Why are so many people lazy ?

[LovelyYellowLabrador]

Is it more they are struggling in life or they just genuinely don’t want to do stuff

Because I don't feel the need to justify my existence through competitive busy-ness

Also invisible illnesses which you can't see, I won't tell you about but massively limit me

Also I have kids who don't sleep so i am tired all the damn time

I may look lazy to some.
I'm actually physically tired, grieving and demotivated.
Some days life just feels very hard.

This ...you don't know what is going on in other people's heads so stop being so bloody judgemental!!

I don’t know what you mean by lazy. That’s subjective. And usually comes loaded with negative connotations and judgement to boot.

What is laziness to one person might be productive to others. And over-industriousness is often taken to a fault, especially when driven by anxiety or fear of judgement from others, even if completely subconscious (the type that needs everything to be just so and can’t sit down for more than ten minutes without thinking of something else that just has to be done).

So, OP, what is your definition of laziness? And would you, therefore define yourself as not lazy?

I mean, lazy is kind of relative.

Some people think anyone who is working for someone else is just 'too lazy' to start their own business, because they think everyone should want to be entrepeneurial when there are many people that life choice doesn't suit at all. (NB this an attitude that really pisses me off).

I know for sure the less people do, the less they want to do. When they haven’t done much for a long time, people can lose confidence and not want to even try. It’s a vicious cycle.

I'm lazy - apart from my full time job.

When I'm not on the clock for my employer, I like resting, and being free of obligations.

There's no virtue in being busy. Do less, think more.

Depends what you mean by lazy.

One man's laziness is another's energy efficiency

I work with neurodivergent adults, and I think many more people than we realise (certainly way more people than are diagnosed) struggle significantly with executive function problems, debilitating anxiety and fatigue. This can look like ‘laziness’ in the workplace - missing deadlines, frequent absence, being disorganised. And yes, it impacts negatively on others, and that is a problem. But it’s not the same thing as just not trying hard enough, or not being arsed.

I also think, though, that ‘laziness’ is in the eye of the beholder. There are those who would say it’s lazy not to bleach your doorframes and iron your underpants. People who don’t do that aren’t lazy, though, they just have different priorities.

It depends how you laziness, OP.

We all have different expectations about what we're meant to fill our days with - what's the minimum for someone to be branded "lazy" in your view?

It depends how you define laziness, OP.

I think lockdown have many people a feeling of “can’t be bothered”. I know it did me. I do fight against it though and also have no choice but to bother as I’m running a business and a household. But I think that “can’t be bothered feeling” is really hanging around.

Some people are just plain lazy. But I think for others they are depressed or are naturally just lower energy people.

I would tell you but I'm too lazy to.

Congrats! This is just the sort of bigotry the op was searching for.

I'm just quoting this because I'm too lazy to think of my own response .....

Invisible illnesses? I manage to work FT 40hrs and exercise and keep the house fairly clean but that's it
Socialising goes out the window as I'm too tired for it

DH has a lot less energy than me. Not exactly sure why, but when we got fit bits he has a lot less rem and deep sleep. I also did a lot more sport at school than him. Dunno if correlated. He is smarter than me and earns more though.

Im not judging at all if anything I’m a lazy person too
but I have no idea why

What a strange question. There isn't a one size fits all reason for laziness.

Sorry. Not like the person in your OP, but I'm highly educated in a low level job. I have had well paid career roles but I hated it.

I don't want responsibility or challenge. I want routine. I want to come in, settle my cases and go home.

Don't get me wrong, I am very conscious about my role. But I don't want career progression and I have to actively turn down projects. I really can't be bothered with the hassle.

I suppose I like being excellent at things I find easy. Stretching myself is stressful and not worth the effort.

I think some of it is habit forming. There was a mum at primary who was lazy, but I think she always had been and others have facilitated it.
She’s never really worked. Her mum has always picked up so much, like cooking, she goes there for dinner. She spent a lot of time trying to get others to take her DC, so basically she could watch TV. She acted like watching TV series was her job and something she needed to get done. She lives one minute from the school but her daughter had more lates than anyone else in the year group, started to complain about the walk to and from school and tried to see if someone else would pick her DD up on the way past.
Complains she has no time to get things done but isn’t doing anything. Try’s to get others to help her do anything or drive her about.

I would think there was something wrong with her but she could be extremely motivated to get things she wanted. With Christmas shopping she’s a woman on a mission, up and out every day early.

Depression and anxiety literally leave people completely deflated and unable to function.
Those who suffer either or both will & do try to soldier on through it but all that does is cause burn out!
Been there & done that; never ever again; my health physical and mental mean more than being a people pleaser. The sooner you realise this the better.
As for work I gave up giving a fuck when I realised my job would be advertised in the same newspaper as my obituary. People just take & take & take until there's nothing else to give.
The biggest thing that struck me is not one of the bastards that kept on taking were anywhere to be found when I really needed it.