have lost motivation. I am now 71, not unhappy, or bored, so I don't think I am depressed, perhaps I am just truly lazy?

People are tired - life is stressful and exhausting.
Also, there's no moral superiority in being busy. The aim in life is to be happy - for some people that means always being on the go, for others it means eating bonbons and watching Netflix. Neither is 'better'.

Obviously people need to meet their obligations in life, so making sure their kids are supported, fed, living in clean homes and so on. And if you are being paid to work, you have an obligation to do your best. Taking the piss and allowing others to pick up your slack at work is wrong. But beyond that, there's nothing intrinsically bad in leading a slower more relaxed life.

I appear lazy but in reality I have multiple invisible disabilities (autism, Ehlers danlos syndrome, POTS etc).
I hate things like this, some people forget some disabilities aren't visible and think it must be in their head. I'd love to work, my brain never stops bouncing around but it's my body that just can't.

I think it’s difficult to quantify what laziness is if your not living with someone 24/7 and then you only have your own parameters to judge by anyway.

Ie. I probably think someone is lazy if they don’t weed their front drive (or worse weed killer it and don’t remove the debris) whereas you might not mind.

You probably think someone’s lazy if they don’t cut their lawn - but I quite like unkept lawn so wouldn’t think the same 🤷‍♀️

I was into the idea of Taoism until I saw the bit about inaction. Not something I can do with kids and a FT job.

Maybe they are practising Taoists? 😀

I am horribly busy when I work and so in my down time and on holiday I like nothing more than being lazy.

I get up late, mooch around, do some stuff but am quite lazy and love it. I live to be lazy

The op is lazy.
The original short post. Lazy.
The two or three times they have posted. Lazy.
The actual short content of the posts, not bothering to expand on anything or what they define laziness as etc etc. Lazy.

Lazy lazy lazy lazy lazy op. Definitely you could’ve put more effort into your post.

I also find competitively busy people really annoying too. As if it's somehow saintly to never sit down. They're also always moaning about how busy and put upon they are while not recognising that most of the things they do are down to their own choice.